Samaritans

[BPDtgirl]

I just called Samaritans, a UK and Ireland based charity helpline for people going through a crisis, and spoke with someone for an hour.

He was lovely, really. I thanked him for what he does, it's amazing that there are people out there that volunteer to do this. He asked me to explain my situation to him. It's now just under a week before my SN should arrive.

I explained everything to him and he said it really sounds like I've explored all possible avenues and told me that if I wanted to end my life I have the right to do it.

Guy was based as fuck.

 

[Jisatsu]

I always prefer these answers over the ones begging you to stay alive .

 

[Tobacco]

I hope this person won't get into trouble.

 

[Sphinxi]

I always prefer it when the person is a bit more human and they don't go down the dialogue tree. I don't want to make another safety plan!

I've explored all possible avenues

What options have you tried?

 

[Bat12]

I always prefer these answers over the ones begging you to stay alive .

Literally, but I feel most haven't actually been in our shoes and cannot understand where we are coming from so say this thinking it will help us. I imagine the call handler in this scenario has been in similar situations previously. They are the best people

 

[VoidBlessed]

I just called Samaritans, a UK and Ireland based charity helpline for people going through a crisis, and spoke with someone for an hour.

He was lovely, really. I thanked him for what he does, it's amazing that there are people out there that volunteer to do this. He asked me to explain my situation to him. It's now just under a week before my SN should arrive.

I explained everything to him and he said it really sounds like I've explored all possible avenues and told me that if I wanted to end my life I have the right to do it.

Guy was based as fuck.

You lucked out! Usually you get the "suicide is never an option" brainwashed kind of people. I hope more and more people start seeing suicide as an issue of bodily autonomy that you have the right to do.

 

[metfan647]

I assume the comment that it's your choice was just a mere soundbite of the whole conversation.

 

[RinneOfAragon]

I just called Samaritans, a UK and Ireland based charity helpline for people going through a crisis, and spoke with someone for an hour.

He was lovely, really. I thanked him for what he does, it's amazing that there are people out there that volunteer to do this. He asked me to explain my situation to him. It's now just under a week before my SN should arrive.

I explained everything to him and he said it really sounds like I've explored all possible avenues and told me that if I wanted to end my life I have the right to do it.

Guy was based as fuck.

I'm shocked but not shocked. I have used them before especially when I was delusional and super panicked and most people were kind and would listen. I would just go on and on. They are not supposed to really say much just listening and maybe make positive suggestions. And keep people that are on the edge talking. I'm glad he gave you some comfort. I think quite a few people are realising that if you're in a rational headspace and things can't meaningfully change for the better and the prognosis is bad , why can't you have the right to be free of all the suffering. We are still programmed to save people at all cost. It's just slowly changing.

 

[NoHorizon]

I always prefer it when the person is a bit more human and they don't go down the dialogue tree. I don't want to make another safety plan!

Argh safety plans! The amount of conversations I've had which are along the lines of:

"Let's do a safety plan for you"
"I don't want to do a safety plan. I don't find any benefit from making them and I won't use it"
"Well let's just do one anyway..."

 

[dogdrool]

This is crazy to me in a positive way. I'm also from the UK and have heard such terrible things about helplines and Samaritans is by far the biggest one.

 

[BPDtgirl]

I always prefer these answers over the ones begging you to stay alive .

Likewise, at least he understood. Or maybe he wanted me to shut up. Lol.

I hope this person won't get into trouble.

I wouldn't think so. they are trained not to offer advice and simply be a listening ear.

What options have you tried?

Oh man.. I could write an essay here but I won't. I appreciate you asking though. i've tried many times over but i'm really tired, i'm sure you get it too

You lucked out! Usually you get the "suicide is never an option" brainwashed kind of people. I hope more and more people start seeing suicide as an issue of bodily autonomy that you have the right to do.

It was the first time i had called them really, I didnt know what to expect entirely, I would have assumed that they'd be like that but they really do just listen. I'm not sure if i felt better, or worse, i can't say for sure.

I assume the comment that it's your choice was just a mere soundbite of the whole conversation.

On the contrary. whilst he, of course, re-iterated a number of times how he hoped that I didnt go through with it, he was understanding of the fact its my choice. he said he could hear that my mind was made up and that i wasnt being emotional about it, he even said that if i do go through with it then don't do it alone and call samaritans again whilst you're doing it. Poor guy, really. These people are angels, real life saints for what they do. I hope I don't linger in his thoughts, it must be haunting.

I'm shocked but not shocked. I have used them before especially when I was delusional and super panicked and most people were kind and would listen. I would just go on and on. They are not supposed to really say much just listening and maybe make positive suggestions. And keep people that are on the edge talking. I'm glad he gave you some comfort. I think quite a few people are realising that if you're in a rational headspace and things can't meaningfully change for the better and the prognosis is bad , why can't you have the right to be free of all the suffering. We are still programmed to save people at all cost. It's just slowly changing.

Wholeheartedly agreed, i couldn't say shocked because i really didnt know what to expect at all, but i was a little surprised by his understanding. Hey, maybe he's been here before? I would suspect a lot of volunteers are there because they know what it was like for them.

This is crazy to me in a positive way. I'm also from the UK and have heard such terrible things about helplines and Samaritans is by far the biggest one.

I can't say "Hey, I feel so much better after that". that'd just be untrue but i didn't feel any worse. if you do just want to talk about things, even just verbalising thoughts that you have to another human being, then it can help just stay a little bit more stable and in control.

 

[textmewhenyourehome]

On the contrary. whilst he, of course, re-iterated a number of times how he hoped that I didnt go through with it, he was understanding of the fact its my choice. he said he could hear that my mind was made up and that i wasnt being emotional about it, he even said that if i do go through with it then don't do it alone and call samaritans again whilst you're doing it. Poor guy, really. These people are angels, real life saints for what they do. I hope I don't linger in his thoughts, it must be haunting.

I wish more people were like this, to be honest I feel like it would actually change some people's hearts on CTB if they could see people actually feel for them and care

 

[Qilio3]

Oh man.. I could write an essay here but I won't. I appreciate you asking though. i've tried many times over but i'm really tired, i'm sure you get it too

Could you please tell me about the most effective treatments you've tried that didn't help? Recently, I learned about electroconvulsive therapy, magnetic brain stimulation, ketamine, esketamine, lithium, and others. As far as I know, if these treatments don't help, nothing else will at this level of medical development. Not all of these are available in my country, and if they are, I'm unlikely to try them. Furthermore, resources, both external and internal, are needed.

 

[Metro]

I hope this person won't get into trouble.

I know it's really long after this thread but almost certainly not. The Samaritans' policy and training is to explicitly respect a caller's decision to ctb if they are not a child or adult at risk - he was actually probably just following his training (not that that makes him any less based of course)

 

[overmorrow]

some people do care, some really do.

 

[Spicy Tteokbokki]

Honestly, those kinda honest, based answers always swayed me more towards actually living longer than not.