This is a long story; it might be some good gossip, so it might be worth reading, even if you don't know how to help. I was even unsure whether to use the tag "help" or "story" btw
Well, about 4 or 5 years ago I met someone, I'll call her Julia (fictitious name), initially on Twitter. At the time I thought she was a nice, pretty person, and I followed her. I never thought of anything more than that.I had never thought about anything romantic, especially since she was dating someone at the time.
About a month after I started following her, and we were very close, talking almost every day, she deleted all her accounts and disappeared. Eight months passed without me hearing absolutely ANY news from her, until she suddenly reappeared, saying she'd gotten into a fight and needed to disappear from social media, but that she couldn't stand being away from me. She said that her previous relationship had ended a long time ago because she only thought about me and didn't want anything more to do with him. And so it went for a while longer, until we started dating. The entire relationship was TERRIBLE, even though I didn't realize it at the time. She was incredibly controlling, possessive, and would frequently argue with me over trivial things (like me going to the market) And so it goes. This lasted about 3 months (although in my perception it felt much longer, at least 6 months) I told her I knew she had anxiety attacks, and for some reason, finding that out made her freak out and break up with me. She said I was horrible, that she never loved me, and that I should die alone. I felt terrible and refused to go back when she came to apologize days later. I felt awful and believed everything she said, even though she claimed it was just out of anger. Months passed with us communicating indirectly (posting something in a digital diary we had lmao), And that's when I saw that she started flirting with other people. I felt terrible, gave up on her, blocked her from everything, and moved on with my life. Exactly one month later, she started sending me frequent messages through an option on my bank's website. This led me to unblock her, we started talking, and when we were almost getting back together, I found out she had cheated on me with 8 PEOPLE in those 3 months, and was trying to hook up with many of my friends. And that was the last straw for me; I blocked her from everything. She was defaming me to everyone online, she graffitied my gate insulting me, she tried to message my mother saying that I had assaulted her, He tried to stab me twice, forged screenshots to try and turn people against me (and I always managed to prove otherwise), and after so many failures, he gave up
This all lasted about a year of chasing. After that, I started dating an amazing person (whom I recently broke up with, and I even made a post about it here on the site
Link: https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...-day-after-day-i-feel-worse-and-worse.232105/), And in those last few weeks, shortly before my breakup, a very strange person followed me, started interacting a lot with me, and messaged me. We talked quite a bit; she asked for advice and help, Especially regarding dating. It's a long story to tell here, so I'll skip that part. But anyway, she made her relationship with a guy official. I went to follow him, and when I opened his profile, he had a photo with my ex, and it was super recent, and his girlfriend commented proving that it was her in the photo and not something old. I blocked them at the time, but now it scares me a lot. Back then I was able to defend myself because I had screenshots and proof of everything I did; I had people who knew the story firsthand, Today I have NONE of that. And I'm afraid of why she came back into my life like that, out of nowhere. What does she want, what's her plan? She never did anything that wasn't planned, He even went so far as to give a friend of mine sleeping pills just to try and take advantage of him to get nude photos (probably for blackmail, I think). I'm terrified of what might happen. I truly wish that girl had been dead for a long time, I hate her. Even with my current perspective, I realize that MANY of her actions resemble what someone with untreated BPD would do, and I firmly believe that. My girlfriend also had BPD, but she was getting treatment. She's also in the field of psychology, and she's certain that my ex (Julia) has borderline personality disorder.
I just want to know HOW do I deal with this? What do I do? How do I get this person out of my life??? I hate her. Her mere presence makes me feel bad. And I don't even know why she keeps harassing me. It's sick. I had to move twice because she found out where I lived and would come yelling at my gate and threatening me. Nowadays I don't even have a way to take her to court for everything she did, because I no longer have the videos and photos that prove it
Well, about 4 or 5 years ago I met someone, I'll call her Julia (fictitious name), initially on Twitter. At the time I thought she was a nice, pretty person, and I followed her. I never thought of anything more than that.I had never thought about anything romantic, especially since she was dating someone at the time.
About a month after I started following her, and we were very close, talking almost every day, she deleted all her accounts and disappeared. Eight months passed without me hearing absolutely ANY news from her, until she suddenly reappeared, saying she'd gotten into a fight and needed to disappear from social media, but that she couldn't stand being away from me. She said that her previous relationship had ended a long time ago because she only thought about me and didn't want anything more to do with him. And so it went for a while longer, until we started dating. The entire relationship was TERRIBLE, even though I didn't realize it at the time. She was incredibly controlling, possessive, and would frequently argue with me over trivial things (like me going to the market) And so it goes. This lasted about 3 months (although in my perception it felt much longer, at least 6 months) I told her I knew she had anxiety attacks, and for some reason, finding that out made her freak out and break up with me. She said I was horrible, that she never loved me, and that I should die alone. I felt terrible and refused to go back when she came to apologize days later. I felt awful and believed everything she said, even though she claimed it was just out of anger. Months passed with us communicating indirectly (posting something in a digital diary we had lmao), And that's when I saw that she started flirting with other people. I felt terrible, gave up on her, blocked her from everything, and moved on with my life. Exactly one month later, she started sending me frequent messages through an option on my bank's website. This led me to unblock her, we started talking, and when we were almost getting back together, I found out she had cheated on me with 8 PEOPLE in those 3 months, and was trying to hook up with many of my friends. And that was the last straw for me; I blocked her from everything. She was defaming me to everyone online, she graffitied my gate insulting me, she tried to message my mother saying that I had assaulted her, He tried to stab me twice, forged screenshots to try and turn people against me (and I always managed to prove otherwise), and after so many failures, he gave up
This all lasted about a year of chasing. After that, I started dating an amazing person (whom I recently broke up with, and I even made a post about it here on the site
Link: https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...-day-after-day-i-feel-worse-and-worse.232105/), And in those last few weeks, shortly before my breakup, a very strange person followed me, started interacting a lot with me, and messaged me. We talked quite a bit; she asked for advice and help, Especially regarding dating. It's a long story to tell here, so I'll skip that part. But anyway, she made her relationship with a guy official. I went to follow him, and when I opened his profile, he had a photo with my ex, and it was super recent, and his girlfriend commented proving that it was her in the photo and not something old. I blocked them at the time, but now it scares me a lot. Back then I was able to defend myself because I had screenshots and proof of everything I did; I had people who knew the story firsthand, Today I have NONE of that. And I'm afraid of why she came back into my life like that, out of nowhere. What does she want, what's her plan? She never did anything that wasn't planned, He even went so far as to give a friend of mine sleeping pills just to try and take advantage of him to get nude photos (probably for blackmail, I think). I'm terrified of what might happen. I truly wish that girl had been dead for a long time, I hate her. Even with my current perspective, I realize that MANY of her actions resemble what someone with untreated BPD would do, and I firmly believe that. My girlfriend also had BPD, but she was getting treatment. She's also in the field of psychology, and she's certain that my ex (Julia) has borderline personality disorder.
I just want to know HOW do I deal with this? What do I do? How do I get this person out of my life??? I hate her. Her mere presence makes me feel bad. And I don't even know why she keeps harassing me. It's sick. I had to move twice because she found out where I lived and would come yelling at my gate and threatening me. Nowadays I don't even have a way to take her to court for everything she did, because I no longer have the videos and photos that prove it
