Never find a job again

[dudebl]

I'm currently a 36 year old unemployed loser who lives with his mom. I never used to be like this. I had a career in IT (which I hated) and a six figure job, but I was miserable.

I quit my job three years ago with enough money to survive for some time hoping to rest, recharge, and hopefully (I truly believed) fall into a new job/career path.

I had just gone through a major breakdown and depression which is also why I left my job for some personal time.

The job market now is cooked, especially in IT and my gap in employment does me no favors.

I can't go on working a minimum wage job, without any hope for saving for the future (retirement) or ever experiencing the better things in life (vacations).

I had worked my a$$ off getting to where I was only to be broken by the sleepless nights, constant pressure and bureaucracy.

Not I have nothing, no hopes for ever recovering (I'm old now and IT is age discriminatory).

To add to this I have a misdemeanor on my record now for disorderly conduct.

I wish I could be freed from this cruel world. I wish I could get over my SI, the fear of failing and making things 1000x worse for me and my mom and to still be forced to live through it.

What hope is there to live anymore? Genuine question.

 

[kopebaldy]

my gap in employment does me no favors.

This is just evil, society expects one to work until the day they can't anymore.

Resting is being seen as deviant behavior.

 

[MyShadow]

You are far from old and definitely not a loser. No matter how good or bad your job is, life is just fucking overwhelming. But if your professional life is crushing your soul, then your life becomes more difficult and unmanageable.

On top of professional expectations, we're expected to navigate our social, physical and mental health while the world continues to blow up in our face. Plus, if you have a mental health diagnosis like depression, anxiety, etc., it makes it so much more difficult.

Many people think I have the dream job, and I do, but the pressure to perform 100% of the time has drained me. The expectations placed on me every single day has bled me dry. Add in the fact that the economy is falling off a cliff, my stress level is off the charts so financially, and things aren't looking good in the long term. I am on the verge of losing everything, and at 56 years old and with 26 years invested in my business, there's no backup plan.

I know that it's hard to have optimism with the current job market and economy. We're watching our government here in the US utterly decimate the middle class, but something has to give at some point.

I am glad that you had your mom to fall back on but you're not a failure. It sounds like you were not living in your truth and the job was slowly killing you. You were smart to get out. Maybe this is a time to reevaluate your goals and create a new plan.

Just my two cents worth.

 

[dudebl]

You are far from old and definitely not a loser. No matter how good or bad your job is, life is just fucking overwhelming. But if your professional life is crushing your soul, then your life becomes more difficult and unmanageable.

On top of professional expectations, we're expected to navigate our social, physical and mental health while the world continues to blow up in our face. Plus, if you have a mental health diagnosis like depression, anxiety, etc., it makes it so much more difficult.

Many people think I have the dream job, and I do, but the pressure to perform 100% of the time has drained me. The expectations placed on me every single day has bled me dry. Add in the fact that the economy is falling off a cliff, my stress level is off the charts so financially, and things aren't looking good in the long term. I am on the verge of losing everything, and at 56 years old and with 26 years invested in my business, there's no backup plan.

I know that it's hard to have optimism with the current job market and economy. We're watching our government here in the US utterly decimate the middle class, but something has to give at some point.

I am glad that you had your mom to fall back on but you're not a failure. It sounds like you were not living in your truth and the job was slowly killing you. You were smart to get out. Maybe this is a time to reevaluate your goals and create a new plan.

Just my two cents worth.

Thank you for the kind words.

If you don't mind me asking, what type of industry are you in?

 

[Hellis]

I'd have done the same if it's any comfort. Putting ourselves first is a must, even if it makes us a loser. I think you should be proud of yourself for trying to improve your situation where many wouldn't, even if you believe it backfired. And to echo what's been said, you aren't old. I'm sorry it came to this point nonetheless. Shit sucks and the system is rigged.

 

[LetMeOut67]

This world is so evil that it shouldn't exist

 

[MyShadow]

Thank you for the kind words.

If you don't mind me asking, what type of industry are you in?

You wouldn't believe me if I told you.

 

[lotus11]

Relate im 33...working sucks I hate it.I have been unemployed for the last 2 months and quite frankly have zero desire to return to work ( im meant to be going back in a couple of days). That horrendous alarm at 6am, the fake bullshit atmosphere, the long grueling soul destroying and largely pointless tasks, the management from dickheads and people that are often thicker than you, yet for some reason have power over you. My view is that we are all just animals being made to perform constantly like monkeys in a zoo-apart from they are forced to do spread sheets and teams meetings. Biologically, we are just more advanced monkeys. Imagine if you saw a heap of apes forced all day every day into offices that they cant leave. We would be screaming and crying and in uproar at the cruelty. Yet hear we are suffering it every day, years on end without question until we drop dead. Fingers crossed for us sooner rather than later

 

[usernamesarehard]

I'm currently a 36 year old unemployed loser who lives with his mom. I never used to be like this. I had a career in IT (which I hated) and a six figure job, but I was miserable.

I quit my job three years ago with enough money to survive for some time hoping to rest, recharge, and hopefully (I truly believed) fall into a new job/career path.

I had just gone through a major breakdown and depression which is also why I left my job for some personal time.

The job market now is cooked, especially in IT and my gap in employment does me no favors.

I can't go on working a minimum wage job, without any hope for saving for the future (retirement) or ever experiencing the better things in life (vacations).

I had worked my a$$ off getting to where I was only to be broken by the sleepless nights, constant pressure and bureaucracy.

Not I have nothing, no hopes for ever recovering (I'm old now and IT is age discriminatory).

To add to this I have a misdemeanor on my record now for disorderly conduct.

I wish I could be freed from this cruel world. I wish I could get over my SI, the fear of failing and making things 1000x worse for me and my mom and to still be forced to live through it.

Man, this shit sucks. Forced to work from the day you turn 18 to the day you die and if you don't you're useless and don't deserve to be employed and live a nice life.

What hope is there to live anymore? Genuine question.

I have plans on going to wgu for accounting. If you're american you could consider using sophia to get through your gen ed classes and then transfer to wgu. They give you access for half a year for 4k, which is rediculously cheap. You could finish in one term and get an accounting job. I've seen people say they have gotten jobs with a degree from there. Even if it takes 2 terms, that's only 8k. Just an idea, if you're looking for something. Might not help, though.

 

[BradGuy123]

I can relate. I have a huge fear that AI is going to replace a lot of white collar jobs and many people won't be able to find work. That's why I joined - to research methods to ctb in case the absolute worst case scenario happens. I can tell you one thing. All corporate executives care about is their stock price and how much money is in their bonuses. They don't give a flying rip about employees. Rich shareholders (i.e. the 1%) want to get even richer even if it means screwing over the middle class. They don't care about us.

I'm tired of worrying about getting laid off due to AI, outsourcing, and economic downturns. I'm tired of dealing with corporate BS. I'm tired of people many levels above my head making bad decisions that impact my life when they have never even met me or know the intricacies of my job or my team. There is no suggestion box to give feedback.

I wish we could all work the same job until we retire and simply do our jobs without having to deal with all the crap. I am fairly new here and don't think I've ranted like this before.

 

[dudebl]

I can relate. I have a huge fear that AI is going to replace a lot of white collar jobs and many people won't be able to find work. That's why I joined - to research methods to ctb in case the absolute worst case scenario happens. I can tell you one thing. All corporate executives care about is their stock price and how much money is in their bonuses. They don't give a flying rip about employees. Rich shareholders (i.e. the 1%) want to get even richer even if it means screwing over the middle class. They don't care about us.

I'm tired of worrying about getting laid off due to AI, outsourcing, and economic downturns. I'm tired of dealing with corporate BS. I'm tired of people many levels above my head making bad decisions that impact my life when they have never even met me or know the intricacies of my job or my team. There is no suggestion box to give feedback.

I wish we could all work the same job until we retire and simply do our jobs without having to deal with all the crap. I am fairly new here and don't think I've ranted like this before.

People used to be able to work the same jobs their whole life and then retire with a pension. Then they took away pensions and raved how 401ks were so much better (yea cutting a portion of your earnings to have to put away for the inevitable when you're too broken to work vs the company rewarding you for loyalty).

Add to that your point about stock prices, 401ks are tied to that. Once the rich decide their shares are worth enough they'll pull the rug and sell everything taking profits and leave the average joe holding the bag, waiting 10 years for it to recover, until they do it again.

Rich get richer, poor get poorer. You'll own nothing and be happy about it - in their mind.