Venting just another 25 year old loser

[247sadgirlhours]

that's it. no job, no hobbies, no talents, no friends. halfway through an undergrad degree i'm struggling every single minute of. i've "been trying" to make friends, get my degree, progress life forward for years now.

i was born so privileged. it eats me up inside what i've wasted. someone else in my position would already be an engineer. i'm pretty, and i'm smart. i'm just such a fucking loser that i couldn't transform those qualities into actual, tangible life progress. who cares if you're pretty when you're broke, no degree, no friends, no life prospects. maybe i'm not even that smart since i can't even finish my bachelor's or get my life on track.

i know i'm not "old". i know i could "start over". i know. i know i know i know i know. 25 years old on others is so young and vibrant. 25 years old on me is just washed as fuck.

 

[Dejected 55]

I shouldn't reply, because I felt all that at 25 and more... and people said I was young and had lots of time... but nothing really changed in the 30 years it has been since. Is it my fault? Probably. Does it matter whose fault it is that reality is what it is? Not really.

 

[DivineSpark]

I am even older, no family, no career, just total loser.

 

[Ashu]

We are what we have to be. So let us forgive ourselves for the past, and hope, as much as possible, for the future, in which our capabilities and possibilities still cannot be known.

 

[swankysoup]

I feel like you are leaving out the bad things that happened to you that caused all this. Life is not impossibly hard for no reason, so try to cut yourself some slack.

 

[StupidCat]

Don't give in to society's expectations. Fuck society.

 

[Average Joe]

I'm so sorry. I felt like a complete loser today. I'm 24

 

[Dejected 55]

I feel like you are leaving out the bad things that happened to you that caused all this. Life is not impossibly hard for no reason, so try to cut yourself some slack.

Not speaking for the OP, but speaking for myself... Even if I look at events in my life that were out of my control and not my fault.. at the end of the day does it matter? I mean, I have some things that are likely my fault... but I have experienced varying degrees of lots of things that nobody would argue are my fault or that I could have done anything to avoid or even handled any better than I did.

At the end of the day, though, stuff happens and if more bad things or enough really bad things happen, it piles up and becomes too much to bear.

 

[swankysoup]

Not speaking for the OP, but speaking for myself... Even if I look at events in my life that were out of my control and not my fault.. at the end of the day does it matter? I mean, I have some things that are likely my fault... but I have experienced varying degrees of lots of things that nobody would argue are my fault or that I could have done anything to avoid or even handled any better than I did.

At the end of the day, though, stuff happens and if more bad things or enough really bad things happen, it piles up and becomes too much to bear.

I know, i was just speaking about the self-shaming tone OP had, no need to blame yourself for something you couldn't control. How it affects you today is a different thing.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

You're not a loser just bc you failed college/university. I failed and dropped out of university long before I was 25. That's not a death-sentence.

 

[Michelstaedter]

In this world, we're all losers. Yes, we're going to lose, we're never going to win. If you're a believer, you might think that the only one who escaped death was Christ, but from that point on, all humans have been and will be losers. The rest is just part of humans' glamorous ideas to feel superior to others.

Oh, and these words are not consolation, nor am I a believer for mentioning Christ to you, I am just trying to be objective, because over time I realized what is the difference between a homeless person and a millionaire, well yes, their purchasing power, maybe their health and their physique, but if the millionaire dies first, the only difference is that the homeless person will still be alive (in theory the real winner) and the millionaire will die, although the homeless person will perhaps have a chance to rebuild his life, maybe even become a millionaire! but in the end he will also die.

 

[SleepyBB]

I feel this you're not alone

 

[NEETHELL]

I'm also 25. I had to do an extra year to graduate but even so, without a bachelor's degree. I have yet to do the project, write the thesis and hold it. Been a NEET two years. I have a job for more than a year now but I so damn bad at I do not know how I have been fired. I want to quit it all.

I destroyed my life. I could've had it pretty good but here I am suffering cuz I am dumb

 

[247sadgirlhours]

Not speaking for the OP, but speaking for myself... Even if I look at events in my life that were out of my control and not my fault.. at the end of the day does it matter? I mean, I have some things that are likely my fault... but I have experienced varying degrees of lots of things that nobody would argue are my fault or that I could have done anything to avoid or even handled any better than I did.

At the end of the day, though, stuff happens and if more bad things or enough really bad things happen, it piles up and becomes too much to bear.

you have encapsulated how I feel pretty well, honestly. bad things happen to everyone, and I'm not an exception. I agree with you in that it doesn't matter at the end of the day. I don't see much of a point in assigning blame on how my own life has gone because ultimately, I am responsible for myself.

 

[Dejected 55]

you have encapsulated how I feel pretty well, honestly. bad things happen to everyone, and I'm not an exception. I agree with you in that it doesn't matter at the end of the day. I don't see much of a point in assigning blame on how my own life has gone because ultimately, I am responsible for myself.

I'm glad... not glad about shared understanding, but glad I got it right. Sometimes I don't.

But, anyway... yeah, sometimes I do blame myself for things whether they are my fault or not... and that's a whole thing. But, I take no consolation when people will recognize that a particular failure or situation is not my fault. I mean, I'm still in the mess either way, and whether the whole I'm in was one I dug or not, I'm the one who has to figure out how to climb over it and fill it in behind me. Nobody but me suffers for being in that whole, and nobody but me is going to help me out of it or fill it in afterwards.

I wish I just would sometimes get to not fall into one hole after the other. A life of ups and downs actually sounds like heaven compared to my life of downs and further downs.