am i the only one who doesnt want a funeral?

[bussy]

i dont know, i just want to be erased from this world, without any trace of being here.
i wonder if its possible to request no funeral to be held for me?
i never liked funerals, but i know that its selfish as funerals are also a place to let others grieve.

just wish that after i die, people move on with their daily lives as if i never existed.
yet that is simply impossible.
i want to be forgotten, a funeral would only be a reminder.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I personally don't care that much whether I get a funeral or not as I'd be dead but, if I had to choose, I think I'd either choose not getting a funeral or getting cremated. I'd choose the former because I don't have a desire to be remembered and I'd rather just have my body rot in a random place that nobody can access; I'd also choose the latter because I have an irrational fear of humans discovering a way to resurrect a person who isn't fully decomposed back to life and I get scared at the idea of me being forced to come back to life against my consent. I know that pro lifers would be crazy enough to force the dead to be alive again if such technology existed.

Though, I think that the more dominant thought for me is not having a funeral. Like you, I'd rather be forgotten too. I don't understand those who have a desire to be remembered. That's always been strange to me

 

[FuneralCry]

I wouldn't as well, in my case I just want to be forgotten about like I never existed at all. If it's up to me I'd choose to permanently erase my existence.

 

[SoulWhisperer]

Unanimous voting, damn...

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I won't be having a funeral. First, no family, no friends, anyway. Second, I have it in my will that none of my assets are to go towards any funeral costs. I prepaid for cremation, and already have a burial plot, so other than the cost to engrave my date of death on the monument, and the cost to lift the stone to place my ashes, which will be paid for by my assets, that's it. As soon as the coroner releases my body to the crematorium and my remains get cremated, it should be right to the cemetery I go.

 

[SleepingBliss]

I plan to go into the middle of the woods, never be found, just decompose and give back to nature

 

[avalonisburning]

Funerals are for the living. With that in mind, I would want one, as long as it gives them closure and helps them move on.

 

[Kali_Yuga13]

I would like to die in the desert and have the birds pick my bones. I do think it would be cool to bury a treasure and leave a map so that whoever finds me can have mini adventure and I'll become a local legend like Chester Copperpot in the Goonies.

 

[lostintheloop]

It is weird the idea of people coming together about me without me. Wonder what picture of my they paint compared to what actually am. But at end of day as someone above, funerals are for the living. I guess it'll bring my parents closure and comfort so whatever helps them

In answer to can you request no funeral. Yes could state in will or pre-pay a plan for direct cremation no service .

 

[sash]

Dont want to be found so no funeral.
Just crawl away somewhere to return to nature.
At least I can be useful & feed some animals & bugs :)

 

[undecided]

I've already told a family member that I want a direct cremation.

 

[silentnights56]

Funerals are for the living, not the dead. To me personally, it is totally useless and redundant.

 

[a.dream.of.a.dream]

I would be gone and it no longer matters what I want, outside of any last wishes I may have written down. I def don't want to be sealed up in a boxand placed underground. I would also wish for a direct cremation to keep costs down. But any funeral/service would be for other people to start to process and move on.

 

[tinyhotot]

I dont want one either. It may be weird but I kinda want to just be in the woods and decompose there. I dont want to be disturbed. I dont want a casket or flowers or tears and ceremonies. Just my body resting in the woods, covered by weeds and grass and shrooms. It sounds peaceful.

 

[samdocheon]

I want to be burnt but can't say that to my family

 

[yxmux]

On one hand, I want to disappear with no legal traces of me over existing. On the other hand, I have the urge to intentionally traumatize and damage people with my CTB, which kind of attracts me to more violent and gruesome means especially being young/small even though theoretically I would want a peaceful death. I guess either way, I wouldn't want a funeral.

 

[Minsu]

Same here! I'll leave a note for my family where I'll ask them to not make a funeral for me.
I've recently ditched 99% of my friends (they were very toxic) so I would have max 10 people on my funeral.. that would be awkward so I prefer not having any funeral

 

[PixelPlant]

me too in fact I don't want my body to be found

 

[cait_sith]

I wrote in my living will that I don't want a funeral, mainly because there would only be one person attending who might drag along some people, I imagine it to be very awkward to attend such a small funeral, especially for a suicide death, I hope they adhere to my wish and those few people save themselves the energy and avoid this pointless exercise.

 

[Forever Sleep]

You can pre-pay for a direct cremation or burial to ensure you don't have a funeral- although comparitively, it costs more than a direct cremation paid for at the point of death. They take inflation into account- they probably aren't expecting someone to use the service straight away.

Or, you could leave wishes with a solicitor or in a note left behind. I suppose the last option really relies on whoever receives the note- whether they are likely to honour your wishes.

For me, it's not that I'm utterly opposed to the idea. I think funerals can serve an important function- to give people closure. I'm not at all keen on the religious side of it though. For me though, I'm largely estranged from everyone. Most of my friends and family I haven't seen in 5, 10, some 20+ years. I live hundreds of miles away. I don't want them to feel obliged to travel all that way for some dry service. I kind of think most probably wouldn't anyway! So- it just seems like a waste. I'd rather them remember me however they wish to in their own way.

 

[Gangrel]

I dont want one either. It may be weird but I kinda want to just be in the woods and decompose there. I dont want to be disturbed. I dont want a casket or flowers or tears and ceremonies. Just my body resting in the woods, covered by weeds and grass and shrooms. It sounds peaceful.

Sounds beautiful and peaceful, i think i want to ctb like that as well, just slumber and becoming one with nature

 

[Downandout82]

i dont know, i just want to be erased from this world, without any trace of being here.
i wonder if its possible to request no funeral to be held for me?
i never liked funerals, but i know that its selfish as funerals are also a place to let others grieve.

just wish that after i die, people move on with their daily lives as if i never existed.
yet that is simply impossible.
i want to be forgotten, a funeral would only be a reminder.

i have paid to not have a funeral and just be cremated with no one there so you are not alone in this am just waiting for the right time to ctb

 

[kinderbueno]

I wouldn't mind having a funeral, although I don't see the point in it because I'm pretty forgettable and I'm not sure my own parents would care enough to arrange one. Being cremated and then having my ashes spread somewhere does sound appealing because I'd go back to nature which sounds...comforting? I'm not sure how to explain

 

[tinyhotot]

Sounds beautiful and peaceful, i think i want to ctb like that as well, just slumber and becoming one with nature

I hope when we move along, we both get the comfy moss beds we want. Make sure you go peacefully please!!

 

[untothedepths]

i am a secret third option of i dont even care. tbh the money could be given to charity or something instead. just throw my body in a woodchipper bro

 

[Agon321]

If I'm dead, I don't think I'd care much.
If I had to choose, I'd like to be cremated, and I'd like my ashes to be scattered somewhere nice.

At the end of the day, though, it doesn't really matter to me.

After I die, I won't need my current body anymore, so anything can happen to it.
I'm not a religious person, so I don't believe my body has to be in a "holy" place, etc.

I'm more interested in what happens after I die than what happens to my body.

 

[J&L383]

i dont know, i just want to be erased from this world, without any trace of being here.
i wonder if its possible to request no funeral to be held for me?
i never liked funerals, but i know that its selfish as funerals are also a place to let others grieve.

just wish that after i die, people move on with their daily lives as if i never existed.
yet that is simply impossible.
i want to be forgotten, a funeral would only be a reminder.

What bussy said.

 

[juxta errata]

I dont want to die. I want to have never have existed. I hate my very existence and how it negatively affects others. but alas, that cant be possible. Suicide is the closest thing to that

 

[CatLvr]

Oh no. Me neither. I have willed my body to science. (There is a major medical school in my state. I was fortunate enough to be able to attend to some autopsies while in training of people who had willed their bodies to the University.) Given all the surgeries I have had and all the injuries I've sustained in my life -- along with the chronic physiological deformities that cause/exacerbate my pain issues -- there is a class of students that is gonna see a lot -- A LOT of stuff only a medical examiner might get to see during their career.

 

[SteamaHorns]

I feel like a funeral held in my memory would end up leaving a really uncomfortable feeling of dread and hopelessness to anyone that attended it, so no. Out of all my friends, I was probably one of the more hopeful and idealist ones, and ironically was the one that pretty much did nothing with their life. I imagine a funeral held for me would just end up being extremely awkward due to how little that could actually be said about me. Weirdly I also just don't want my death to be a big deal, or like I just don't want people to be too affected by the news of my passing. In a perfect world, everyone I know would just think that I randomly disappeared without a trace, without even considering the possibility that I left the world on my own volition.