Discussion Would you prefer to discover the body of a loved one or be notified of the death?

[dontlook]

It's something I've been giving a lot of thought lately from all sides and I'd like to hear from others.

 

[TragedyBornCrimson]

Notified, the shock of finding the body happens too fast imo, no time to process anything.

 

[sos]

be notified

i can be a big person rn and say that i wouldnt mind to find a body, but ive never found a body before so idk what will hit me if i unexpectedly find it

you can either be "ow shit" & later move on with your life, or the images, thoughts & feelings of the moment that youve found the body can hunt you for a while

 

[lionetta12]

It's something I've been giving a lot of thought lately from all sides and I'd like to hear from others.

Notified, I already have enough trauma and severe PTSD, don't want to end up having nightmares every single night about how I discovered the corpse of a loved one for the rest of my life every time I sleep.

 

[Thisisnotaname]

Find him/her to be sure to avoid disrespect of their body

 

[Emeralds]

I would prefer to be notified of their death. I don't want to accidentally stumble across the body of anyone who ctb let alone someone close to me. I've already had enough of trauma in my life.

 

[CatLvr]

Find him/her to be sure to avoid disrespect of their body

Yep. I would rather find them. Then I could take all the time I needed to pay my respects and grieve before calling the authorities. I don't have but a couple of people in my life that care about me so I figure it would be the least I could do for them.

Oh and fuck the cops and their "you contaminated a crime scene" shit. My friend or relative would be cleaned up and covered respectfully before I called anybody.

Oddly enough I feel like all the bullshit and trauma my parents put me through (a lot of it pretty damned gory as fuck) prepared me to handle things like this.

 

[ScaredOfMachines]

I would rather be notified. My dog passed about a month ago, and I was the one to find the body. There was really nothing I could besides cradle her head in my arms for a bit, and honestly being completely helpless about what to do made me feel worse.

 

[Username1359751]

Strange question...

 

[dontlook]

Strange question...

I don't think so. I was talking to someone and realized that we had different opinions on whether we would rather commit at home or somewhere we wouldn't be found by our loved ones. I'm trying to make it easiest for my partner. I would rather find her if she committed, but I guess I'm in the minority. So I'll likely not commit at home so she can instead be notified

 

[littleraccoon3]

I have experienced both types depending on your emotional connection. An aunt I had no emotional connection with had a heart attack next to me and died. As a human being, I was sad and continued with my life, but seeing the bodies of people I love or hearing about them is equally painful. If it depends on the type of CTB, the traumatization situation changes.