Who else has a list of Reasons why, like the TV show?

[CGN83]

Out of curiosity I'm wondering who else has a list of "Reasons why" similar to what the main character in 13 reasons why had?

I intend on sending my list of Reasons why by post to each person who has hurt me and driven my suicidal thoughts.

It cruel, but I want them to live knowing they contributed towards my death.

 

[lpdsvm]

I think if those people do not know you well anymore, they won't care. They might get surprised and forget in a day or two since they have their own issues and get stressed too.
If I send a list, some people will celebrate. My boss will only care about the replacement. Maybe get sad for a fraction of a second or celebrate laughing with their colleagues. Haha
My mom will be sad so here I might have to say (lie) that I would never CTB or give a perfect explanation it is not her fault. She didn't terrorize me. She wasn't a typical abuser. Nothing bad from those memories. A mistake is different from an active act of violence and toxic behavior.
I just have 3-4 main points and if they (one or a all of them depending on the circumstances) come true I will CTB.

 

[Forever Sleep]

It's maybe more of a sequence of problems, possible solutions and why I believe those solutions won't be adequate.

I suppose it matters to me that my potential suicide is well reasoned out inside my head. Although, I doubt others would accept that reasoning so- I wonder if formating it into a list or sequence would be that beneficial. I'll probably still try though.

My initial ideation was because of an individual and, had I died at that time- I did want to name/ blame them. Now though- it's more just the unavoidable grind of life that doesn't bear enough reward. I'll probably still express that in a note in some way if I have the guts to end it.

 

[Luna223]

Couple, i dont have 13

 

[persepexa]

I'm sorry but I don't think they will care, especially if you're not close any more. The thing about suicide for revenge is those people may be sad or shocked or whatever at first, but they'll just go on with their lives and they'll forget it with time. If you want to CTB fine but I'm just not sure sending people a letter telling them they contributed to their suicide will do anything and they might just write you off as being a bit "mental" and disregard it entirely. I don't mean to be mean I just think it'll be a waste of time tbh.

 

[Jadeith]

I'm sorry but I don't think they will care, especially if you're not close any more. The thing about suicide for revenge is those people may be sad or shocked or whatever at first, but they'll just go on with their lives and they'll forget it with time. If you want to CTB fine but I'm just not sure sending people a letter telling them they contributed to their suicide will do anything and they might just write you off as being a bit "mental" and disregard it entirely. I don't mean to be mean I just think it'll be a waste of time tbh.

Same. From my point of view, revenge suicide is nonsense. Those who wronged you? They already don't give a flying intercourse about what happens to you and will completely ignore the fact if you are alive or not and why. Some might even revel in fact that you offed yourself because of them. And that also provides them with argument like: "they killed themselves? I told you they were crazy. See? Here's the proof".

So no, that most probably won't work as you intend. Of course there are some rare cases where those who wronged you did this unintentionally and your note might have some negative impact on them but then again - would you like to punish those who didn't mean to make your life difficult, just weren't informed that what they do brings you pain?

 

[woofwag]

Damn that's brutal, I respect it. At one point I found a note from middle school addressed to my parents saying it was their fault and they never did enough to protect/help me lol. I threw it away, but tbh I wish I kept it now.

I don't have the energy to send that type of vengeful note now, but I do have a list of reasons for me to remember in my notes app. I currently have 16.

 

[DeathByBananabread]

I do mentally, I don't need to write them down, I'll never forget.

 

[Jisatsu]

Life sadly isnt overly dramatic like books or shows, most people wouldn't care

 

[persepexa]

Same. From my point of view, revenge suicide is nonsense. Those who wronged you? They already don't give a flying intercourse about what happens to you and will completely ignore the fact if you are alive or not and why. Some might even revel in fact that you offed yourself because of them. And that also provides them with argument like: "they killed themselves? I told you they were crazy. See? Here's the proof".

So no, that most probably won't work as you intend. Of course there are some rare cases where those who wronged you did this unintentionally and your note might have some negative impact on them but then again - would you like to punish those who didn't mean to make your life difficult, just weren't informed that what they do brings you pain?

Exactly. Completely agree. In reality the people who will be upset are the people didn't do anything to you, who love and care for you, and who probably tried their best to help you. We have all wronged people. Sometimes we do it without even realising it. People don't really think too much about these things. And like you said they'll probably just be like "see I knew she was crazy" like your suicide vindicates them somehow. No I've always been against revenge suicide. If you want to CTB you need to do it for yourself and no one else. Nobody, no matter what they've done, is worth your life, ever.