A psych ward assistant said something very offensive to me

[Custos]

I'm on a psych ward, and an lower level member of staff said something to me that was completely inappropriate and offensive towards where I come from. They were most likely just talking without thinking, but it did reveal their true beliefs and what was said was said. I reported it and I was given an apology on behalf of the whole unit, their shifts are being postponed until further notice and there is going to be an investigation.

The thing is I was asked what I would like to happen, and I don't know what to do. I don't want what I say to result for them lossing their job, but then again what was implied was completely unacceptable and I don't want someone how has had traumatic experiences from the past have the same thing happen to them. If I was replying to a thread like this it would be a lot easier as I would be able to look at the facts and the principle of the matter. I don't know what to do, I don't want to be the reason for someone's hardship, I don't want to feel guilty.

 

[Konnsz]

think about every scenario and think howwould you feel?

was it the first time of this happening?
does that person looks he regret what he do?

is it the first time this has happened?

 

[meso]

I'm on a psych ward, and an lower level member of staff said something to me that was completely inappropriate and offensive towards where I come from. They were most likely just talking without thinking, but it did reveal their true beliefs and what was said was said. I reported it and I was given an apology on behalf of the whole unit, their shifts are being postponed until further notice and there is going to be an investigation.

The thing is I was asked what I would like to happen, and I don't know what to do. I don't want what I say to result for them lossing their job, but then again what was implied was completely unacceptable and I don't want someone how has had traumatic experiences from the past have the same thing happen to them. If I was replying to a thread like this it would be a lot easier as I would be able to look at the facts and the principle of the matter. I don't know what to do, I don't want to be the reason for someone's hardship, I don't want to feel guilty.

maybe you can ask if there's some "training" (english is not my first language sorry), like an educational class ? that they can take to really make amends, get what the problem is from A to Z, and maximize the probability that they will not do it (or something similar) again

 

[Custos]

think about every scenario and think howwould you feel?

was it the first time of this happening?
does that person looks he regret what he do?

is it the first time this has happened?

It's not really about how I would feel, it's about what is right. It's not something in the past, not a case of forgive and forget, there attitude and views are in the present. I haven't been here long, and I keep to myself. They haven't been on shift since. I'm just worrying that I have misinterpreted what was said, and don't want someone to unfairly lose their job because of it. But then again I wasn't that offended by it, I knew it wasn't acceptable for them to say it, it's over people that have stated just how unacceptable it was. I'm just worrying I am leading them and misremembering.

maybe you can ask if there's some "training" (english is not my first language sorry), like an educational class ? that they can take to really make amends, get what the problem is from A to Z, and maximize the probability that they will not do it (or something similar) again

That was what I was thinking, but everyone has the right to their views. What they need training on is tolerating people you don't like and not treating them any differently, that and being aware of what one says.

The thing is though, what was said was extremely offensive, inexcusably offensive to those who are quite a bit older than myself. I could if I want make a fuss about it and cost them their job, but then again they might have dug their own grave regardless.

 

[notcomingbackatall]

It's happy to me so many times when I've been verbally abused on a psychiciatric ward most of the time you won't find out what the staff member said during the investigation and the hospital just apologise to make it go away I can affirmatively say all the times I've been abused I've insisted to know what the other person said and they always deny it in my experience.

 

[rosaemundi]

It's absolutely insane that you're even considering the possibility of having them fired from their job and ruining their lives over a stupid one-off comment. It's incredibly puerile and cruel, live and let live mate. Be tolerant of other people's imperfection.

 

[Custos]

It's happy to me so many times when I've been verbally abused on a psychiciatric ward most of the time you won't find out what the staff member said during the investigation and the hospital just apologise to make it go away I can affirmatively say all the times I've been abused I've insisted to know what the other person said and they always deny it in my experience.

Just an update, the hospital said they didn't mean anything by it, the member of staff genuinely apologised and I accepted it. They just stupidly said the wrong thing.

It's absolutely insane that you're even considering the possibility of having them fired from their job and ruining their lives over a stupid one-off comment. It's incredibly puerile and cruel, live and let live mate. Be tolerant of other people's imperfection.

That is what was upsetting me, I didn't want anything to happen to them, I was just acting as if it was someone else as I didn't want anyone else to be at the end of abuse. Putting in the complaint really upset me, but it's all good now. They never got suspended, they just had one shift moved around.

Thing is though that I've been at the receiving end of so much abuse and incompetency that I just don't trust anyone.

 

[Unrecognizable7]

Just an update, the hospital said they didn't mean anything by it, the member of staff genuinely apologised and I accepted it. They just stupidly said the wrong thing.

That is what was upsetting me, I didn't want anything to happen to them, I was just acting as if it was someone else as I didn't want anyone else to be at the end of abuse. Putting in the complaint really upset me, but it's all good now. They never got suspended, they just had one shift moved around.

Thing is though that I've been at the receiving end of so much abuse and incompetency that I just don't trust anyone.

I disagree with what has been said here, you are valid in your feelings, their only job is literally to not upset you, normal people I can understand but psych ward people really should be extremely careful and feel sorry and have to apologize if they say something wrong, they are the last ditch effort for human lives. But if they meant no harm and otherwise seem like they are doing a good job, then of course they should not lose their job but I dont think that is what you want. I emphasize with what you said there at the end and every therapist will tell you to stop making excuses for other people and start making excuses for yourself. You have a right to be pissed about that.