Venting "well-meaning" people and the loneliness of it all

[bloodfiend]

i've finally come to realize how special this place is. i just tried to express some of what i was feeling to some friends, and no one could actually speak to me on a level that wasn't condescending "things will get better!" nonsense. no one wanted to actually accept that things for me aren't going to change, that i can't just persevere my way through things and come out on top. this is the only place i have ever found people who genuinely, truly understand what it means to want to die and to not just blindly respond with empty messages of hopefulness and belief. i'm very grateful to have a place here. and i'm sick of the people who will never get it.

i want to be able to talk about death without having my own feelings and agency undercut. i want to be able to make my own choices, to not give in to the pleading of others to think about how this will impact family/friends/whatever. i want to be able to do one thing right for myself and not spend the rest of my life being wrong.

 

[Lycoris]

I think youre right, a lot of people are scared to talk about something so taboo and sensetive. Most people go straight for platitudes because it feels safe and easy but too many people skim over the harsh reality of having terrible mental health and wanting to die. People being too scared to simply listen leading us to feeling even more isolated ironically making the problem worse... I'm also grateful I found this place, it hurts knowing how many of us are suffering through the same thoughts and feelings but I'm glad someone out there understands too.