Is anyone else experiencing this?

[rotten_hrtz]

I have always been grateful that my family wants to take care of me, especially since, due to life's circumstances, I still live with my parents (I am 19 years old and finding a house in this country and economy is very difficult) but as time has passed, they have started to take away my privacy

My mom and my younger sister are afraid I'll commit suicide, so they NEVER let me be alone, although I understand their good intentions, it also frustrates me that I can't have any time alone without being watched.

My mom says they just want to take care of me and that I'm being ungrateful, but I also wish I could be alone for a moment without them constantly questioning what I'm doing, It also bothers me that they take away anything sharp as if it were really going to hurt me (they even take away small needles even though I've never tried to hurt myself with them) I don't want to be ungrateful and I've tried not to complain about it, but it does bother me.

I really don't understand. I don't know if I'm truly ungrateful or if I have a point where I deserve privacy. Has this happened to anyone else?

 

[Zyntkalla]

I am wondering have you tried to commit suicide before? Or is your family over protective like my dad is but not to the extreme like your situation.

 

[rotten_hrtz]

I am wondering have you tried to commit suicide before? Or is your family over protective like my dad is but not to the extreme like your situation.

Yes, I have attempted suicide, but the last time I tried I was 16, so I don't understand why they won't let me do anything without suspecting me

 

[ellisdisappeared]

My mom and my younger sister are afraid I'll commit suicide, so they NEVER let me be alone, although I understand their good intentions, it also frustrates me that I can't have any time alone without being watched.

Yes, I definitely understand going through this type of situation, and it's extremely annoying. To put it simply.

My door can't be locked, my parents took it away. For some reason they still have locks in their rooms? I'm just not allowed to go in there alone.

All of the supervision just makes me feel like a kid. Sometimes when i inevitably have breakdowns, the security only strengthens.

 

[rotten_hrtz]

Yes, I definitely understand going through this type of situation, and it's extremely annoying. To put it simply.

My door can't be locked, my parents took it away. For some reason they still have locks in their rooms? I'm just not allowed to go in there alone.

All of the supervision just makes me feel like a kid. Sometimes when i inevitably have breakdowns, the security only strengthens.

I understand, I really don't know what else to do to make them understand that I also need privacy. I imagine it must be difficult for you too

 

[GodzillasBiggestFan]

when i lived with my parents they did this to me, wouldnt let me have any scarf or belt in my room and locked up all knives in the house. it is hard to be without privacy.

 

[rotten_hrtz]

Cuando vivía con mis padres me hacían esto, no me dejaban tener ninguna bufanda o cinturón en mi habitación y guardaban bajo llave todos los cuchillos de la casa. Es difícil estar sin privacidad.

Lo entiendo, se vuelve muy frustrante, especialmente porque no puedes quejarte de la falta de privacidad porque te consideran "desagradecido"

 

[dontletthembribeyou]

I was in a similar situation a few years ago. The constant surveillance only contributed to my depression/anxiety and my suicidal ideation was significantly worse at that time. In addition to feeling invasive it's just insulting honestly

 

[rotten_hrtz]

I was in a similar situation a few years ago. The constant surveillance only contributed to my depression/anxiety and my suicidal ideation was significantly worse at that time. In addition to feeling invasive it's just insulting honestly

Exactly, it's very humiliating and uncomfortable. It bothers me when they do that to me, but I don't know how to stop it

 

[TwoSoulsLiveInMe]

This behavior really just shows how selfish people are when it comes to care for people who are suicidal. They eliminate any sense of privacy in the pursuit of safety, and completely ignore the harm that can cause to someone who is already struggling.

Being constantly watched and accompanied, forced to confront interpersonal relationships in a very violating and humiliating way. It's dehumanizing, privacy is a basic human right, and the idea that it can be forfeit is dangerous.

I'm sorry your family is causing you this discomfort, but know you are not alone. This exact behavior has been mirrored in my life when I was living with my parents and grandparents. They slowly took away my autonomy and alone time to keep me safe, but all it did was make my struggles more violent, inwards towards myself.