Anyone else trans here who have reasons to be trans?

[Scythe]

Alright, maybe controversial but just need everyone to hear me out.

Firstly, I am trans, and I have reasons to be. Though I think(?) most don't have a reason to be. They just are trans.

I won't state my reasons to be trans, I'll just say it came attached to the identity I chose for myself. Being trans is like the side effects of a medication. While I am choosing to take the medication, it doesn't mean I like the side effects. I am simply choosing to keep taking the meds because I feel I am a better person this way.

I just want to know if anyone else have any tangible reason to be trans. Can be any reason, big or small.

Lastly, disclaimer just in case, I'm not here to debate whether I'm trans or not or listen to anyone suggesting I change my mindset or identity. This is what I want, even if it means I have to be trans.

 

[FinalDawn]

I am trans as well, the reason is because I felt very uncomfortable being seen as a boy/man in society, and knew I wanted to be a girl from a very young age (five years old, youngest I can recall). I'm able to pass as a woman in daily society with little issue these days, thanks to a weak male puberty, a rounder face, hormones, and voice training.

At its very core I believe it's a genetic thing, where you greatly prefer to be recognized as one gender over the other. It's not necessarily that there's a concrete "reason" in the same way that there's not a concrete reason for being gay, it's just something that happens. Just, instead of a sexual preference, it's a preference of gender presentation and perception.

 

[venerated-vader]

If I can ask, do you mean that identifying as trans is something you have to do to better align yourself with your identity? Whereas you wouldn't NEED to if you decided to identify yourself differently?

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

I was always trans, but we have Dissociative Identity Disorder, so not all alters present as "trans" internally.

But, since I'm the host and most of said alters are male (we are bodily AFAB), we collectively identify as trans. We experience transness, whether said alter identifies as a cis male in an AFAB body or not. And once we medically transition, even the female alters will experience transness by virtue of being in a "noticeably" trans body.

 

[Unsure and Useless]

I'm not too versed in LGBTQ+ identities, but based on what I remember the last time I looked into it, my identity best fits a trans non-binary individual (genderfluid adjacent, to be specific), though I tend to just make my gender identity the embodiment of "some secret third thing"

Outside of identifying this way because it's just who I am, my reason is that I simply don't care too much about gender. If I want to be a hyperfeminine girly girl one moment, I will, and if I choose to be a hypermasculine macho man the next, I also will. In other words, I am capricious with my gender on top of everything else in my life

 

[Scythe]

If I can ask, do you mean that identifying as trans is something you have to do to better align yourself with your identity? Whereas you wouldn't NEED to if you decided to identify yourself differently?

Yes, that's what I mean and I like my current identity enough to not want to change it even if it means I have to be trans.

 

[MAKE IT STOP!]

I thought of being a boy since at least 6th grade. I also felt happier at the idea of being male. Unfortunately I don't pass as male, but my partners want to help change that.

 

[FinalDawn]

Yes, that's what I mean and I like my current identity enough to not want to change it even if it means I have to be trans.

I can sort of relate. I definitely have a sense of reluctance and shame to be trans. But the internal feelings are so, so incredibly strong that I can't ignore them. The thought of detransitioning and living as a man makes me physically nauseous. It is my absolute worst nightmare.

What is your identity, if I might ask?

 

[venerated-vader]

Yes, that's what I mean and I like my current identity enough to not want to change it even if it means I have to be trans.

I'd say honestly this is a distinction without a difference! In my opinion, people don't choose to be trans, they choose to socially transition (or at least accept that they are) if that makes sense. People are great at denying their personal truths. Accepting one's own identity is the most important part of self-discovery.

Example: If you like baseball, you'll like it whether you call yourself a sports fan or not. You could never watch a game, avoid it forever, hate the sports industry and talk very loudly about how boring sports are. But that doesn't mean you don't like baseball, it just means you're repressing the fact that you do.

People who are gay are still attracted to the same gender regardless of whether or not they admit it. Someone who's asexual is still asexual even if they have lots and lots and lots of sex. Etc!

So I don't think you're choosing to be trans-- I think you're choosing to embrace your identity and in doing so, are embracing the fact that you are trans. Even if you never tell anyone, or choose to call yourself something other than 'transgender'. Some nonbinary folx don't consider themselves trans, for example. Some people feel they don't have a gender, or that their experience is fluid and thus, subject to constant change. The word they use to define their identity is up to them; but the core of who they are stays the same. The choice lies in what you do with that reality.

 

[Scythe]

I can sort of relate. I definitely have a sense of reluctance and shame to be trans. But the internal feelings are so, so incredibly strong that I can't ignore them. The thought of detransitioning and living as a man makes me physically nauseous. It is my absolute worst nightmare.

What is your identity, if I might ask?

One of the rare transmasc people online :D

I'd say honestly this is a distinction without a difference! In my opinion, people don't choose to be trans, they choose to socially transition (or at least accept that they are) if that makes sense. People are great at denying their personal truths. Accepting one's own identity is the most important part of self-discovery.

Example: If you like baseball, you'll like it whether you call yourself a sports fan or not. You could never watch a game, avoid it forever, hate the sports industry and talk very loudly about how boring sports are. But that doesn't mean you don't like baseball, it just means you're repressing the fact that you do.

People who are gay are still attracted to the same gender regardless of whether or not they admit it. Someone who's asexual is still asexual even if they have lots and lots and lots of sex. Etc!

So I don't think you're choosing to be trans-- I think you're choosing to embrace your identity and in doing so, are embracing the fact that you are trans. Even if you never tell anyone, or choose to call yourself something other than 'transgender'. Some nonbinary folx don't consider themselves trans, for example. Some people feel they don't have a gender, or that their experience is fluid and thus, subject to constant change. The word they use to define their identity is up to them; but the core of who they are stays the same. The choice lies in what you do with that reality.

It's more I have concrete reasons to be trans that makes me say I chose this. From what I've heard most other trans people have no reason to be trans. They just are. I always had reasons, that I will not discuss, reasons that stem from my identity and personality. This means I can see it being highly likely that if my identity was changed I will lose the reasons to be trans.

I'm also saying I chose this because I don't want to change, despite being capable of it, everyone is. Just like being suicidal, I honestly never tried much to recover and frankly don't want to. Due to my philosophy that undergoing significant change means I will also spiritually die. That and society just kinda shit to live in rn.