Venting Imprisonment by my family

[FloatingJellyfish]

I made a post before explaining what happened but now things are getting worse.
Yesterday my mother attacked my dog when I stopped her she started attacking me.
I defended myself but got punished for not letting her hurt me.
Now I've been taken away my keys, card, phone and any outside ways of communication.
Besides this laptop that I shall use to research the sin of not letting your mother hit you.
Today both my sis and mom locked themselves up in their rooms
Every time I see one they refuse talking to me.
I had to write an apology letter to get my things back but she is refusing on reading it or giving my stuff back.
I've been taken away any type of human interaction.
Not allowed to even talk to my friends.
Its tortures.
I'm being treated like I'm a prisoner in isolation confinement for not letting her hit me.
I'm so lonely and sad being treated like lowest of the low.
I just want to kill myself.
I don't want to live like this.
Having her beating me up and then get locked away for daring to defend myself.
I'm in so much pain.

 

[Manfrotto99]

I'm so sorry. Have you told anyone what is going on? It's abuse and legally it sounds like it wouldn't be allowed and needs investigation. But that is my guess and its a whole other story tying to prove anything . You must also be scared of the repercussions that might occur. It's a trap, but in my opinion, you have 3 choices, leave your home for good, ctb or stay and try to sweat it out. If you stay, even until youv'e organised your get away, you need to be cleaver and find strategies. Be wise, get tough.

Have you tried to show your mother that you have boundaries and can't be simply pushed around and treated as a punching bag at her whim? Is this the first time she has taken your keys and cards ? That is stealing and you could report her. She cannot stop you from talking to friends and other people. Does she do this kind of thing often and for how long? Have you got any supportive friends? You need strategies. I know planning to CTB can be strategy, but have you tried others? I gather your sister is on your mums side?

Yes you will be feeling very low and ashamed and its a heavy weight to bear. You are a victim by someone who is supposed to care and love you, but who instead is using you to make herself feel better by bullying and being in control. As a victim of domestic abuse myself, narcissistic father and narc golden child sister, I can only try to share some of my own strategies in the hope something might help you.

I decided to stay and endure the abuse for personal and financial reasons. Some would say its been the wrong choce, but familes are complicated and we need money to survive. Some of my strategies have worked in the past to some degree, but they do not seem to be working anymore and are currently falling apart. Ctb is my back up plan but i still employ strategies to survive while i wait for the right timing.

 

[FloatingJellyfish]

I'm so sorry. Have you told anyone what is going on? It's abuse and legally it sounds like it wouldn't be allowed and needs investigation. But that is my guess and its a whole other story tying to prove anything . You must also be scared of the repercussions that might occur. It's a trap, but in my opinion, you have 3 choices, leave your home for good, ctb or stay and try to sweat it out. If you stay, even until youv'e organised your get away, you need to be cleaver and find strategies. Be wise, get tough.

Have you tried to show your mother that you have boundaries and can't be simply pushed around and treated as a punching bag at her whim? Is this the first time she has taken your keys and cards ? That is stealing and you could report her. She cannot stop you from talking to friends and other people. Does she do this kind of thing often and for how long? Have you got any supportive friends? You need strategies. I know planning to CTB can be strategy, but have you tried others? I gather your sister is on your mums side?

Yes you will be feeling very low and ashamed and its a heavy weight to bear. You are a victim by someone who is supposed to care and love you, but who instead is using you to make herself feel better by bullying and being in control. As a victim of domestic abuse myself, narcissistic father and narc golden child sister, I can only try to share some of my own strategies in the hope something might help you.

I decided to stay and endure the abuse for personal and financial reasons. Some would say its been the wrong choce, but familes are complicated and we need money to survive. Some of my strategies have worked in the past to some degree, but they do not seem to be working anymore and are currently falling apart. Ctb is my back up plan but i still employ strategies to survive while i wait for the right timing.

Told friends but they can't do anything. If I talk about boundaries she gets mad saying I can't expect her to change her ways cause she isn't young anymore and the fact that I survived this long means she is a good mother.
She has always taken freedom from me mostly imprison me at home only letting me out when she feels like it but only if I sent her constant reports on where I am. She normally doesn't take my phone away tho. Can't cbt even though I want I know it would end with my dog getting abused. My sister is on my mom's side always but only because it benefits her, she is moving out now ergo being on her side means she can move out without my mom interfering with her. Since she wanted to move out my mom was genuinely upset at her mostly venting on me, now that she is angry with me my sister has full support. Yeah I'll try to stick it out till I have the financials to move out but I have to leave the country as well at the same time otherwise she'll find me. We have family in high positions in airforce and military who wouldn't care why I run only that I get back to her.

 

[struggles_inc]

Treat it as a hostage situation, as it clearly looks like one. Comply with your mother. Write an apology with ChatGPT if you can't muster up the words to write it yourself. Plan escape in silence, no matter how far away from now, it will give you hope and power to push through till you finally run away from her.
Read your previous thread. I would bet on your mom being a narcissistic type.

When my mom locked me out, I would always play on her ego. Stroke it a little. Say how you understand you clearly offended her dignity with your actions and while you understand the seriousness of the disrespect you caused her, you hope that she will forgive you, because you have reflected on your actions and you regret ever hurting her. Say you made a mistake.

I think in this stage you need to stay low-profile with her. Seeing she can turn physically violent, it's dangerous to provoke her.
With my mom, seeing me cry would lighten her up a bit. Be careful with that though. If she enjoys it too much, it will play out not in your favour.

Having a witness also made a difference for me. Narcissistic people behave better when supervised. However, that depends highly on a witness, because a wrong witness will make them wish to perform cruelty to a greater extent. For me, someone from the outside worked. A mailman, a neighbour, her colleague from work. Someone who she would consider a reputation point.

 

[FloatingJellyfish]

Treat it as a hostage situation, as it clearly looks like one. Comply with your mother. Write an apology with ChatGPT if you can't muster up the words to write it yourself. Plan escape in silence, no matter how far away from now, it will give you hope and power to push through till you finally run away from her.
Read your previous thread. I would bet on your mom being a narcissistic type.

When my mom locked me out, I would always play on her ego. Stroke it a little. Say how you understand you clearly offended her dignity with your actions and while you understand the seriousness of the disrespect you caused her, you hope that she will forgive you, because you have reflected on your actions and you regret ever hurting her. Say you made a mistake.

I think in this stage you need to stay low-profile with her. Seeing she can turn physically violent, it's dangerous to provoke her.
With my mom, seeing me cry would lighten her up a bit. Be careful with that though. If she enjoys it too much, it will play out not in your favour.

Having a witness also made a difference for me. Narcissistic people behave better when supervised. However, that depends highly on a witness, because a wrong witness will make them wish to perform cruelty to a greater extent. For me, someone from the outside worked. A mailman, a neighbour, her colleague from work. Someone who she would consider a reputation point.

Thank you for the tips. I've been doing what you're saying but she wants to play victim as long as possible faking injuries even then suddenly screaming at me. I wrote her a latter exactly like this but she is refusing to read it now. Supervision doesn't work on her cause she will not back down from anyone . I'm gonna stay low profile now for awhile like you said. Thank you a lot

 

[struggles_inc]

Thank you for the tips. I've been doing what you're saying but she wants to play victim as long as possible faking injuries even then suddenly screaming at me. I wrote her a latter exactly like this but she is refusing to read it now. Supervision doesn't work on her cause she will not back down from anyone . I'm gonna stay low profile now for awhile like you said. Thank you a lot

If she wants to play victim, play along. Perhaps she doesn't want to read your letter because she wants a teary apology from you personally. At least that's what I would think as a kid.

The bottom line is, narcissistic people are actually really easily manipulated. Your leverage will change from person to person but the core idea will be ego. This helped me survive and will probably help you.
Beware that it will be trial and error and you will get burned. In my childhood, it took me a lot of time to figure out what worked. Just keep in mind how she operates and you might run into some funny stuff.

For example, my mom has a lot of pride, so if I convinced or manipulated a third-party person to pressure her to make me a promise or forgive me for something, she will actually do it because she's too prideful to back down from her own words.

 

[FloatingJellyfish]

If she wants to play victim, play along. Perhaps she doesn't want to read your letter because she wants a teary apology from you personally. At least that's what I would think as a kid.

The bottom line is, narcissistic people are actually really easily manipulated. Your leverage will change from person to person but the core idea will be ego. This helped me survive and will probably help you.
Beware that it will be trial and error and you will get burned. In my childhood, it took me a lot of time to figure out what worked. Just keep in mind how she operates and you might run into some funny stuff.

For example, my mom has a lot of pride, so if I convinced or manipulated a third-party person to pressure her to make me a promise or forgive me for something, she will actually do it because she's too prideful to back down from her own words.

Not gonna work well she thinks everything i do is manipulation even though im not (cause my dad used to and I look like him).
I gave her a teary apology just now and it was actually real.
She managed to make me feel so guilty for something I havent done, I bursted out crying apologising to her.
And then she said im a stranger to her and a danger not her daughter.
She did give me my phone back
But by putting it on the lunch table
And disappearing with my sis for 2 hours.
Without saying a word.

But keeps saying I committed the greatest sin and will be punished by god in hell.
Also talking about how just because my father used to hit me doesnt excuse me defending (she said rising my hand) myself from her.
Saying its no excuse if I get a ptsd flashback I should have just let her.
(Weird coming from a psychologist which she is btw)
She did say goodnight back at least so maybe thats something.
I try playing it low and just helping out at home but everytime she sees me she starts trying to guilt trip me.

I will continue following your tips
Thank you
Sorry for the quick vent, genuinely just feeling overwhelmed and abandoned

 

[struggles_inc]

Not gonna work well she thinks everything i do is manipulation even though im not (cause my dad used to and I look like him).
I gave her a teary apology just now and it was actually real.
She managed to make me feel so guilty for something I havent done, I bursted out crying apologising to her.
And then she said im a stranger to her and a danger not her daughter.
She did give me my phone back
But by putting it on the lunch table
And disappearing with my sis for 2 hours.
Without saying a word.

But keeps saying I committed the greatest sin and will be punished by god in hell.
Also talking about how just because my father used to hit me doesnt excuse me defending (she said rising my hand) myself from her.
Saying its no excuse if I get a ptsd flashback I should have just let her.
(Weird coming from a psychologist which she is btw)
She did say goodnight back at least so maybe thats something.
I try playing it low and just helping out at home but everytime she sees me she starts trying to guilt trip me.

I will continue following your tips
Thank you
Sorry for the quick vent, genuinely just feeling overwhelmed and abandoned

It's ok. I'm really sorry you're going through this.
My conscience turned off when I was small, so my mom couldn't ever make me feel guilty or make me spiral. It's partially what kept me sane, so I can't even start to imagine the emotions you're going through.

Good news is that you have your phone back. That's a little win, albeit fragile, in all this situation. Please stay safe. I can't in my right mind advise you to actively detach from your emotions, but that's what I ended up doing.

I think you don't have to ctb. I don't really see how any of this is your fault or how it might have decayed your psyche. Seeing your reactions, I think once the abuse is finally behind you, you have a solid chance for recovery.

 

[Manfrotto99]

If she wants to play victim, play along. Perhaps she doesn't want to read your letter because she wants a teary apology from you personally. At least that's what I would think as a kid.

The bottom line is, narcissistic people are actually really easily manipulated. Your leverage will change from person to person but the core idea will be ego. This helped me survive and will probably help you.
Beware that it will be trial and error and you will get burned. In my childhood, it took me a lot of time to figure out what worked. Just keep in mind how she operates and you might run into some funny stuff.

For example, my mom has a lot of pride, so if I convinced or manipulated a third-party person to pressure her to make me a promise or forgive me for something, she will actually do it because she's too prideful to back down from her own words.

"Funny stuff" is a good word for it. Dealing with narcissists made me believe in God because funny stuff does goes go on with them and I swear it is demonic in nature. Best thing always is to get away but unless you have finances, it's not easy and the roots of what they cause in your pschye will go with you no matter where you go, until you have delt with it. Pride is a big one they all have I common, they really hate to be shown up in front of people and to some extent you have to use that as levearage where you can.

 

[FloatingJellyfish]

It's ok. I'm really sorry you're going through this.
My conscience turned off when I was small, so my mom couldn't ever make me feel guilty or make me spiral. It's partially what kept me sane, so I can't even start to imagine the emotions you're going through.

Good news is that you have your phone back. That's a little win, albeit fragile, in all this situation. Please stay safe. I can't in my right mind advise you to actively detach from your emotions, but that's what I ended up doing.

I think you don't have to ctb. I don't really see how any of this is your fault or how it might have decayed your psyche. Seeing your reactions, I think once the abuse is finally behind you, you have a solid chance for recovery.

I used to actually detach from my emotions but it made her worse.
My sis is a good example of this she detaches constantly and it frightens my mother cause she cant tell what's going on, her solution is spying through her stuff (phone, laptop, following her, getting me to investigate) and big aggressions towards me more then her. When I started to detach too, it made her feral any reaction she couldn't get would be a direct attack towards her and so I had to become emotional again in a way to not get more harm.
I agree with you on the recovery aspect, my mental health is always best when im left alone at home or when im just not interacting with them.
Taking actually good care of myself and being happy.
Actually havent wanted to cbt or sh in a while now even threw away some emergency exit meds but then I got pushed into a spiral once again.
And now its like all progress got thrown out at least temporarily.
So yeah genuinely I think going away from them both will be something that will get me to recovery, even with the trauma.

 

[Manfrotto99]

Here are a few tips, some may work for you, some may not - as been already said, it's a matter of trial and error, they all have their own unique "funny ways": I have been a victim of 2 narcs my entire life and am still very much in the midst of struggling with it. It is why I am on ready to CTB. I was recently told the narcissistic in my life have some very high ranking demons behind them. Believe it or not, it makes much sense from the things I've experienced in my life.

Your lucky your sister is getting away. She would be the golden child, but I'm sure she will most likely still find a way to cause trouble, they often do. In no particular order.

1. Device a permanant escape route and stay focused on it.

2. Build a support structure - this could involve your doctor, psychs, family, friends, church etc. Finding support is not easy when dealing with these people but they love it when they see you vulnerable with no friends or support structure. They love to keep things hidden and behind closed doors.

3. Get knowledgeable about narcissists. There is heaps of good information on youtube.

4. Record - do hidden recordings as evidence if you ever need it. It will also help convince friends etc. Be careful who you share it with though. Do not let you mum find out. Be cunning and secretive.

5. Have a respite place - have somewhere to go when things flare up, maybe a friends place. Be prepared and vigilant. Learn the signs so you can get away beforehand and stay until things calm down. Have extra keys made up etc. My respite place I can go to when things flare up is a church home for abused women.

6. Constantly work on yourself so you don't believe the lies they feed you about yourself. They are master manipulators and will try to destroy your soul.

7. Realise your mum needs you around - as someone to control and project her crap onto to boost her fragile ego. To some extent you can use this as leverage,

8. Try to remain silent and not be provoked or react with anger. Way easier said they done, they know which buttons to push, but they will always use your words as weapons to defend themselves and to tear you down.

8. Build spiritual weapons and fight in the Spiritual through prayer and the words of God. If your mother is twisting and using Gods word against you to boost her ego, then learn it yourself and use it as its intended purpose, as a weapon to defend yourself against your abusers. God is patient, but He can get angry too. "Funny things" will happen.

9. Pray for help from God to guide you. Especially His Holy Spirit, so you can be as gentle as a dove but as wise as a snake. Ask God to lead you to the right church who can help you. They are out there, it the reason why I have not CTB as yet.

10. Realise that what you mum says to you is mostly how she feels and believes about herself. She will be trying to project the things she wants to disown about herself onto you. Don't believe the lies and accusations! Your support structure is important to help you with this.

 

[FloatingJellyfish]

"Funny stuff" is a good word for it. Dealing with narcissists made me believe in God because funny stuff does goes go on with them and I swear it is demonic in nature. Best thing always is to get away but unless you have finances, it's not easy and the roots of what they cause in your pschye will go with you no matter where you go, until you have delt with it. Pride is a big one they all have I common, they really hate to be shown up in front of people and to some extent you have to use that as levearage where you can.

Yeah i keep that in mind.
her pride is a bit fucked up tho.
For her its more important that she stands out good in her view than anyone else's.
She doesnt mind fighting the public regardless of how it makes her look.
When she is angry its more important for her to have a tantrum and force everyone her views on them.
Even throwing stuff against anyone.
Only time I managed to use it as leverage was when I got the highest exame score to enter university and wanted to go aboard her friend was with us and she said it would be difficult in this economy my mom got angry at her and said she can do it.
I was excited to leave but then she said without even looking into it a week later. We have no money so you can't go and she'd not feel good of i left.
She never even asked where or which uni, I had a whole plan with place to stay, payment options even part time etc.
She never looked once at it.
(This was before i got chronically ill which i got because of excessive stress my body couldn't handle).
But then went on multiple vacations with her former bf all around the country and spended money like water.
I guess I shouldnt be surprised but what im trying to say is.
She doesnt follow through and most tentatives end up in her getting mad.

 

[claracatchingthebus]

I have no idea what's happening.

If you are under 18, you shouldn't be here. Call CPS if you are being abused.

If you are over 18, leave and go to a homeless shelter. If you can't, technically it's false imprisonment which is a crime, unless you are in a conservatorship situation, in which case you shouldn't be here but could request the court find a new guardian.

I am not understanding the situation. Are you physically prevented from leaving? That's a crime, call the police and then leave.
If you are over 18, there are shelters for victims of domestic violence.

 

[FloatingJellyfish]

Here are a few tips, some may work for you, some may not - as been already said, it's a matter of trial and error, they all have their own unique "funny ways": I have been a victim of 2 narcs my entire life and am still very much in the midst of struggling with it. It is why I am on ready to CTB. I was recently told the narcissistic in my life have some very high ranking demons behind them. Believe it or not, it makes much sense from the things I've experienced in my life.

Your lucky your sister is getting away. She would be the golden child, but I'm sure she will most likely still find a way to cause trouble, they often do. In no particular order.

1. Device a permanant escape route and stay focused on it.

2. Build a support structure - this should involve doctors, psches, family and friends, church etc. Finding support is not easy when dealing with these people but they love it when they see you vulnerable with no friends or support structure. They love to keep things hidden and behind closed doors.

3. Get knowledgeable about narcissists. There is heaps of good information on youtube.

4. Record - do hidden recordings as evidence if you ever need it. It will also help convince friends etc. Be careful who you share it with though. Do not let you mum find out. Be cunning and secretive.

5. Have a respite place - have somewhere to go when things flare up, maybe a friends place. Be prepared and vigilant. Learn the signs so you can get away beforehand and stay until things calm down. Have extra keys made up etc. My respite place I can go to when things flare up is a church home for abused women.

6. Constantly work on yourself so you don't believe the lies they feed you about yourself. They are master manipulators and will try to destroy your soul.

7. Realise your mum needs you around - as someone to control and project her crap onto to boost her fragile ego. To some extent you can use this as leverage,

8. Try to remain silent and not be provoked or react with anger. Way easier said they done, they know which buttons to push, but they will always use your words as weapons to defend themselves and to tear you down.

8. Build spiritual weapons and fight in the Spiritual through prayer and the words of God. If your mother is twisting and using Gods word against you to boost her ego, then learn it yourself and use it as its intended purpose, as a weapon to defend yourself against the ungodly. God is patient, but He can get angry too. "Funny things" will happen.

9. Pray for help from God to guide you. Especially His Holy Spirit, so you can be as gentle as a dove but as wise as a snake. Ask God to lead you to the right church who can help you. They are out there, it the reason why I have not CTB as yet.

10. Realise that what you mum says to you is mostly how she feels and believes about herself. She will be trying to project the things she wants to disown about herself onto you. Don't believe the lies and accusations! Your support structure is important to help you with this.

I will try those tips Thank you.
Some stuff is inaccessible for me.
Support structure only can go as far as psychologically generally rarely people are going to help more then listening.
Or having a place to disappear to when things get out of hand is not possible since im not even allowed out most of the time by myself especially when things get bad im not allowed even out of my room.
As also we live very removed from the outside world it takes 3h for me to get to a city. She'd definitely go and destroy all my stuff canceling phone planes changing door look, can't leave my dog with her while she is like that.
Remaining silent makes her the most aggressive honestly the whole reason yesterday happened was that I mostly was not talkative enough eith her before my dog started barking.

These are mainly points that are pratically impossible for me to do at this time even my sister with 30 couldn't. Besides being silent but that would bleed into me getting problems.

Everything else I will do and I thank you alot of these tips.
Ive been reconnecting to god lately either way.

 

[claracatchingthebus]

I will try those tips Thank you.
Some stuff is inaccessible for me.
Support structure only can go as far as psychologically generally rarely people are going to help more then listening.
Or having a place to disappear to when things get out of hand is not possible since im not even allowed out most of the time by myself especially when things get bad im not allowed even out of my room.
As also we live very removed from the outside world it takes 3h for me to get to a city. She'd definitely go and destroy all my stuff canceling phone planes changing door look, can't leave my dog with her while she is like that.
Remaining silent makes her the most aggressive honestly the whole reason yesterday happened was that I mostly was not talkative enough eith her before my dog started barking.

These are mainly points that are pratically impossible for me to do at this time even my sister with 30 couldn't. Besides being silent but that would bleed into me getting problems.

Everything else I will do and I thank you alot of these tips.
Ive been reconnecting to god lately either way.

There may be domestic violence shelters that take pets. I would research domestic violence shelters. Get out of there.

 

[Manfrotto99]

There may be domestic violence shelters that take pets. I would research domestic violence shelters. Get

Yes I agree that really don't like it when your silent...they need to be in control and know what's going on in your head. I ment silent as in not being reactive and being selective in what you tell them.

I will try those tips Thank you.
Some stuff is inaccessible for me.
Support structure only can go as far as psychologically generally rarely people are going to help more then listening.
Or having a place to disappear to when things get out of hand is not possible since im not even allowed out most of the time by myself especially when things get bad im not allowed even out of my room.
As also we live very removed from the outside world it takes 3h for me to get to a city. She'd definitely go and destroy all my stuff canceling phone planes changing door look, can't leave my dog with her while she is like that.
Remaining silent makes her the most aggressive honestly the whole reason yesterday happened was that I mostly was not talkative enough eith her before my dog started barking.

These are mainly points that are pratically impossible for me to do at this time even my sister with 30 couldn't. Besides being silent but that would bleed into me getting problems.

Everything else I will do and I thank you alot of these tips.
Ive been reconnecting to god lately either way

You may have to try using some threats to get leverage with your mum...but that comes with knowing your mum and what you are dealing with. A psychologist in invaluable in this regard. If you can't go see one then there are qualified people online who can help. Also they can help with legalities if it ever comes to that.

 

[FloatingJellyfish]

I have no idea what's happening.

If you are under 18, you shouldn't be here. Call CPS if you are being abused.

If you are over 18, leave and go to a homeless shelter. If you can't, technically it's false imprisonment which is a crime, unless you are in a conservatorship situation, in which case you shouldn't be here but could request the court find a new guardian.

I am not understanding the situation. Are you physically prevented from leaving? That's a crime, call the police and then leave.
If you are over 18, there are shelters for victims of domestic violence.

Can't get a shelter my country is facing major problems all the shelters are so full its in the news and alot got closed due to political corruption.
Im over 18 but chronically ill and most days of the month bedridden.
Yes I am physically prevented to leave.
If I try they physically hold me down and drag me back.
I still havent gotten my house keys back as well so im locked.
Police doesnt do much here if I try I'll get into problems.
She works for the police as a psychologist when push comes to show I'll be the one getting problems not her.
Regardless of prove.
Other problem is my dog I can not abandon him with them.
He is the one reason I managed to keep going till now and he needs me.
Best chances I have is making money secretly and run away once I have the means to it with my dog, out of country because of her influences and contacts here.
Also the government wont even pay for my meds I need in order be able to live with my illness.
Friend of mine got heavily beaten by their parents for years went to the police multiple times and they send him back everytime, that happens alot here.
My country is not a place where I can count on police or government or the sanctity or the law.
Only way getting out is by making my own money and disappearing from here.

 

[FloatingJellyfish]

There may be domestic violence shelters that take pets. I would research domestic violence shelters. Get out of there.

Genuinely looked into it but its like I said the shelters here are so full they dont take anyone in anymore.
In the news people were forced to sleep outside the shelters till the police dragged them away.
Its all over the country and the government will not pay for my medication.
Only chance I have is getting out with my own funds.
I know per law things seem simple get the police go to a shelter but in a corrupt country its generally impossible to get assistance from anyone but your own hand.

 

[Manfrotto99]

I have no idea what's happening.

If you are under 18, you shouldn't be here. Call CPS if you are being abused.

If you are over 18, leave and go to a homeless shelter. If you can't, technically it's false imprisonment which is a crime, unless you are in a conservatorship situation, in which case you shouldn't be here but could request the court find a new guardian.

I am not understanding the situation. Are you physically prevented from leaving? That's a crime, call the police and then leave.
If you are over 18, there are shelters for victims of domestic violence.

Some family situations can be extremely difficult. I think the mother is a psychologist so shes not going to be easy to get caught out and shes making threats Ie, harming the dog etc, unless there is evidence of abuse it's may cause more trouble. In situations like this, it's easy to say get out, we know it's the best thing, but unless you have finances or are willing to take your luck on the Street or have a friend who can take you in, then it's extremely difficult. Hopefully things will calm down and an exit plan will surface.

 

[claracatchingthebus]

Genuinely looked into it but its like I said the shelters here are so full they dont take anyone in anymore.
In the news people were forced to sleep outside the shelters till the police dragged them away.
Its all over the country and the government will not pay for my medication.
Only chance I have is getting out with my own funds.
I know per law things seem simple get the police go to a shelter but in a corrupt country its generally impossible to get assistance from anyone but your own hand.

Oh, what country? You may be right then. I figured you were USA or Canada because your English seems good. Are you elsewhere?

 

[FloatingJellyfish]

Some family situations can be extremely difficult. I think the mother is a psychologist so shes not going to be easy to get caught out and shes making threats Ie, harming the dog etc, unless there is evidence of abuse it's may cause more trouble. In situations like this, it's easy to say get out, we know it's the best thing, but unless you have finances or are willing to take your luck on the Street or have a friend who can take you in, then it's extremely difficult. Hopefully things will calm down and an exit plan will surface.

Thank you very much for understanding my situation
I do best to get out but I need to do it the reasonable less dangerous way.
To keep my dog and me both safe.

Oh, what country? You may be right then. I figured you were USA or Canada because your English seems good. Are you elsewhere?

Yeah im in Europe.
In a generally unstable country.
Id rather not tell where exactly.
Just somewhere that has a very corrupt government, alot of abuse cases all over the country, high rates of murder (staying on the streets is very dangerous here) and a mentality of "but its your family".
Which is funny cause after the internet its supposedly a safe country.
But they lie with crime rates constantly here either way.
Thanks for the compliment tho I learned English by reading alot

 

[claracatchingthebus]

Thank you very much for understanding my situation
I do best to get out but I need to do it the reasonable less dangerous way.
To keep my dog and me both safe.

Yeah im in Europe.
In a generally unstable country.
Id rather not tell where exactly.
Just somewhere that has a very corrupt government, alot of abuse cases all over the country, high rates of murder (staying on the streets is very dangerous here) and a mentality of "but its your family".
Which is funny cause after the internet its supposedly a safe country.
But they lie with crime rates constantly here either way.
Thanks for the compliment tho I learned English by reading alot

Okay, I understand, then if the culture of your country is that way, just be careful.

I would still find a way of documenting the abuse now in case your mother, who is a psychologist, tries to get your committed or conserved (or whatever the term is there). It could be as simple as email yourself something like "Note to myself" Dear self, today my mom hit me and I'm scared. I need to figure out what to do." It would at least get dated and time stamped from the metadata. It would be hard to show your posts on this forum to prove you aren't crazy and she's abusive. An email would at least date it, but talking with that website thehotline would be better, even if you don't do anything yet.

 

[FloatingJellyfish]

Okay, I understand, then if the culture of your country is that way, just be careful.

I would still find a way of documenting the abuse now in case your mother, who is a psychologist, tries to get your committed or conserved (or whatever the term is there). It could be as simple as email yourself something like "Note to myself" Dear self, today my mom hit me and I'm scared. I need to figure out what to do." It would at least get dated and time stamped from the metadata. It would be hard to show your posts on this forum to prove you aren't crazy and she's abusive. An email would at least date it, but talking with that website thehotline would be better, even if you don't do anything yet.

Yes I will do that thank you very much for the support