Discussion How much have you revealed about yourself in privat conversations?

[noname223]

I try to keep my secrets even in private conversations. But towards two women I told them at least a little bit.
I told them my first name in real life. My age. Very vaguely where in my country I live North/South/East/West. And which subjects I study. How dangerous do you consider that?

One person was a staff member. Lol. I think she forgot it very likely. The other woman was interested in having a relationship with me. They never threatened to doxx me gladly. Even when I rejected her. I could imagine other people shared a little bit more about themselves. I am too cautious for that.

There was one member who wanted to be friends with me. She wanted to exchange phone numbers. She gave me hers but it felt too risky for me. A few days afterwards she rampaged through the forum and was banned. Allegedly she pressured former friends of her with private information. I am so fucking glad I never shared phone numbers. I never had an exchange with a SaSu member on another platform. I think that's too risky.

What about you?

 

[Just_Another_Person]

I don't mind certain details but unless I trust the person I will not reveal much, not just because of doxxing but also because I don't want some things getting in public or whatever if the person have bad intentions or become vindictive later.

Btw, be aware there are people here that pretend to be women, already saw it.

And for the women: be careful of who approach you, some men are here only to try to take advantage of you.

And tell my phone number is a big NO. Why anyone would need it? There is instagram, twitter, discord... lots of options for talk/backup without revealing such private thing as phone number.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I've only ever revealed my name to one user. Those who are familiar with the days of my peak posting frequency on this forum are probably already well aware of how that went. She didn't have my phone number but she did kind of get to see a picture of me. I wasn't comfortable enough to show my face in it though.

I don't care if people know what region I'm in though because what are the odds someone else on this forum is going to be able to identify me out in the real world? Oooohhh I'm a 30 year old Asian in the Silicon Valley in Northern California. Clearly I must stick out like a sore thumb. Well. Good luck finding me.

I wouldn't share my phone number though. Discord, MAYBE but I've only ever shared that with two users. A lot of my friends are annoyed that my Discord name isn't related to my actual name or any of the other usernames I've commonly had and this is precisely in case someone from here is messaging me.

 

[wondering&wandering]

I have a bad habit of revealing personal info. I don't like to seem that I'm stuck up or something, so the more I talk with someone the more inclined I may be in revealing some personal details.

In one instance I revealed my full name with someone here, and that caused severe anxiety and paranoia (still dealing with that feeling, but it's not as bad as it was when it happened a couple months ago).

In fact, I feel like the more I post the more I show who I am. And because of how "understanding" the world is to us, I really feel it's only a matter of time before I mess up and face consequences or condemnation from people outside the community.

Or maybe even someone on here will get vindictive and I'll have no control over how my story gets told.

Idk. I try not to think about it, but I'm sure someday I'll mess up in a big way, unless, of course, it's already too late.

 

[derpyderpins]

Btw, be aware there are people here that pretend to be women, already saw it.

Internet veterans know to assume no one online is really a woman.

I have a bad habit of revealing personal info. I don't like to seem that I'm stuck up or something, so the more I talk with someone the more inclined I may be in revealing some personal details.

In one instance I revealed my full name with someone here, and that caused severe anxiety and paranoia (still dealing with that feeling, but it's not as bad as it was when it happened a couple months ago).

In fact, I feel like the more I post the more I show who I am. And because of how "understanding" the world is to us, I really feel it's only a matter of time before I mess up and face consequences or condemnation from people outside the community.

Or maybe even someone on here will get vindictive and I'll have no control over how my story gets told.

Idk. I try not to think about it, but I'm sure someday I'll mess up in a big way, unless, of course, it's already too late.

I tend to trust more than the average person, too. One instance here where I regret sharing. I try to connect by being vulnerable myself, and I still think that's the way to go... Just unfortunate. I guess I regret partially out of doxx concerns and partially because it now feels crappy.

But there are also people here I've shared with and trust very much. There are many good souls here.

 

[Username1359751]

I mean my real name is Bernard.
It's nbd.

 

[Mirrory Me]

I keep cycling between love and hate throughout my life, but it all seems to fall down for being too skeptical or feeling that I should pretend something that I am not, or that people are pretending to me. I don't know how much I should give and receive, some times there's some sort of issue with me that reflects out on people and situations, or they keep pushing and pushing it (other people's issues become my issues and backward). Deep inside I hate being vulnerable because I usually end up with disappointments and issues that I have to carry by myself.