Discussion I care for this boy, but does he?

[nopurposeinanything]

There's this boy that i text alot and see irl. We dont talk much in person, due to both of us being shy—but we text a lot sometimes. He tells me all of his secrets, ones he doesn't tell his own friends. I think he trusts me and stuff and it makes me happy. He even told me that he has depression too. Anyway, I just feel bad because im not sure if he cares for me like I do, but also because I know im going to kill myself soon. I just wonder how it'll affect him. Would he even care?

 

[Whenhewhenyeah]

Yeah he'll be sad, he sounds really attached to you.

 

[violetforever]

he seems comfortable with u, as much as his shyness allows him to be. so yes i think he would care because it sounds like the friendship or whatever it is hasn't even reached it's full potential yet since it's only limited to texting :c

 

[woofwag]

Of course he would care. Especially considering he tells you all of his secrets. You don't do that if you don't trust/like someone a whole lot.

 

[webb&flow]

There's this boy that i text alot and see irl. We dont talk much in person, due to both of us being shy—but we text a lot sometimes. He tells me all of his secrets, ones he doesn't tell his own friends. I think he trusts me and stuff and it makes me happy. He even told me that he has depression too. Anyway, I just feel bad because im not sure if he cares for me like I do, but also because I know im going to kill myself soon. I just wonder how it'll affect him. Would he even care?

he does care about you; I sincerely promise this <3

He is likely having similar thoughts and feelings as well. "This person is really nice to me and listens to me when I tell them all my secrets, but... I'm not sure if they really care about me."

You can be sure about how much he cares about you. There is a way to find out how much he cares about you.

I promise that he does actually care for you. This is because he chooses to tell you personal secrets, which proves that he views you as a trustworthy and compassionate person.

Maybe you could try asking him if he's had any experiences with suicidal emotion as well; if he asks why you could say "well we both have depression and have likely been through a lot, so I was wondering if that's ever affected you, I'm just curious; because I've spoken with a lot of people with depression and a lot them have talked about experiencing it as well. I'm just curious about your experience. You don't have to say if you're not comfortable, by the way, my good friend. Thank you for hearing me out on this anyway."

I would also recommend just sending him a quick text like "thank you for being my friend, I really appreciate it and it makes me happy to feel trusted, and I appreciate your company too. It's nice to talk to you. I hope you have a nice day."

I encourage you to make this nice friendship you have with this person as peaceful and as open as one might wish for it to be.

Yes, he would care. Not only would he care, but he does care about you, now, as well. I hope this is at least some peace and solace amongst everything you are going through right now as well.

Enjoy this lovely friendship as much as you desire :). Best wishes. I hope the lovely care between you both continues to colour your lives, with serenity and love.

 

[Karrikin]

Well if he's telling you so much I would imagine he cares. That alone is reason enough to know that, yes, he will be affected if you go through with it.