Does anyone else get messaging anxiety?

[Xielian]

Does anyone else have this? I'm autistic, and I have a lot of miscommunication trauma from saying something that gets taken the wrong way or from using the wrong tone. It might also be connected to my dyslexia, but I get anxiety before sending a message to anyone or making a post. It usually takes me at least 10 minutes of rewriting and sometimes I get so anxious that I completely avoid it. Then I spiral into guilt and extreme stress, even if it's important stuff like organizing housemate things. Sometimes I just can't get what's in my head onto the page, and people think I'm ignoring them on purpose, which causes strain on my friendships.

I'm 26 years old, and I feel like a loser because of this I really do care about people I'm just afraid of hurting them by mistake .

 

[LastNite]

Me, I read what I write multiple times before sending it then I just give up on it and dont send it in the end.

 

[EternalShore]

I'm really sorry and same unfortunately~ :( people leave me and think I'm boring and such, and when I'm texting irl's I get sooo worried about them not wishing to talk to me and wishing everything looks perfect~ >_< but it just makes it even more miserable to text even tho using a phone to talk to people already sucks more than a computer anyways! :/

 

[apearl]

I'm with you on that, I have to reread messages like 10x before sending and my stomach still drops after I send it. It makes making friends really hard, I've probably lost people because of it.

I'm sure most good people understand that your not trying to be ill-intentioned if you avoid a message. You don't sound like a cruel person.

 

[cowplantabduction]

Yes, I've ended up completely ghosting people because of this :( I feel so bad for the friends I never messaged back years ago but it's too late now, I'll just look like an asshole at this point.

 

[Tigger]

Not exactly the same, but I've always had some weird fear about listening to voicemails. And I think it may seem from my anxiety around leaving them. I feel so uncomfortable listening to them, I just deleted them asap without listening.

 

[TBONTB]

Does anyone else have this? I'm autistic, and I have a lot of miscommunication trauma from saying something that gets taken the wrong way or from using the wrong tone. It might also be connected to my dyslexia, but I get anxiety before sending a message to anyone or making a post. It usually takes me at least 10 minutes of rewriting and sometimes I get so anxious that I completely avoid it. Then I spiral into guilt and extreme stress, even if it's important stuff like organizing housemate things. Sometimes I just can't get what's in my head onto the page, and people think I'm ignoring them on purpose, which causes strain on my friendships.

I'm 26 years old, and I feel like a loser because of this I really do care about people I'm just afraid of hurting them by mistake .

Have you ever considered using ai to help you write? Put in what you want to say and then polish it up for you?

normally I don't love that, but if it's not too time consuming it might really be a help for you.

 

[bees.]

I've lost all but one of my friendships because I cannot get myself to send messages. im too scared of miscommunication or a bad outcome that I simply dont communicate at all. hell I have been on this forum for years and have only posted a handful of times. You are not alone

 

[adiosToreador]

i get you }:( i have a lot trouble talking to the people i care about, and the guilt from not responding immediately builds and ends up making me feel unable to reply for weeks, sometimes. makes me think i was just never meant for long-term friendship.

 

[liquid jen]

Yes, I always second guess myself with messaging. I never know which tone to use with which people or sometimes how to respond at all, even if they're longtime friends. I often end up having to apologize 2-3 days afterwards for not responding to a message, and I feel like shit because they do mean a lot to me but it seems like I'm ignoring them. Even with this, I've reread both my response and your post to make sure it's fine.