What would your family and friends think if they knew your stance on suicide?

[noname223]

My two closest friends know my stance on suicide. I am sometimes ambivalent but I am also sometimes nihilistic. And for myself I am in the position that death is not necessarily something horrible if it comes fast and peaceful.

I think my parents would panic. I think I had 1-2 short debates about this topic in my life with them. And I quit talking about this topic with them afterwards. They could not handle it. I think they called me crazy. Or that I am reading bullshit and read too much on the internet. Lol. My dad once called people who commit suicide stupid. Despite the fact he is so fucking stupid.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

They would hate me and possibly even beat the shit out of me because suicide goes against their religion and how it isn't allowed to escape this torturous world earlier than god intended (although of course preserving a life artifically is okay to them since keep in mind that religion is a human construct). They would also be sad because of how my views aren't pro life and they would automatically deem me to be mentally unsound due to my views. They would be disappointed in me and they would probably self loathe and deem themselves to be a parental failure and I know that, no matter what I say, they will continue to believe such a thing

 

[ThatRussianDude]

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They would hate me and possibly even beat the shit out of me because suicide goes against their religion and how it isn't allowed to escape this torturous world earlier than god intended (although of course preserving a life artifically is okay to them since keep in mind that religion is a human construct). They would also be sad because of how my views aren't pro life and they would automatically deem me to be mentally unsound due to my views. They would be disappointed in me and they would probably self loathe and deem themselves to be a parental failure and I know that, no matter what I say, they will continue to believe such a thing

Well imagine having a child, caring for him for decades, working your ass off to provide a good life for him, protecting him and worrying about him agan for decades. And then he commits suicide. Its hard to handle to say the least.

 

[Namelesa]

My siblings who have moved and a friend who has recently left me think I am insane and immoral for thinking that suicide is a valid option.

My parents think I am irrational and think living is always the better option so don't really listen to me.

The sister still living with me somewhat agrees with me but thinks I should continue living as she says I have potential with my game development and get better mentally.

My best friend does get upset when I say about suicide but understands and agrees with my views on it, he just doesn't want me to die as he relies on me for support and so I don't blame him for the way he feels.

 

[SomewhereAlongThe]

Family? Friends? Oh.... don't have any.

 

[-Link-]

I am openly pro-choice if/when the topic comes up, and although my family is aware of my views, they've been non-committal as far as their own views about it. But they tend to be progressive-minded, so they accept what I have to say, even if they might have personal hesitations about it. (They probably try to be very cautious talking to me about this because they know of my own suicidality.)

As far as friends, the only people I'd get on with would be the progressive-minded types. If someone is anti-choice, then we're probably going to disagree on other important issues and thus be unlikely to connect as friends in the first place.

 

[LapseInTime]

I've dropped off certain hints to some but nobody reacted positively. If I expressed my views, I am certain they wouldn't understand. Rather, they'd shame me for it - life's wonderful, right?

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Well imagine having a child, caring for him for decades, working your ass off to provide a good life for him, protecting him and worrying about him agan for decades. And then he commits suicide. Its hard to handle to say the least.

Well, obviously but the only reason why they have to care and "protect" me in the first place is because they brought me into existence. If they never brought me into existence in the first place, they wouldn't have to go out of their way to work for me and protect me since there wouldn't be a me to begin with. Sure, I do acknowledge that their efforts for me are immense and noble (noble with regards to their cultural views which significantly differs from the western cultural views) but they are just fixing a problem that they created in the first place. Because of this, it's hard for me to feel guilty if I were to kill myself. Yes, their grief would be immense and absolutely valid but I just can't feel guilty for that since they caused this in the first place by giving birth to me.

They may not think that they created the problem since their religious beliefs makes them think that god put me here but the truth remains the same irrespective of their religious beliefs.

Also, I'm going to die anyways and judging from how I know that I'm unable to conform to society's demands due to my autism (whilst simultaneously being expected to conform by my mum since she doesn't think that autism causes that much of a problem to me), I'm going to go homeless in a few years time and subsequently die from that. All I'm doing by killing myself earlier is bringing the grief earlier... the grief that would have happened anyways.

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

My parents know I'm suicidal, but not the full extent. I know they want me to live, but they're pretty liberal and value personal freedom, so I think they would feel conflicted after I CTB.

I've told my ex wife more openly about my stance on CTB. She doesn't respond directly, but she begrudgingly acknowledges the intense suffering that brought me to this point. Honestly I don't think she cares much about me, she only cares how it will impact our children which will then impact her.

 

[avoid_slow_death]

Pretty much most people who know/have known me, know my stance. Not only do I not keep it a secret, I make off color comments or jokes about it. I also am not afraid to engage in debate regarding said subject either. As for how that makes them feel? Well, most of the time uncomfortable and worried, but sometimes, in those rare moments when I am calm and they are feeling a bit open to discussion, they can somewhat see the validity of it. But only under certain circumstances and most definitely not for people they care for.

 

[grungy自殺]

I don't know

Probably they'll just despise me and think less of me, even greatly dismiss my struggles (mainly my parents)

I hate current society (extreme hypocrites i swear)

 

[foreverlanguish]

My parents already kind of know? I think they just choose not to think about the fact I really feel that way. My sister though is more receptive and is neutral about it.

 

[neenie]

They would think I'm out of my mind and would panick a bit

 

[Forever Sleep]

My closest friends and family probably wouldn't be surprised. Although, they wouldn't all necessarily agree with me.

 

[SadRatQueen]

I mean, I joke so much about it I don't think they would be entirely surprised. Besides, I went to ny father in my earlier years talking about my suicidal thoughts and ideology only to tell me weak people kill themselves.

So, honestly, who tf cares what they think? They never paid me any mind to begin with.

 

[J&L383]

My two closest friends know my stance on suicide. I am sometimes ambivalent but I am also sometimes nihilistic. And for myself I am in the position that death is not necessarily something horrible if it comes fast and peaceful.

I think my parents would panic. I think I had 1-2 short debates about this topic in my life with them. And I quit talking about this topic with them afterwards. They could not handle it. I think they called me crazy. Or that I am reading bullshit and read too much on the internet. Lol. My dad once called people who commit suicide stupid. Despite the fact he is so fucking stupid.

They would get uncomfortable and change the subject and we'd never talked about it again. (Topics that are unmentionable keep growing). One friend (who tried to kill herself several times) now says the act is cowardly, even if you have a "good" reason, like cancer. So I've learned to not bring it up.

 

[Peter Skellern]

Obviously, it would upset my relative so I don't tell her.

 

[LostLily]

Shocked an alarm.

Come from a religious family so they probably think it is a sin.

 

[CallmeWill4719]

Everyone knows some extent but not really my full pain.

 

[Alitaaqua6781]

I think my brother would accept it maybe maybe. He strongly believes in people making their own decisions.

 

[HelloDarkness25]

I have only very few family and friends, but I imagine they would be shocked and stressed. They wouldn't know what to do and it would be too much for them to handle, so that's why none is the wiser.
Former co-workers and random acquaintances would be in utter shock and disbelief, I was the token "smiling face" in the building

 

[noidea1984]

My two closest friends know my stance on suicide. I am sometimes ambivalent but I am also sometimes nihilistic. And for myself I am in the position that death is not necessarily something horrible if it comes fast and peaceful.

I think my parents would panic. I think I had 1-2 short debates about this topic in my life with them. And I quit talking about this topic with them afterwards. They could not handle it. I think they called me crazy. Or that I am reading bullshit and read too much on the internet. Lol. My dad once called people who commit suicide stupid. Despite the fact he is so fucking stupid.

I'd lose everyone if they knew my stance. Everyone I know always desperately tries to justify me staying alive, even when I tell them that in my current situation I'm going to end up dying anyway. It pisses me off my own friends would rather have me suffer for weeks to months (or more) in homelessness than have a quick, (mostly) painless ending.

 

[vitbar]

They know I am pro-choice, and pro assisted dying. Most agree with me too. Distant family don't know. I know one would be very upset and frantic. At least one would agree I suspect.