I've been catfishing for a year now.

[Aesop]

Disclaimer: English is not my first language, please don't judge.

Here goes...

As the title says, I've been catfishing someone I care and love deeply for almost a year. I know it's selfish for me to do it, and I am also aware that it's wrong. I also didn't mean to go this far.

An online friend of mine found out and decided to talk to me about it. I told her not to tell anyone, especially to the person who's most dear to me. I told her that I'm the one who's going to tell that person. She agreed.

My problem is that I don't know when will I be ready to tell her, I also don't want to lose her even if I know that I will cause of my selfishness and that I'm a liar.

Can someone please suggest on what shall I do or how do I accept the fact that I'll no longer be able to keep her the moment I confess.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

Details on the catfish? Who are you pretending to be? How is she responding?

 

[LONE WOLF.]

What's Catfishing?

 

[WornOutLife]

I've told many lies throughout my lies and my conclusion is that the more time you take to tell the truth, the more it will hurt.

Just be honest. If you keep on lying, things will be really much worse than you can imagine.

Worst-case-scenario, she'll stop talking to you. That's not the end of the world. There are billions of humans out there!

 

[UterEntonaur]

I also don't want to lose her...

I know it's selfish for me to do it...

Can someone please suggest on what shall I do or how do I accept the fact that I'll no longer be able to keep her the moment I confess.

I think you already know that you've lost this person, and I think you already knew this would happen, when they eventually discovered you had lied....

The only decision you can make is when you start being honest with them, and let them decide how they handle/deal with it, and if they can forgive you

 

[DunnoWhyButYeah]

Be honest to her. I don't know what kind of catfishing you are doing to her, but only way handle that situation is tell her about it and wait what she is thinking. Maybe she can forgive you? And after that you can build normal relationship with her. Depends what you are doing, how and why.

I don't know why, but I have some guy who is doing that to me. I know what he is doing, because his new profiles etc what he use to get close to me are not well planned and I must say that I don't think much good things about him... I'm just waiting when he tells me the truth, because I really want to understand reasons behind that.

 

[Life_and_Death]

Be honest to her. I don't know what kind of catfishing you are doing to her, but only way handle that situation is tell her about it and wait what she is thinking. Maybe she can forgive you? And after that you can build normal relationship with her. Depends what you are doing, how and why.

i have to agree with this advice and others like it above.

im sort of in the same situation where i have to tell a hurtful truth to my husband with the fear of losing him. however i believe being honest is the best thing to do, its better to tell the truth then it is to continue a lie

 

[lofticries]

You need to be honest with her. This relationship is not only wasting her time but your time as well. Also the longer this goes on the bigger the fallout will be.

What's Catfishing?

Pretending to be someone else online.

 

[LONE WOLF.]

You need to be honest with her. This relationship is not only wasting her time but your time as well. Also the longer this goes on the bigger the fallout will be.

Pretending to be someone else online.

desolatexdevon, Thank You:-)

 

[Makko]

If you've chosen the way of lies, follow it to the end. Telling the truth won't do you any good.

 

[Aesop]

Thank you all for the wonderful advices and for telling me to be honest with her.

Well actually, I pretended that I'm a guy and kept on insisting that I am ((which I know is very wrong)). I wasn't that serious at first, I didn't know that I'd be too attached. Now, I can't find the right timing to even tell her the truth—or if I can even tell her the truth. I know I'll lose her. I just want to end this so I don't waste her time anymore.

 

[LastFlowers]

What's Catfishing?

 

[Jumper Geo]

There is a new UK version of the American show Catfish that starts tonight.

Catfish UK release date | Hosts, trailers, and news

Everything you need to know about the UK series of Catfish.

www.radiotimes.com

Cheers

Geo

 

[Lmd]

Thank you all for the wonderful advices and for telling me to be honest with her.

Well actually, I pretended that I'm a guy and kept on insisting that I am ((which I know is very wrong)). I wasn't that serious at first, I didn't know that I'd be too attached. Now, I can't find the right timing to even tell her the truth—or if I can even tell her the truth. I know I'll lose her. I just want to end this so I don't waste her time anymore.

It should be more like to don't waste YOUR time. You are just swimming in false hopes and illusions.

 

[TriggerHappy]

What's Catfishing?

check out the Urban Dictionary - if you're a wordsmith :: loads of interesting fun!

 

[Artielux]

Do you get any positive feelings from catfishing? it doesn't sound like it would end in a good way ever

 

[Aesop]

Hello Guys!! I decided to tell her the truth last night. I don't know if it went well or I just prolonged the pain that I'm experiencing right now.

She wanted to stay even as friends despite all that has happened and I gladly accepted her into my life again. I was thinking that I'd move on from the fact that we were not really meant to be, and that there's nothing that I can do if she prefers men (I'm a girl btw). She didn't want to let go of me, she said she even loved me more now that I told her the truth. But her plans in the future are different. She wanted to have kids—her own kids and that is something that I cannot do.

Is it right to stay even as friends? Even if it'll hurt me more? I still see her being in my life in the future. I wanted to keep her..