Venting Angry Without Reasons

[henryM4]

Has anyone ever felt this way? Whenever you interact with other people—whether you're back in school like before or you're at your current job—why are they so ridiculously obsessed with being angry? Seriously, it seems like their mood range is just two settings: either they're laughing—sometimes outright mocking others, which inevitably makes people upset—or they're furious, and that fury is always aimed right at somebody else. If someone genuinely messes up and does something wrong to you, why can't you just address it calmly? Why does it always have to be a full-on explosion of rage? Sure, we could get angry back at them, but personally, I'd rather just stay quiet, because dealing with someone that temperamental? It's a nightmare. Is it possible they're actually mad at us for something as trivial as not liking us? Like, for real—every single time you're asked to collaborate on something, or even when you just try to make small talk, they immediately snap. And if they're ordering you to do this or that—"Do this for me, bring that to me"—it's always with this aggressive tone, as if they're permanently enraged. Why must they resort to anger all the time? Why are they the only ones permitted to lose their temper? Why are they constantly in this perpetual state of rage? Are they literal demons or something?

Honestly, I want to just punch these types of people in the face, but the repercussions would be massive. The social dynamic here is awful: if one person gets in trouble, an entire army swoops in to defend them. Like, seriously, it's only the two of us who have a problem, so why on earth are all your so-called loyal and "ride-or-die" friends hopping on the bandwagon and getting mad at me too? Are they under some obligation to back you up that hard? Are they that unconditionally solid with you—that even if you told them to eat literal garbage, they'd join in and chow down without question? It's infuriating—this random, baseless anger just gives you a massive headache. From something as insignificant as "I don't like this person" to unleashing a full-blown tirade, they'll drag their whole crew into it, even if those friends don't even know us. It's so over-the-top, like we've entered some kind of meta era where "building your character" apparently means erupting in incomprehensible anger for no reason whatsoever​

 

[Forever Sleep]

I know the term is banded about a lot but, if they have other people on board, it could be a narcissistic symptom. (They call them 'flying monkeys'.) I don't think everyone is that agressive (hopefully.) But, it sucks when you realise the people you're having to work with are.

It truly is such a headache. I've been lucky enough to not have that many truly aggressive people to work around. I have worked with people who were very temperamental though. They could be charming one day and then, outright cantankerous the next. I sometimes just used to wish they'd just stay bad tempered. That way, you'd know what to expect!

Really though, it's exhausting when all you want to do is do your job to the best of your ability and go home but, they seem to want to fight as well!

 

[henryM4]

I know the term is banded about a lot but, if they have other people on board, it could be a narcissistic symptom. (They call them 'flying monkeys'.) I don't think everyone is that agressive (hopefully.) But, it sucks when you realise the people you're having to work with are.

It truly is such a headache. I've been lucky enough to not have that many truly aggressive people to work around. I have worked with people who were very temperamental though. They could be charming one day and then, outright cantankerous the next. I sometimes just used to wish they'd just stay bad tempered. That way, you'd know what to expect!

Really though, it's exhausting when all you want to do is do your job to the best of your ability and go home but, they seem to want to fight as well!

So that's exactly what I'm talking about, right? Why do there always have to be people like me, and I'm the one who ends up getting the short end of the stick here (and it's not just me—I'm talking about my whole crew of friends, too)? It feels like we're stuck in this never-ending social circle that keeps repeating the same pattern, which is why they're constantly losing their shit over the smallest things. But if you really stop and think about it, after observing them more closely, it's just how they are by nature: one of them seems to have this twisted hobby of publicly criticizing or commenting on other people all the time, another one's already chain-smoking and drinking alcohol even though they're still underage (apparently because they have some powerful connections backing them up), and then there's that third person who just can't resist pushing everyone else around—"You do this, you do that"—especially when it comes to finishing up some group project or whatever it is where we're forced to work alongside them

Man, it's an absolute headache—seriously, it's a fucking nightmare. Especially since their network of protectors is so huge it's practically a small army. They're absolute idiots, and their defenders are equally clueless, so of course they all band together like some kind of clueless squad. It's like being trapped among a herd of morons—and honestly, most people around here seem like morons anyway, considering that my country is basically a giant, problematic dumpster fire. What can I even do about it? It's almost impossible to make any move without getting caught up in their bullshit. Lately, I've been trying my best to just STAY COMPLETELY SILENT about everything, hoping that if I don't give them anything to latch onto, they'd stop bothering me. But guess what? It never works. They still come at me non-stop, as if they've decided that anyone who doesn't blindly follow their every whim must automatically hate them—guess they assume that just because I don't bow down to their demands, I'm their sworn enemy or something. It's infuriating. I swear, sometimes I just want to punch these assholes in the face—and not just because they're jerks, but because dealing with their random, irrational anger is so goddamn exhausting. It's not like I'm some arrogant jerk thinking I'm better than everyone else—no, but when you really look at it objectively, everyone here seems to have some kind of problem, and one of the biggest ones is this completely unfounded temper that they're constantly unleashing. By the way, I really appreciate you taking the time to respond. Sometimes my strategy for coping with all this is just to "let things happen," and then remind myself: "Hey, I'm not the only one dealing with this shit—if they can somehow manage to live through it, why can't I?" So yeah, I do my best to stay as chill as humanly possible, even though deep down I'm still simmering with frustration and stress​