I wish I were Asian instead of white as a woman

[Bunnymmm]

I (22F) am attracted to white handsome men, problem is that they prefer Asian women instead of me. Take me out now because it never began for me. My god why do Asian American women want to be white when yall are the prize?

 

[amerie]

I've always thought that if you have to change something that you literally can't control like your race or skin color to fit into the dating pool then you're in the wrong swimming class. That is not a long term partner that you'd want.

Tons of people still prefer white women just change your social circle and where you're searching.

 

[painecrotic]

That's an interesting thought, until now I've always heard the opposite want. Being Asian can be very hard with a lot of pressure and expectations and rejections. A girl used to say to me that she wished she could be white to just be ordinary

 

[LastNite]

Dont make conclusions. Youve just met a few people who prefer other people. Theres plenty who prefer you over someone else.

 

[Bunnymmm]

I've always thought that if you have to change something that you literally can't control like your race or skin color to fit into the dating pool then you're in the wrong swimming class. That is not a long term partner that you'd want.

Tons of people still prefer white women just change your social circle and where you're searching.

Problem is that the good looking ones won't want me.

That's an interesting thought, until now I've always heard the opposite want. Being Asian can be very hard with a lot of pressure and expectations and rejections. A girl used to say to me that she wished she could be white to just be ordinary

Yall are the prize for white men and are instantly seen as more womanly than white women by white men.

Dont make conclusions. Youve just met a few people who prefer other people. Theres plenty who prefer you over someone else.

The internet made me realize I was mid at best and won't attract my dream guy.

 

[amerie]

Problem is that the good looking ones won't want me.

Lower your standards then

 

[Bunnymmm]

Lower your standards then

Then I won't be happy because I won't be attracted to the guy

 

[amerie]

If you're serious about finding a partner that you perceive as high value then invest in yourself. Get surgery, lose/gain weight, learn how to style yourself, and have qualities that men would want. This will take probably 1-3 years but it's a worthy investment if that is your main goal in life.

Then I won't be happy because I won't be attracted to the guy

 

[fedup1982]

Then I won't be happy because I won't be attracted to the guy

You strike me as being on the younger side. As people age, looks matter less and personality matters more. This happens to both men and women. There are exceptions but it's the general rule. Not only will you find your idea of a perfect partner be more determined by personality but the same for your potential partners.

 

[R. A.]

I (22F) am attracted to white handsome men, problem is that they prefer Asian women instead of me.

yeah I think what you actually mean is:

"problem is that they prefer Asian women someone they believe will be more likely to be subservient and obedient and put up with their bullshit instead of me."

also not saying you should date non-white men just for the sake of dating non-white men, but you might wanna investigate why it is that you only wanna date white men.

 

[mirror_mercury]

dye your hair black or brown, and with the right make up you can look asian

you can even do some vocal training to sing anime songs

 

[Rainbow Dash]

dye your hair black or brown, and with the right make up you can look asian

you can even do some vocal training to sing anime songs

Lol that sounds legit so like "BlackFace" XD

Maybe just focus on accepting yourself and coming to terms before ruining your life and image....

All it tales is one liberal to screenshot and call you a racist then youll be on some liberal or antofa site being doxxed.

Being so serious!
Don't role play other races.

People are sensitive as fuck and ruin your life over shit that doesn't affect them.

 

[Dejected 55]

I know there has long been this stereotype about how white men are lusting hot for asian women... but I don't know why that would be.

Don't get me wrong... as a white man, I've seen a lot of attractive women from Asia. But, I've seen attractive women of pretty much all types. I don't think I've ever seen a "type" of woman that I haven't known a few that I found attractive... and it's not like I'm in danger of having a harem if I ever wanted one... but I'm not going to feel like I "lost" somehow because I was only liked by women of a particular race. I'll be considering myself damn lucky that a woman finds me attractive and I find her attractive.

On the flip side of the assertion about asian women being "the dream" or whatever... it seems like asian men don't get a lot of love, sometimes within asia it seems like they are left out from what I've read.

 

[amerie]

Lol that sounds legit so like "BlackFace" XD

Maybe just focus on accepting yourself and coming to terms before ruining your life and image....

All it tales is one liberal to screenshot and call you a racist then youll be on some liberal or antofa site being doxxed.

Being so serious!
Don't role play other races.

People are sensitive as fuck and ruin your life over shit that doesn't affect them.

Yeah look at Donna Briggs, she got surgery and Monobenzone shots to become white and although she's passing really well people found a way to dig up her old pics.

Beauty isn't tied to a race, if you're ugly you just are unless you get surgery or actively rework your features with makeup or weight changes. There are beautiful women in every country.

 

[mirror_mercury]

Lol that sounds legit so like "BlackFace" XD

Maybe just focus on accepting yourself and coming to terms before ruining your life and image....

All it tales is one liberal to screenshot and call you a racist then youll be on some liberal or antofa site being doxxed.

Being so serious!
Don't role play other races.

People are sensitive as fuck and ruin your life over shit that doesn't affect them.

yellow facing doesn't offend anyone

 

[DarkRange55]

When I walk down the street and I see a person of the same race, I never have any thought in my head of natural camaraderie. I don't find people of the same race/skin tone to be naturally my comrades. I know that the baseline person of any race is gonna have very different value systems from me. Very different thoughts in their heads. Very different things that they want to do. Very different programs that they want to sign on for. Very different view points about the world.

 

[Rainbow Dash]

yellow facing doesn't offend anyone

Damn. You guys always have a "Rule for you but not for me".

Double standard isn't it?

Edit: "You guys" I mean specific political party not race >_<

Yellowface and racism against Asians is just as important as other prejudice | Carmen Fishwick

For years, discrimination against east and south-east Asian people has been an invisible problem. It’s time to support those speaking up for equality

www.theguardian.com

Yeah look at Donna Briggs, she got surgery and Monobenzone shots to become white and although she's passing really well people found a way to dig up her old pics.

Beauty isn't tied to a race, if you're ugly you just are unless you get surgery or actively rework your features with makeup or weight changes. There are beautiful women in every country.

Agreed. But i also believe its all genetics lol.

 

[mirror_mercury]

Damn. You guys always have a "Rule for you but not for me".

Double standard isn't it?

Edit: "You guys" I mean specific political party not race >_<

Yellowface and racism against Asians is just as important as other prejudice | Carmen Fishwick

For years, discrimination against east and south-east Asian people has been an invisible problem. It’s time to support those speaking up for equality

www.theguardian.com

Agreed. But i also believe its all genetics lol.

yellow facing is actually flattering

like, you guys want to be asian that badly?

 

[Bishop2]

I would be attracted to you if you don't mind me Bishop budging into the conversation there's nothing wrong with being white white lives matter #all lives matter.

Don't feel like you have to be validated by someone to have value for yourself.

 

[Rainbow Dash]

yellow facing is actually flattering

like, you guys want to be asian that badly?

Use the same logic on black face XD

But yeah I see your view. UwU :P

 

[mirror_mercury]

Use the same logic on black face XD

But yeah I see your view. UwU :P

black facing operates on different rules, it's used to mock, not to imitate

 

[Rainbow Dash]

black facing operates on different rules, it's used to mock, not to imitate

I disagree on that though.
People get mad even if its a Halloween costume and not ment to offend.

He might get his job back though :D <3

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/toronto/parkdale-teacher-fired-blackface-arbitrator-decision-1.7613888

 

[mirror_mercury]

I disagree on that though.
People get mad even if its a Halloween costume and not ment to offend.

He might get his job back though :D <3

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/toronto/parkdale-teacher-fired-blackface-arbitrator-decision-1.7613888

well it's got a bad history, so anyone attempting in modern day, even if in good faith........

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

I wish I was a woman

 

[Rainbow Dash]

well it's got a bad history, so anyone attempting in modern day, even if in good faith........

Damn. Confusing. Not even arguing.
Ok to do yellow face or white face but not ol to do black face.
:/

 

[mirror_mercury]

I wish I was a woman

I do too. But as a man, one thing I'm grateful for, is that men are less likely to get raped.

The reason why women watch all those serial killer mind documentaries? They want to understand the mentality of anyone who potentially threatens them. Women are physically less stronger than men, they fear being murdered and assaulted. Women often travel in groups for this reason. Men can just go alone in the woods and nothing bothers them.

Damn. Confusing. Not even arguing.
Ok to do yellow face or white face but not ol to do black face.
:/

Are you still in public school or something? lol lol

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

I do too. But as a man, one thing I'm grateful for, is that men are less likely to get raped.

The reason why women watch all those serial killer mind documentaries? They want to understand the mentality of anyone who potentially threatens them. Women are physically less stronger than men, they fear being murdered and assaulted. Women often travel in groups for this reason. Men can just go alone in the woods and nothing bothers them.

They are less likely to get raped unfortunately the odds go both ways and luck didn't favor me. I also don't consider myself a man anymore and I'm personally not grateful for anything that the gender assigned to me.


Anyhow, I also do what you said in the second paragraph, I say that most people who do not feel like this are living in safe areas or happened to not have misfortune hit them at an early age but it's true that most women teach eachother to be weary and stay in groups and then teach the young girls the same things and that's good.

 

[katara]

I do often see white men put white women down online, but I don't think you'd want to date them because if you are Asian, these men only like you because you are Asian, that's literally it

 

[Rainbow Dash]

G

I do too. But as a man, one thing I'm grateful for, is that men are less likely to get raped.

The reason why women watch all those serial killer mind documentaries? They want to understand the mentality of anyone who potentially threatens them. Women are physically less stronger than men, they fear being murdered and assaulted. Women often travel in groups for this reason. Men can just go alone in the woods and nothing bothers them.

Are you still in public school or something? lol lol

Gross no. Private school only. XD

But just seems that side always get double standards...

Black face- bad
Yellow face - ok
White face - ok

Idk seems bad to make one group not allowed to impersonate but others are ok to role play as.

 

[iamanavalanche]

just insanely rolled my eyes