Jealousy (also concerned) with my younger brother not getting forced treatment

[trying ungracefully]

My older sister was sent to military school and more that I don't know, my older brother was sent to SO many places and got therapy and medication, and me being in therapy and medicated by 12. We all got poor treatment for a while and it was forced upon us. I am not saying it wasn't for a good reason but we obviously had no choice in the matter.

My younger brother gets to do whatever though. He is only medicated for ADHD which he wants and my parents made him do a short drug program because he did coke. He has a lot more issues though. He is an alcoholic, extreme compulsive liar(the lies he makes about my parents are concerning), obviously insecure (it is evident with his hateful/mean actions), and really off the rails where three times recently he didn't come home until he wanted to which was in the morning, other times he just doesn't care about curfew in general. Once my parents went looking for him because it got so late.

It's all up to him though. Since he doesn't want therapy my parents don't care to put him in it.

I know it is wrong but I wish he was forced into therapy, rehab, residential, getting medicated beyond ADHD. Something big. Beside it being concern, obviously I care about my brother and really am worried for him, I am jealous. I am jealous that he wasn't forced into therapy. I am jealous that he didn't have fear built into him as a young kid by if he was even minutes late there was an issue. I am jealous that he gets to do whatever with basically no repercussions. He does something bad like coming home inebriated, oh well, next day he can go out and it's not addressed.

He is almost 18 so it is basically too late but he should have gotten actually treatment when the issues where arising. He gets to destroy himself but because it is slower and not as obvious it doesn't fucking matter. The minute my mom noticed self harm on me she got me therapy. Which obviously is good but I am jealousy and don't understand why the same didn't happen to my brother when he started drinking and smoking at 14.

 

[GhostInTheMachine]

4 kids and you're all dealing with demons like that? That's so unlikely unless your parents are doing something fundamentally wrong. I'm sorry to hear how strict they were on you and your elder siblings, and it sounds like they're overcompensating with your younger brother to the point of letting him completely run rampant. Sadly, I think that's going to end more poorly for him than you because he seems more free to run himself off a cliff. Both your concern and jealousy are valid, but my advice would be to try to steer clear of any trouble he gets himself into.

I've seen many innocent people get hurt because of the actions of one selfish fuck. All it takes is him doing something monumentally retarded and having your family end up in the crosshairs of the backlash.

 

[trying ungracefully]

4 kids and you're all dealing with demons like that? That's so unlikely unless your parents are doing something fundamentally wrong. I'm sorry to hear how strict they were on you and your elder siblings, and it sounds like they're overcompensating with your younger brother to the point of letting him completely run rampant. Sadly, I think that's going to end more poorly for him than you because he seems more free to run himself off a cliff. Both your concern and jealousy are valid, but my advice would be to try to steer clear of any trouble he gets himself into.

I've seen many innocent people get hurt because of the actions of one selfish fuck. All it takes is him doing something monumentally retarded and having your family end up in the crosshairs of the backlash.

yeah there were a lot of parent issues and unavoidable traumas we all experienced. They've changed for the better in some ways but you're right they are overcompensating a lot now. They are scared now to do what they did to me and my two siblings because it messed us up with the treatment we got

I really hope he changes for himself and others. He already had to go to court and pay a fine because he was in an abandoned building. I don't want to see his life go to shit.