Venting My partner slept with someone else.....

[deadtrash666]

As if I didn't wanna fucking jump all week long, my partner slept with someone else today. He asked me out of the blue "how would you feel if I told you I had sex in a guy's car 2 times today" we are in an one sided open relationship but only if he discusses things with me before and after. He slept with someone else last week (I knew about this one) and he didn't tell me about it still.... (It's a kink thing) So all week long I've been waiting to hear about this shit and then today he told me he had sex with another guy and when I had a negative reaction he was like "I didn't plan on it I swear" and all kinds of shit saying he didn't really want it but felt forced.... I just.... It hurts that he did it a second time. That means they fucked, hung out, and then fucked again later...... I legitimately want to be wiped off the face of the earth. I don't know what to think. I hate everyone. I hate everything. I guess, for tonight, I'll just drink myself into the grave and listen to Mutiilation

Edit: we've just got off the phone... I think we're going to work it out. I've had a couple of drinks BUT I'm in a good mood and coherent. I understand like what's going on and shit lol. I think it's all good.

 

[k1m]

Buddy, you deserve better. Relationships are supposed to be your safe place. There are so many people looking for deep reciprocal love you don't need to tolerate this.

Edit: maybe you love him but he's a waste of your time if he can do this to you.

 

[deadtrash666]

Buddy, you deserve better. Relationships are supposed to be your safe place. There are so many people looking for deep reciprocal love you don't need to tolerate this.

Edit: maybe you love him but he's a waste of your time if he can do this to you.

He said he didn't want to do it but just didn't know what to do. I get that. But a second time..... And I feel so selfish for being upset. Like I'm doing something wrong.

 

[Dejected 55]

I know some people like to think they are in open or polyamory situations... but, no... not really. It's fine to have one-night stands if you are single or to just want short-term relationships if that is all you really want/need... but you're not in a relationship if you are also with someone else. It's just not possible. It always leads to hurt and betrayal no matter how much either or both of you think it's what you wanted.

 

[mangoastronaut]

He said he didn't want to do it but just didn't know what to do.

He could have said no. If he felt he couldn't say no, that's r*pe and you should ask if he is okay. It doesn't sound like that, though. It sounds like excuses for him cheating on you. Someone who was r*ped would not be acting like that/

And I feel so selfish for being upset. Like I'm doing something wrong.

You're doing nothing wrong. You were cheated on and further disrespected afterwards, and you deserve to have someone who will treat you better.