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Parnate

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Dec 16, 2021
419
I see these well built good looking men and feel terrible cause I am not like them. I am fat, bald and average look.
My self esteem is very low and seeing all these men on social media only makes me further miserable.
 
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PI3.14

what is chaos to the fly is normal to the spider
Oct 4, 2024
369
I personally hate being short but there is nothing that I can do about it. It definitely sucks to not feel happy with your body.
 
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Forever Sleep

Earned it we have...
May 4, 2022
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Same deal but for slim, attractive women. But then, also very attractive guys too. I just feel inadequate compared to all of them.
 
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TBONTB

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May 31, 2025
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there is always a way to feel bad in comparison with others. Someone is always better looking, richer, smarter, funnier.

I know this is easier said than done, but just try to focus on yourself and whatever is important to you and ignore others.

I was married to a fat, bald, average man for many years. The most important thing wasn't the looks, it was about kindness, conversation, fun.
 
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Forveleth

I knew I forgot to do something when I was 15...
Mar 26, 2024
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Stop comparing yourself to everyone else. Tall, muscular men have their problems, they just come in a different flavor than yours. As a female, I have dated fat, balding men, and I have dated skinny little toothpicks. I do not care about outside looks, what I care about is personality. A guy being an asshole is a bigger turn off than him being fat.

I know wallowing in self-pity is the easy thing to do, but it will not change anything. You should figure out what is the biggest contributor to your low self-esteem and try to work on that. It does not matter how you compare to everyone else. All that matters today is how you compare to yourself yesterday, a week ago, or a year ago.
 
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cemeteryismyhome

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Mar 15, 2025
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Social media doesn't bother me, maybe because I was well into adulthood before it was available. But in real life, yes, I feel the same. I've always felt ashamed and useless in the presence of attractive muscular men because I've never been like that. Similar feelings around attractive women because I know they consider me scum. Add to that, gradually becoming older, and it just makes me want out.
 
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Parnate

Arcanist
Dec 16, 2021
419
Same deal but for slim, attractive women. But then, also very attractive guys too. I just feel inadequate compared to all of them.
Exactly how I feel, inadequate. My mother never appreciated me , always criticised me. Also I was only few months old when she put me at a daycare so that is also there.
 
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