If you are in my situation, will you suicide?

[Mohamedömar]

I am 19 years old

I am very short (5'4 feet tall), ugly, weak young man with a skinny fat physique, poor sight
and a small thin penis.
I see my friends and especially Chads having gfs and marry beautiful girls while I will be lonely because there will be no woman even an ugly woman that love me (also most women and girls are taller than me).
I feel really bad and heartbroken, I am a cursed person that will live as a lonely subhuman.

If you were in my situation, would you commit suicide or try to live the life till the end?

 

[braintorture]

What's your goal? Kids? Sex?

 

[Cauliflour]

You're 19, you haven't even reached your 20s yet. Also I don't think marrying at 19 is a good idea so I wouldn't be jealous of those kinds of people.

Society has conditioned people into thinking they have to speedrun love and have a body count of 35 and 3 marriages by 21 in order to be seen as "worthy" which is complete bullshit. Try to be the best person you can be and you'll find women who are into you soon enough. I've heard exercise is good for improving depression, maybe that'll help? Obviously don't over do it or turn into those gym bros who act obnoxious in the gym while flexing their muscles, but if you take care of yourself then people will eventually find interest. There's no "secret formula" to get laid by 20 different women, that's just a marketing gimmick for "alpha males" to sell lonely young men overpriced pyramid schemes.

 

[tarnishedstoner]

I would try to make life work. If you're suicidal, i don't mean to say you haven't tried that and I'm sorry to hear that. I haven't lived your life. But I would always try to make life work until i can't.
From an outsider's perspective, I'm doing very well in life and am fortunate enough. I'm still suicidal. I've come to believe that it's an internal thing. Though external factors do play a role.
If you're asking this because you feel suicidal and want to know if it's valid to feel that or not by listening to what others have to say then just know that that's just what you feel. If you're suicidal then i get it. It must be bad. Though feeling something and acting on it are two different things.
Take care, friend.

 

[Mohamedömar]

What's your goal? Kids? Sex?

I just want a family and a loyal lovely wife
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You're 19, you haven't even reached your 20s yet. Also I don't think marrying at 19 is a good idea so I wouldn't be jealous of those kinds of people.

Society has conditioned people into thinking they have to speedrun love and have a body count of 35 and 3 marriages by 21 in order to be seen as "worthy" which is complete bullshit. Try to be the best person you can be and you'll find women who are into you soon enough. I've heard exercise is good for improving depression, maybe that'll help? Obviously don't over do it or turn into those gym bros who act obnoxious in the gym while flexing their muscles, but if you take care of yourself then people will eventually find interest. There's no "secret formula" to get laid by 20 different women, that's just a marketing gimmick for "alpha males" to sell lonely young men overpriced pyramid schemes.

I mean by my post thet I realized that I am cooked in this young age

 

[RunDown]

Personally, I wouldn't suicide over that. At the same time your struggle is valid. I'm sorry you're going through this. Placing so much value on physical appearance is concerning. Why do you think you do this? Do you judge women in the same way? Hanging out with chads, or shallow people, will only make this issue worse imo. We've all been there. I'm overweight, too sick to get out of bed, haven't had a relationship in years, I look at myself in the mirror and feel ugly. I do know that the best relationships I had had little to do with physical attraction or lust. The idea that women won't love you because of how you look seems like a projection. If you can't love a woman for who she is then you wouldn't expect a woman to do the same for you. If this is the case, then I believe you can work on it and make progress. You're worth more than how you look, I know it's cliche, but it's very true as well. Either way, I hope you find what you're looking for.

 

[Mohamedömar]

I would try to make life work. If you're suicidal, i don't mean to say you haven't tried that and I'm sorry to hear that. I haven't lived your life. But I would always try to make life work until i can't.
From an outsider's perspective, I'm doing very well in life and am fortunate enough. I'm still suicidal. I've come to believe that it's an internal thing. Though external factors do play a role.
If you're asking this because you feel suicidal and want to know if it's valid to feel that or not by listening to what others have to say then just know that that's just what you feel. If you're suicidal then i get it. It must be bad. Though feeling something and acting on it are two different things.
Take care, friend.

THX

 

[like-spoiledmilk]

I personally would not.

Women are people. They don't just homogenously like one thing, and honestly, being kind, consistent, and thoughtful is more important than any physical attribute. Hell, even if you just want to sleep with them, being creative with oral, toys, and general pleasure is better than being the biggest around. "Unattractive" people are getting married and falling in love every day. You're more than numbers and categories.

Regardless, loneliness is valid. Feeling self-conscious when you don't fit societal standards is very valid. I hope you find some peace of mind within yourself.

 

[Mohamedömar]

I personally would not.

Women are people. They don't just homogenously like one thing, and honestly, being kind, consistent, and thoughtful is more important than any physical attribute. Hell, even if you just want to sleep with them, being creative with oral, toys, and general pleasure is better than being the biggest around. "Unattractive" people are getting married and falling in love every day. You're more than numbers and categories.

Regardless, loneliness is valid. Feeling self-conscious when you don't fit societal standards is very valid. I hope you find some peace of mind within yourself.

thanks bro

 

[loveme]

I am 19 years old

I am very short (5'4 feet tall), ugly, weak young man with a skinny fat physique, poor sight
and a small thin penis.
I see my friends and especially Chads having gfs and marry beautiful girls while I will be lonely because there will be no woman even an ugly woman that love me (also most women and girls are taller than me).
I feel really bad and heartbroken, I am a cursed person that will live as a lonely subhuman.

If you were in my situation, would you commit suicide or try to live the life till the end?

no, i personally wouldn't. you're only 19 years old. you're so young, i am very sure you will find your special someone one day, don't doom yourself like that. (like seriously, trust me when i say looks arent everything to a woman) also i would try to stop comparing myself, as hard as that sounds. for context im 24 never having dated, or had any romantic experience… it used to make me feel out of place with my peers since i couldnt relate. i genuinely spiraled with suicidal ideation comparing myself to celebrities, models, people in my school in terms of physical attractiveness etc especially in this superficial looksmaxxing age of the internet, rip. it made me crazy. what helped me personally was finding meaning/solace in other aspects of life like career, family, and good, meaningful friendships that made me very happy and laugh. im not saying its a cure but once i stopped putting so much of my self worth into my appearance which none of us chose what we look like when we're born, i felt much less depressed, more confident in just existing (i used to have crippling mental issues that wouldnt even let me step outside of my house bc i didnt want to be perceived). it might sound like im just coping but genuinely, your value is so much more than the physical. i had to realize that the hard way after years of depression and self-isolation which strained a lot of relationships in my life. don't call yourself subhuman, mate. i definitely sympathize with you, i also don't fit the beauty standards which still makes me depressed/anxious, but once again, you're definitely not doomed. life gets better, and i genuinely do not think you're cursed or whatever. i hope you find your happiness, take care & dont fall into years of spiral like me :") it robbed me so much of my happiness i could have had growing up. you're still so young, keep ur head up & take care

 

[Chairbed3]

You are only 19. You are influenced by the internet a little too much. Once you cross 25, life starts to make a lot more sense to you. Internet will tell you that women don't like short men and all that weird language you are using. In reality, all sorts of men and all kinds of women do get married. I'd suggest you get off the internet, remove social media from your life and cultivate real world hobbies. Women are just people, just like you.

 

[fadedghost]

I am 19 years old

I am very short (5'4 feet tall), ugly, weak young man with a skinny fat physique, poor sight
and a small thin penis.
I see my friends and especially Chads having gfs and marry beautiful girls while I will be lonely because there will be no woman even an ugly woman that love me (also most women and girls are taller than me).
I feel really bad and heartbroken, I am a cursed person that will live as a lonely subhuman.

If you were in my situation, would you commit suicide or try to live the life till the end?

i would probably try to be a software engineer and code something that made money and try to sell it...

then use the proceeds to get leg lengthening surgery (which is super expensive and painful) and try to get closer to 5'6". also get a personal trainer with the money from coding. you also say you are ugly. if there is a way you are specifically ugly (like larger nose, weak chin), some of that is correctable with money.

then i would also try to search for women who are less attractive using dating Apps, specifically look for women who are not attractive. i think at 5'4" it will be close to impossible, if you get leg lengthening surgery and get to 5'6" and have a personal trainer and are doing well, it will be possible to date someone, there are some shorter women who will date someone 5'6", if you are 5'4" it will be rough. 5'6" is just very different than 5'4".

if you don't think you can code, i would try to find some sort of career that doesn't require that much schooling and pays well, and then i'd save up for leg lengthening surgery, try to make a financial goal (like pay for leg lengthening surgery by 24).

You mention having a small thin penis. If you have a small penis like 5" or 5.5" or even possibly 4.5", it's fine, many guys are below average and if you find a woman who is not good looking but just wants to meet someone it won't matter. If you have micropenis (like 2" or 3") it's going to be rough, I don't think there are surgeries to fix this.

If I were 19 and in your position, I don't know what I would do. Some of your problems may be solvable with money, some not. But we are also really close to AGI, and once AGI hits, it could be that everything will be free, no one will need to work, and humans will live in a type of paradise. It's hard to know. I think once AGI hits, so many medical problems will be solvable. They may have organ replacements that can be done in your lifetime once AGI hits and can make everything more normal, even the eyesight stuff.

It's possible AGI will hit in the next 40 years, as well as reversing aging and replacing organs. If you can deal with the misery of waiting for AGI and tech to develop, it may be worth the suffering. It's a hard road.

You could also wait a while, try to code, make money, see about leg lengthening... if you find yourself at 30, unable to wait for AGI and UBI and the tech singularity to happen, then you could re-evaluate things then?

Sorry about your situation.

also i think if you want a kind loyal wife, that's attainable. if you want a lovely wife, like pretty, that's going to be a challenge. you also mentioned wanting a family. if you are really short, with small genitals, i hope you consider that if you meet a woman, you use genetic selection and engineering (taking your real sperm and her real eggs but selecting for certain traits) so you can have healthier and happier offspring that don't have the same problems. that technology is currently available, but it's an issue of money.

that's why i think learning to code and trying to make something you can sell for money is the way to go.

 

[coldworld]

take hgh and steroids. if i was born a man this is the first thing i would do.

 

[MiraiShisen]

try to find happiness in small things and try to build a good relationship with yourself , I am not in your shoes but if you are healthy you have so many options to have a decent life, you can always start working on your physique, having better diet and perhaps find some new goals in your life, sometimes learning to enjoy company of yourself is a big gift to yourself, be your friend , if you struggle with height then there are places in world where your height is not that bad. I know that this is not advice you wanted to hear so you can ignore it , to answear your question , no I would not, you might have difficulties in life with the opposite gender but you only need one girl to like you not whole world, and for that girl try to be your best version.

 

[A_Spartan_Dead]

I am 19 years old

I am very short (5'4 feet tall), ugly, weak young man with a skinny fat physique, poor sight
and a small thin penis.
I see my friends and especially Chads having gfs and marry beautiful girls while I will be lonely because there will be no woman even an ugly woman that love me (also most women and girls are taller than me).
I feel really bad and heartbroken, I am a cursed person that will live as a lonely subhuman.

If you were in my situation, would you commit suicide or try to live the life till the end?

I would say that this alone isn't a reason to CTB. What are your other circumstances like? Housing, family, support network, work, etc? Being 6ft and 15cm penis is no bed of roses if you don't have the other stuff sorted out.

 

[PureEndless]

Are you healthy?

I'm not healthy. That's my reason.

You can never get your health back sometimes.

Hell man. You could do anything if you're healthy. Learn to fix engines. Learn to climb. Learn to program computers and make AI.

Height won't stop that.

Also, there's women who are like 4'6" who are your age. Dwarfism. They need to find love as well. And it's not that weird.

There's someone out there for everyone.

 

[maylurker]

You could do anything if you're healthy

this. you can earn money to get cll and be 5'10 if you are healthy and motivated

 

[PureEndless]

this. you can earn money to get cll and be 5'10 if you are healthy and motivated

People call it a cope but you can literally just live an awesome life who you are.

Too many people sit sad at home and say "it's all over".

You can skydive at 5'4".

You can ride a jet ski at 5'4".

And like I said. There's people who are sad that they are extremely short.

Just being real, A 4'6" woman with dwarfism isn't looking for a "6'4" Chad" or whatever people say.

If you are a kind and good person, she may be looking for you. I mean she might not be looking for you....but there's a chance lol.

She's not tall enough for someone who's 6'. That ain't gonna work.

So like I said....there's a market for everyone.

 

[maylurker]

Just being real, A 4'6" woman with dwarfism isn't looking for a "6'4" Chad" or whatever people say.

but why would a 5'4 guy want 4'6 dwarf woman? 5'4 is although very below average but healthy height and not considered as disability but dwarfism is. so u implying he has to settle with a dwarf woman just to find love? and yeah 5'4 for a male is kind of a brutal struggle you can't dismiss or overlook it. with such height theres a great chance to experience bullying throughout your life and suffer from insecurities

 

[PureEndless]

but why would a 5'4 guy want 4'6 dwarf woman? 5'4 is although very below average but healthy height and not considered as disability but dwarfism is. so u implying he has to settle with a dwarf woman just to find love? and yeah 5'4 for a male is kind of a brutal struggle you can't dismiss or overlook it. with such height theres a great chance to experience bullying throughout your life and suffer from insecurities

Why is that settling? That's kind of a weird thing to say.

 

[maylurker]

Why is that settling? That's kind of a weird thing to say.

please elaborate

 

[nolifer23]

I would try to find a tall woman. Talk to, date, tall women. That would be my life goal in your situation.

 

[ipmanwc0]

I would try to find a tall woman. Talk to, date, tall women. That would be my life goal in your situation.

What is the logic behind this?

 

[nolifer23]

"(also most women and girls are taller than me)." ... What is problem with taller girls? Date them