Does it ever become easier being trans or isrt it just liews by people

[Squiggles3]

does neing trans ever get easier? i retried but i the up the makeup washes off the bodyhair grows back. do you ever actuakklly become a girl?
please

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Are you trying to ask if you will ever actually become a girl? If so, then the answer is yes. Being a woman comes down to identifying as one. If the image you have of yourself in your mind is of you as a woman and if identifying as one feels right, then you are by all means a woman. Plenty of women, even cis-women, regularly deal with putting on makeup and shaving their body hair. Some cis-women even have to deal with facial hair due to their ancestry or due to suffering from disorders, such as PCOS. Dealing with those things in no way dismisses your womanhood. Womanhood is a lot more diverse than the narrow view of it that wider society promotes.

I can't speak on whether or not being trans ever gets easier since I am cis, but I can say that you are by a woman.

 

[Namelesa]

For me it has but i have been extremelu lucky in terms of dealing with problems faced by trans people. I would say it mostly depends on the success of your transition and the support you get from people you know. Sadly access to trans healthcare can be difficult and a lot of people not being supportive of us causes more difficulties :< if you haven't started hormones and if you can access them, they can be a big help, especially with lessening body hair growth, but can take a while for full effect to take in.

 

[leloyon]

Depends on genetics. It'll take time in any case, but genetics and age determine how successful you'll be.

 

[Dejected 55]

I haven't posted in a while, for many reasons, but this post triggered me a little so I wanted to contribute something that I hope will be helpful to you.

The shortest answer is that I hope it gets better for trans people. Because I hope things get better for anyone, and specifically I know several trans people in various stages of transition and I hope it gets better for them.

The first reply in this thread is good. I would have said a lot of that, as a cis male, and some of what I say might overlap. Like the body hair... as noted men and women have different degrees of hairiness naturally. From men born as men with little hair to women born as women who can grow full beards. It's a smorgasbord out there and societal norms shift all the time. Some of history hairy women were valued more, now it seems like less hair is in vogue.

Unfortunately, people are often horrible. And I don't want to undermine this being a trans question specifically... but I want to say that what you might experience as a trans woman might not be different than what a cis woman could experience. Women with "too much" hair or overweight or whatever society says is "ugly" right now... once you get past the horrible trans-phobes, you find the next tier of people who just hate on people for no good reason. So, when we hopefully reach a day when trans people are accepted, I don't know if we will have conquered the other horribleness in people to put down others.

It's fine, I think, to be attracted or not attracted to anyone for any reason. What I don't think is fine is trying to hurt or put that person down. Like what you like and don't like what you like. Date who you want and don't date who you want... but there's no need to make someone fee bad about who they are just because they aren't who you find attractive.

So... back to the short answer. I hope it gets better for you, and all trans people. It's a subset of the larger problem with people needlessly hurting others just because they can. And I hope that gets better too.

 

[thereisnoneed]

Trans people suffer a lot, and they deserve better.

 

[Squiggles3]

Are you trying to ask if you will ever actually become a girl? If so, then the answer is yes. Being a woman comes down to identifying as one. If the image you have of yourself in your mind is of you as a woman and if identifying as one feels right, then you are by all means a woman. Plenty of women, even cis-women, regularly deal with putting on makeup and shaving their body hair. Some cis-women even have to deal with facial hair due to their ancestry or due to suffering from disorders, such as PCOS. Dealing with those things in no way dismisses your womanhood. Womanhood is a lot more diverse than the narrow view of it that wider society promotes.

I can't speak on whether or not being trans ever gets easier since I am cis, but I can say that you are by a woman.

im not a women with PCOS. You would not asume that looking at me. youd assume i was a man, as most would.

I haven't posted in a while, for many reasons, but this post triggered me a little so I wanted to contribute something that I hope will be helpful to you.

The shortest answer is that I hope it gets better for trans people. Because I hope things get better for anyone, and specifically I know several trans people in various stages of transition and I hope it gets better for them.

The first reply in this thread is good. I would have said a lot of that, as a cis male, and some of what I say might overlap. Like the body hair... as noted men and women have different degrees of hairiness naturally. From men born as men with little hair to women born as women who can grow full beards. It's a smorgasbord out there and societal norms shift all the time. Some of history hairy women were valued more, now it seems like less hair is in vogue.

Unfortunately, people are often horrible. And I don't want to undermine this being a trans question specifically... but I want to say that what you might experience as a trans woman might not be different than what a cis woman could experience. Women with "too much" hair or overweight or whatever society says is "ugly" right now... once you get past the horrible trans-phobes, you find the next tier of people who just hate on people for no good reason. So, when we hopefully reach a day when trans people are accepted, I don't know if we will have conquered the other horribleness in people to put down others.

It's fine, I think, to be attracted or not attracted to anyone for any reason. What I don't think is fine is trying to hurt or put that person down. Like what you like and don't like what you like. Date who you want and don't date who you want... but there's no need to make someone fee bad about who they are just because they aren't who you find attractive.

So... back to the short answer. I hope it gets better for you, and all trans people. It's a subset of the larger problem with people needlessly hurting others just because they can. And I hope that gets better too.

women get called ugly. I get called a man. I was born a man. I am treat as a man. Society makes laws as if i am a man. this is what people want. for me to be seen as a man

 

[EvisceratedJester]

im not a women with PCOS. You would not asume that looking at me. youd assume i was a man, as most would

I never said you were a woman with PCOS. I was using that as an example to further the point I was trying to make. Also, plenty of cis-women have been mistaken for men before. I've met cis-women who have talked about having that happen to them before. That doesn't all of a sudden make you any less of a woman. Being perceived as a woman by others isn't the same is being one.

 

[Dejected 55]

im not a women with PCOS. You would not asume that looking at me. youd assume i was a man, as most would.

women get called ugly. I get called a man. I was born a man. I am treat as a man. Society makes laws as if i am a man. this is what people want. for me to be seen as a man

I wasn't meaning to diminish anything that any trans person goes through. I was just pointing out that people are horrible and cruel to everyone.

There are women who were born as woman that cruel men and women think they look like a man and will call them as such. In all the trans hatred going on right now, how many stories are there of cis women who have also been harassed because they "look like a man"?

It's sadly not unique for mean people to be cruel. So, I'm not diminishing your experience as a trans person. I'm just saying that, in my experience, the kind of person who is cruel to a trans person just for being trans is the same kind of person who will be cruel to anyone else for just as wrong a reason.

 

[Squiggles3]

I hope this world ends and everyone dies