Help Any way to lessen the pain for parents

[GirlOfThought06]

They know I'm struggling and I know they'd be devastated if I killed my self and I don't want to make them sad but I'm such an ugly pathetic failure of a daughter who isn't allowed normalcy so I just wanna kill myself so I don't have to keep going through this perpetual cycle anymore
So how can I lessen the blow I need the ultimate guide how can I go missing without hurting them how can I like lessen the blow weeks or months in advance to make them care less or even hate me so when I die they'll not hurt as bad or be super happy I died

 

[Abandoned Phantom]

I wish I could say there is. But I really don't think so. I tried to make mine look like an accident. I was hoping that would lessen the pain. The amount of times my mom has told me something along the lines of "I prayed every day, thanking God that you're still here!" we arent a religious family btw. And shes said to other people "I am soo thankful that he's still here, we got soooo lucky". Based on that, and assuming they love you, I don't believe there is a way to lessen it. They've loved you from the moment they knew about your existance. So to have that taken away one day. I think it will always hurt. The tiniest slivers of silver lining though, and its not really the same, but did you grow up with pets? dogs or cats or anything? if you did, they've died right? have they lost any of their family members? parents or anything? My moms dad died 15 years ago. She still misses him, but she isnt sad about it. It hurt for a while, but eventually it stopped hurting. They will eventually stop hurting.
I wish I could bring better news. I don't know your relationship with your parents, or your situation, but I would argue against trying to make them hate you. I doubt they would ever be happy that you died.

 

[GirlOfThought06]

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I wish I could say there is. But I really don't think so. I tried to make mine look like an accident. I was hoping that would lessen the pain. The amount of times my mom has told me something along the lines of "I prayed every day, thanking God that you're still here!" we arent a religious family btw. And shes said to other people "I am soo thankful that he's still here, we got soooo lucky". Based on that, and assuming they love you, I don't believe there is a way to lessen it. They've loved you from the moment they knew about your existance. So to have that taken away one day. I think it will always hurt. The tiniest slivers of silver lining though, and its not really the same, but did you grow up with pets? dogs or cats or anything? if you did, they've died right? have they lost any of their family members? parents or anything? My moms dad died 15 years ago. She still misses him, but she isnt sad about it. It hurt for a while, but eventually it stopped hurting. They will eventually stop hurting.
I wish I could bring better news. I don't know your relationship with your parents, or your situation, but I would argue against trying to make them hate you. I doubt they would ever be happy that you died.

I just can't keep doing this it all hurts so much I just want to be a normal girl but every day is a reminder I don't belong and that if I was just a normal girl everyone would be so much better off and if there was a way to make it stop without killing myself id take it but there isn't it won't stop I won't ever get to be a normal girl and it hurts me so much

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

The only way to even somewhat lessen the pain is to leave a note and be absolutely clear that they couldn't have done anything to prevent your death and that they didn't cause it.

 

[Pale_Rider]

Yeah. As had been said. Idk that the fallout from death can be mitigated. Death is death. Maybe the best you can do is control the timing. Some people revenge suicide. You wouldn't want to do that. Go out after they have done something good for you would be the clearest message it had nothing to do with them would be my guess. Though there would probably still be a lot of thoughts on what could have been differently.