
rainwillneverstop
Global Mod | Serious Health Hazard
- Jul 12, 2022
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This is meant as a support thread, for those users who are 50+ years old.
Rules of the general forum applies.
Rules of the general forum applies.
Just to remind mods to add this to the list of megathreads in the "Peer Support Megathreads Compilation" as its not there yet.This is meant as a support thread, for those users who are 50+ years old.
Rules of the general forum applies.
That sounds pretty rough, Thomas599. Not much support, major scary surgery, best friend gone, job ending. Woof. Must feel overwhelming. Hugs, my friend.I am 60 years old. I have no wife, no kids and I'm not very close with any of my siblings, so I have a pretty weak support system, certainly not anyone in my life who I feel that I can count on for support. I'm diabetic and suffering heart failure. I'm waiting to have open heart surgery to make the repairs that can be made, but I'm not even sure that I want to go through all of that. I have a job with good health insurance but my contract ends in July of this year, so I figure I might as well get the surgery while I have the insurance, even though there are pretty good chances that I'll end up CTBing soon after the surgery, especially if I can't find a new job. The surgery has been approved I'm just waiting for the actual date to be set. My best friend's birthday is May 2nd. We haven't been best friends for about two years now. I did some stupid things and he ended the friendship. I have thought that if I don't have a new job set by May 2nd and I'm done with the surgery, I may just CTB on that date... but who knows?
One of the sad realities of life is that the older one gets, the more difficult it is to make new friends, especially for men.I'm a man in my early 50s. I got divorced about 5 years ago, after a 20 year marriage. I worked my ass off providing for my family, while my wife stayed at home - then after a year of frequent travel & stress at work, my wife told me with an hour's notice that she met someone and is leaving - leaving me with our daughter, dog, and all responsibility.
The past 5 years have been difficult; my work was demanding enough, then having to be the primary parent as well has led to too much stress, abusing alcohol, etc.
I was dating a woman for 3.5 years, and we got engaged - but the relationship was constant conflict & drama, so I ended it a few months ago after some extreme incidents. I don't have many friends nowadays (and my three closest ones died in the past few years), so my partner has always been my best friend. But being single now, I find it hard to motivate myself to try to meet someone new, and start all over again.
I worked so hard in this life, and always treated the women in my life greatly - and to be single now at this age sucks. It seems everyone else I know has spouse or partner (though statistically, there's obviously a lot of divorced people; I guess they just hide at home). And my daughter will be going away to college in a year and a half, then I'll be all alone.
Some days I'm doing good, but other days like today I'm very depressed and want to give up.