the hypocrisy others when you're dying young of disease vs. dying young of ctb

[qewpie]

why is it that my friends object so much when i tell them i want to die because of my symptoms and disorders? if i'd died of a deadly disease they'd be sad and accept it, but if i had such awful symptoms that ruin my quality of life and i elected to die, that's suddenly unacceptable??

 

[martyrdom]

If you were dying of disease, no friend is going to just accept it, they will still mourn. The difference is that dying of terminal illness is outside your control, suicide is a choice and it's preventable in a way terminal illness isn't. They don't want to lose you in either scenario, but a terminal disease doesn't make your death your own responsibility.

 

[somethingisntreal]

Just like @martyrdom said, a more 'visible' and unavoidable cause of death makes the grief easier to process. If you ctb people would almost always go "maybe if i had done xxx thing I could've saved them"