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deadstillwalking

deadstillwalking

floating away from everyone
Apr 23, 2024
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For context, I'm about to turn 19. She approached me after our chemistry class yesterday and asked me out on a date (which we had a few hours ago). She's a very pretty cheerful girl, I'd thought that the conversation could have died pretty easily but to my surprise it didn't, she had so much to talk about. We shared quite a few common opinions and I turned out to be so much less nervous than expected. In the end the meeting turned out very well. The thing is though that I have a feeling that I could have talked more, share more things about myself, but I didn't. There was nothing to talk about. My life? is pretty much non-existent. I wish I could say that I play video games 24/7 but that would be a lie. I have spent the last few years in my own head, due to social withdrawal, from social anxiety and whatnot. I don't remember what I did 3 days ago until someone brings the details up, I'm afraid that I will forget this day too. I'm not suicidal but I'm severely anhedonic and derealized which makes me feel dead - is this not the case? How is it any different from being dead? Either way, could someone please give me tips on this? Should I consult a psychologist?
 
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Chuuya-Chan ⋆. 𐙚˚

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I'd say don't let this slip out of your fingers. It went well! And if you think you need to get professional help I'd say give it a go, just remember at the end of the day you need try for yourself to get better because a pill or therapy won't fix the problem, they're just to aid you out of the toughest times to be able to help yourself
 
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deadstillwalking

deadstillwalking

floating away from everyone
Apr 23, 2024
63
I'd say don't let this slip out of your fingers. It went well! And if you think you need to get professional help I'd say give it a go, just remember at the end of the day you need try for yourself to get better because a pill or therapy won't fix the problem, they're just to aid you out of the toughest times to be able to help yourself
thank you very much, I needed to hear this. I will try my best
 
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Aug 25, 2018
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Yes, ideally you would consult a psychologist (or whoever) and explore treatment options -- high priority on this.

If you're concerned about your ability to navigate a relationship right now, what about just keeping it casual? (read: friends with benefits) Focusing on having a good time when you're together, without the emotional investment? My gut tells me this is your best option here, but I might be wrong!

Whatever you choose, I feel happy for you that this happened and wish you good luck!
 
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dontwakemeup

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Nov 11, 2024
696
Congratulations, you took a big step today and I'm proud of you🥰 It sounds like you had a wonderful as she did too. I suggest you seek therapy, if they offer meds, take them.
You may find this new woman can make you happier and help you open up more. I'm excited for you! I wish you the best!
 
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