Thank you

[FireFox]

I would like to thank everyone for thier postive comments on my previous threads. I appreciate everyones comments i really do.

I am still suicidal and feel like i am never going to be happy again. When i am sucidial i feel like i am downing and i get these intrusive thoughts pushing me to end it all. They never go away. I am lost and it kills

I cant tell anyone about my sucidial thoughts which is why i came here

I fear the future

The prospect of turning 23 horrifies me because I have nothing to celebrate

1) I never had a job : It so embrassing. I read online forum in which people said they never hire any one worked while at uni or in thier teens. There is a stigma towards people who never worked

2) I have no clear idea of what I want to do with my life and this has become the ulimate source of distress for me

3) Still single and a virgin

Happy easter everybody and Take care

 

[Khyber]

Hi

Hope you don't think I'm being patronising or stating the obvious here as I have no idea of your situation and how exactly you're feeling. Regarding your concerns about employment it might be worthwhile doing some voluntary work as it's a good way of getting experience and a reference. With everything that's happening with COVID19 there should be loads of volunteering opportunities out there.

Hope it works out for you whatever you decide.

 

[bpdandme]

Happy Easter lovely FireFox.

Everyone has different time scales. I have a friend who never had a job or even wrote a CV until she was 22 and then her mum got her a job through connections - she didn't even have to have an interview. Don't let others peoples perceptions taint your view of yourself, you have been battling suicidal thoughts which hinders the ability to work or look for work. Maybe just start with small steps, write a CV, look at potential jobs.

Honestly, no one knows what they are doing or what they want to do.

Sex is so overrated! You will probably be disappointed if you are concerned about virginity when it does happen.

Good luck and hope everything works out for, if you ever want to talk I am here for you. Sending light!

 

[FireFox]

Hi

Hope you don't think I'm being patronising or stating the obvious here as I have no idea of your situation and how exactly you're feeling. Regarding your concerns about employment it might be worthwhile doing some voluntary work as it's a good way of getting experience and a reference. With everything that's happening with COVID19 there should be loads of volunteering opportunities out there.

Hope it works out for you whatever you decide.

No you are not being patronising at all.
I feel like i have ruined my life. During university I was offered a part time job in this church set up this woman . I turned it down because i was afraid of messing up and being needy.

I did a voluntary work placement at university but it went so badly which ended up ruining my confidence all togther. The role involved giving advice to people about thier problems on varioud issues like debt, employment etc. I struggled advising people ..i had clients walk away from me as i was poor at advising, i was needy asking from help from advisers,
Since then i just doubt my ablity to do things, i am afraid of messing up

I believe this is the last ever job offer i will receive. I blew an opportunity

Everyday i wake up regretting my life decisions .

Happy Easter lovely FireFox.

Everyone has different time scales. I have a friend who never had a job or even wrote a CV until she was 22 and then her mum got her a job through connections - she didn't even have to have an interview. Don't let others peoples perceptions taint your view of yourself, you have been battling suicidal thoughts which hinders the ability to work or look for work. Maybe just start with small steps, write a CV, look at potential jobs.

Honestly, no one knows what they are doing or what they want to do.

Sex is so overrated! You will probably be disappointed if you are concerned about virginity when it does happen.

Good luck and hope everything works out for, if you ever want to talk I am here for you. Sending light!

Thanks

I was offered a job in this church set up by this woman during university . I turned it down due to fear of messing up and being needy.

I messed up and i feel like this was my last ever job offer.

I did a voluntary work placement and it went so badly . I struggled with advising people, i was needy and asking for help by the people i worked with. By the end of the placement i just did not want to be around anymore and just have a fear of messing up.

 

[Khyber]

I'm an similar sort of role at the minute and have been doing this type of job for about 10 years. I never chose this work but just sort of fell into this career path. I had no self esteem and dreaded people turning up for their appointments as then I'd have to actually talk to them, and had convinced myself that they would be thinking that this guy has no clue what he's doing (they would have been right about 80% at the start). Though it did get easier for me and I do feel more competent dealing with people in a professional capacity, although the anxieties are often still there and unfortunately I haven't been able to transfer the skills to my private life as easily. My point is that I stuck with it, though being honest it was either that or be unemployed, but it did get easier and I am definitely better at it than I was. Only you know what's right for you but maybe don't give up just yet. What's the worst that can happen if you try again?

 

[s1mplem3]

It's always hard to get first job and any job in general. They don't hire if you don't have experience and how do you get experience if they don't want to give a job. This world is full of stupid people. I am 30 and also single, but don't worry as female it's easier to find someone.

 

[Hopeindeath!]

Happy Easter to you too. I hope your life gets better for you.