Thinking about Changing my last name. Has anyone done this?

[Tiredofit25]

Hi everyone, I hope everyone is doing fine today. I don't know if this is the right forum for this. I've been recently thinking about changing my official last name for a while now. I keep associating my last name with my toxic and inconsiderate family and I would like to stop doing it. I dislike my mother as she neglected me growing up and I am not close with her. I am also not emotionally attached to my father and his side of the family, I also don't believe he truly loves me. My family are the majority of my reason I want to ctb. I want to disasociate with my life as it is now and hopefully change into a differen person. I essentially want to try break free from my family and my depressive self and I feel like the only way to do this is to start changing my last name so I can cut ties with my family and old self. To clarify, I am of french afro carribean descent and I have chosen a few last names that go appropriately with my cultural roots. Has anyone ever thought of changing their name to distance themselves from their family?

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

I wish i could change my name to " i didn't ask for this hell called life"

 

[Sergeant45]

Has anyone ever thought of changing their name to distance themselves from their family?

All the time!!!!

Sadly in my country changing your name/last name is only possible through marriage, being transsexual (and that only changes your first name), or a very high bar ''urgent reason'', like being actively targeted or your name causing severe harassment.

 

[LastLoveSong]

ideally if i was actually going to live longer id wanna change both my first and last names. I have an idea for a new first name but i have personal reasons i maybe wouldnt pick it, but its a name that just came to me a while ago. I dont know about what i would change my last name to though.

Its completely valid to wanna change your name to distance yourself from your family, thats a large part of why i want to as well. I'd say go for it. Change it to whatever makes you more comfortable and makes living even slightly less excruciating for you :)

 

[Linda]

Hi everyone, I hope everyone is doing fine today. I don't know if this is the right forum for this. I've been recently thinking about changing my official last name for a while now. I keep associating my last name with my toxic and inconsiderate family and I would like to stop doing it. I dislike my mother as she neglected me growing up and I am not close with her. I am also not emotionally attached to my father and his side of the family, I also don't believe he truly loves me. My family are the majority of my reason I want to ctb. I want to disasociate with my life as it is now and hopefully change into a differen person. I essentially want to try break free from my family and my depressive self and I feel like the only way to do this is to start changing my last name so I can cut ties with my family and old self. To clarify, I am of french afro carribean descent and I have chosen a few last names that go appropriately with my cultural roots. Has anyone ever thought of changing their name to distance themselves from their family?

So much depends on the country. In some countries it's easy, and you can change your name to anything you want. In others it's difficult or impossible.

 

[Tiredofit25]

All the time!!!!

Sadly in my country changing your name/last name is only possible through marriage, being transsexual (and that only changes your first name), or a very high bar ''urgent reason'', like being actively targeted or your name causing severe harassment.

Where are you from if you don't mind me asking?

 

[Worndown]

Even if you change your name, any notice or report will likely note your former name. Name changes leave a very clear paper trail.

 

[Carrot]

I was seriously considering this for a different reason (can't say why). I didn't, I'm planning to die within two years anyway.

i think your mood can increase from this, reminds me of how people tattoo something after recovery (for example a butterfly, symbolizing change).

Look into any potential costs (depends on country) and issues with a name change, I'm sure there is a lot of information online (might need to inform banks, check how it affects inheritence and other stuff).

 

[eupdplishlp]

Hi everyone, I hope everyone is doing fine today. I don't know if this is the right forum for this. I've been recently thinking about changing my official last name for a while now. I keep associating my last name with my toxic and inconsiderate family and I would like to stop doing it. I dislike my mother as she neglected me growing up and I am not close with her. I am also not emotionally attached to my father and his side of the family, I also don't believe he truly loves me. My family are the majority of my reason I want to ctb. I want to disasociate with my life as it is now and hopefully change into a differen person. I essentially want to try break free from my family and my depressive self and I feel like the only way to do this is to start changing my last name so I can cut ties with my family and old self. To clarify, I am of french afro carribean descent and I have chosen a few last names that go appropriately with my cultural roots. Has anyone ever thought of changing their name to distance themselves from their family?

Hi, I have done this exact thing myself! I never knew I'd find someone so similar. I changed my name for 2 reasons 1, my dad was violent to me and my mother removing his name was a weight lifted of my chest, personally blood doesn't mean a thing when it comes to family as you can choose your family. 2. I'm a trans male so changed my first name too. my mother is too busy focused on work and father is a criminal. Removing my fathers sername was euphoric I flaunted my new name everywhere

 

[Sergeant45]

Where are you from if you don't mind me asking?

Germany, name changing laws are very strict here.