I don’t want my family to even see my ashes

[moldyara2002]

I don't want to be put in an urn, and kept on a shelf in that house. Can I request this, and how? I don't want my mother to scatter them in some ridiculous family ceremony as if they actually liked me. The idea itself is disgusting me right now. Obviously no funeral, no memorial, nothing nothing nothing, I want nothing. I want to disappear, I don't want to be perceived. This entire topic is disgusting me.
I want the workers in charge of burning me up to be solely present in disposing my ashes themselves. I want my family to have no possession of my ashes or the process of my being cremated. I don't know how the entire procedures work, that is my next step to learn about and organize. I have my CTB plan, I have everything I need locked up and ready. My house has been purged. Now for post death planning.

 

[socksnsandles]

i guess donate your body to science?

 

[moldyara2002]

i guess donate your body to science?

I want every piece of me destroyed with me. I hate people of the public. They hate me. I don't want to give my organs or other parts to people who would probably treat me cruelly or hatefully in life. Maybe I'll just have to come to a compromise just to keep my remains out of my family's possession. but with that comes a whole other slew personal implications. Most notably- who knows what they will actually use me for

 

[HangMan123]

Unless you jump into a pit of piranhas, lava, acid, etc, your body will be found. The smell of decomposing humans is pungent and can be carried a long ways off by wind. Also, our noses evolved to be specially attuned to our own rotting, which just makes things worse.

 

[JamieD]

I don't want to be put in an urn, and kept on a shelf in that house. Can I request this, and how? I don't want my mother to scatter them in some ridiculous family ceremony as if they actually liked me. The idea itself is disgusting me right now. Obviously no funeral, no memorial, nothing nothing nothing, I want nothing. I want to disappear, I don't want to be perceived. This entire topic is disgusting me.
I want the workers in charge of burning me up to be solely present in disposing my ashes themselves. I want my family to have no possession of my ashes or the process of my being cremated. I don't know how the entire procedures work, that is my next step to learn about and organize. I have my CTB plan, I have everything I need locked up and ready. My house has been purged. Now for post death planning.

As someone with a lot of knowledge with funerals, you can leave your wishes with a solicitor/attorney that merely says that in the unlikely event of your passing, these are my final wishes and by law your wishes must be granted.