Discussion How much of your suicidality is caused by romantic loneliness?

[_Gollum_]

Whether you're in a relationship that's breaking down, or have never been in one but urgently desire one, or anything in between, how much of your suicidality is caused by romantic loneliness?

 

[Vorty30]

Well, to be honest the solid chunk is caused by all sorts of loneliness in general.
Being it a romantic one is also another cog in this whole process.
Never have been in one, I can't say it has been urgent to get one... But it does eat away at your soul.
I voted for the top % because honestly, it does... It does hit the nail at the top of the coffin.

 

[bankai]

I voted 0. None of it. I've never had a problem with that sort of thing. However, I don't want it. I need this thing going on with me fixed before I can do that.i don't want to push this on someone else.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

none of it . i don't need nor want any kind of relationship with a human, certainly not any romantic relationship.

i do have many other reasons for killing myself

why do i have to get a gf or a friend? i don't .

why do i have to want to live another minute? i don't. there is no reason.

 

[UtopianSoliloquies]

Before I got into a relationship, I probably would've voted 51-75% or something like that. But I think I've realized that my loneliness was much more general than that, and that as a man, we don't have as many social models for how to build meaningful friendships and support networks, so a lot of that we end up projecting onto a romantic partner if we're looking for one. It's not to say the relationship hasn't helped at all, it certainly has; but the underlying problem of not having many meaningful human connections has only been reduced by one person, which is generally not enough.

 

[Namelesa]

At this point in my life, I don't even know the percentage. Previously I would say 50-75% cus of me feeling empty about life cus of not being in relationship (this feeling is due with that i been in relationships before but those ended and that broke me) but now I literally don't know what I truly want now aside from death or sleep. Like I just feel unfulfilled by everything now. Tho also i am really missing a previous relationship again currently for some reason even tho it was really unhealthy and I was the one to break it up. I really can't make up my mind.

 

[GhostInTheMachine]

I was suicidal before dating my current BF, and I'm still (albeit less so) suidical now. Lonliness in general is something I seemed to tolerate well since I'm pretty anti-social, but at the same time I'm extroverted so I have to at least get outside and/or interact with people from time to time.

 

[Aergia]

I like this poll idea. I wonder what it would look like split by gender.

 

[darksouls]

my ex-boyfriends treated me like trash
I was unhappy in my relationships
but loneliness also makes me unhappy
I have always wished for a loving partner
but I never recieved love from a man
I gave up a long time ago

 

[amerie]

I am voluntarily celibate because I'm not mentally apt enough to maintain any type of romantic or sexual relationship. Which sucks when you're a sensitive person who wants to be loved.

 

[Forever Sleep]

None. I'm alone but not lonely.

 

[UnusedGate]

Not much. I can live with being lonely. What matters most to me is financial success. Obviously I'd be happier if I was in a relationship tho.

 

[PI3.14]

Only partially. I have other issues that are more important to me than a relationship. Also, getting in a relationship with my current state is impossible anyways.

 

[NonEssential]

Never having been in a relationship definitely contributes to my feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness. Especially when you know that if people find out about that, they'll be looking down on you. Still, I guess the latter point doesn't matter, because nobody really cares about me anyway.

 

[cvury]

I will die KHHV, I have realized that my neurodivergency will never land me a girlfriend.

 

[-Link-]

Does it make sense to say that I don't feel lonely but don't like being alone?

So, maybe I'd like the perks of a connection without the angst of a relationship... And yet there's a hollowness to that, isn't there.

Strings or no strings, I am in tune with my inability to handle other people and have basically accepted it. Whether this drives my suicidality (or how much), I'm not sure. In my lowest lows, I don't find myself longing for romantic connection. I want to say it's more about meaning or purpose or feeling like I belong.

But somewhere under all this anxiety, stress, and depression must be a desire to find 'my person'. I am sure of it. So, I'd label it a contributing factor, if only a subtle one.