I can only speak as a man here... but maybe it will help?
In my life I have sometimes let my hair grow long, but usually that was more about depression and laziness than it was about having long hair. Also, I've had a developing bald spot in the back of my head for many years now so long hair just kind of magnifies that.
Anyway, in my early 20s I was working a job and I didn't care for the job much and I was depressed in general. It didn't matter for my job how I looked, so I just let my hair and beard grow and grow... and I told some people that if they ever see me get a haircut again it meant I had a job interview somewhere. So, one day I did get an interview scheduled, so I went to a barber shop and it wasn't planned, but when I sat in the chair and he asked me what I wanted... I asked for a crew cut. He asked me if I was sure... said with my light (red) hair my scalp would show through clearly. I told him that was fine. I said it will grow back, but if it doesn't then I will know what I'm going to look like.
That began my obsession with crew cuts because it was so much cooler in the summer and I could sleep on it without worrying if my hair would look funny the next day and I felt lighter and wind didn't blow hair in my eyes... the list goes on... I am embarrassed to admit, though that it was about 10 more years before I realized I could shave my own head and save on the haircuts!
But once I was in, I was in... and I recommended it to everyone... including women. I know its not trendy, although every now and then some celebrity will shave her head for a movie OR have hair loss herself and decides to go out confidently bald.
For my money... and for whatever its worth to you... I have never known a woman that I found attractive that I would find any less attractive if she were bald... whatever the reason. I can't believe I'm unique in that. I'm nobody special. Admittedly, you lose out on being able to run your hands through her hair and she loses the ability to style her hair in different ways for different looks... but I defy any man who actually loves a woman to say she is no longer attractive or even less attractive bald than with hair.
Are their guys who will? Sure... but that's their problem and if that turns them off, they are the ones missing out on a great person. And I'd say the same if you are gay and women were turning away because of it.
Might not help... but I hope it does.
