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bl00deater

bl00deater

The Bloodeater Hungers
Oct 7, 2024
22
I've been honestly been thinking really hard if theres a such thing as true love or soulmates, I don't think either are completely impossible but I also believe at the same time loving someone is a choice you have to make.

Like, I date whoever, just for fun, or the fact they have offered me stability and I like that.

I wake up everyday and choose to love everyone in my life in the romantic and platonic aspects. I really think it'd be endearing if there was truly one soulmate you have in your entire life, and you have to go through everyone to find them, that'd be the sweetest thing ever, I wanna know everyones opinions n thoughts on it cause it differs so much
 
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N7_Alliance_Marine

N7_Alliance_Marine

Student
Sep 29, 2024
104
If it was real I wouldn't be on this fucking website.
 
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pyx

Wizard
Jun 5, 2024
617
i'm not sure, honestly. on the one hand, i think that there are people more compatible with eachother, and their pairing will require contributions which amount to a net good, both for short-term gains and long-term stability. on the other, i wonder if the idea of soulmates is equally applicable to all. in the end, there are common expectations that need to be fulfilled with shared compatibility: there are those that may not be able to pool their resources toward a common goal. buying into true love probably eliminates a lot of people from qualifying for this sort of ordeal. just my two cents
 
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Privateer2368

Member
Aug 18, 2024
75
Yes, absolutely.

I don't believe that it's limited to one person, though
 
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Dr Iron Arc

Dr Iron Arc

Into the Unknown
Feb 10, 2020
21,384
I think it's something that definitely exists but it will never be attainable by me. To deny the existence of true love would be like saying billionaires don't exist. Just because I will never be able to get to experience this doesn't mean nobody can. I definitely don't deserve it either.
 
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Innereye

Innereye

Know thy self
Jan 18, 2020
303
Each and every dynamic has qualities and differences and depending on where we're at in life which is ever-changing we slot into them differently.
 
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star.trip

star.trip

Student
Oct 6, 2024
175
Love always comes when you least expect it. If you start looking for it, it's worse. If you find it, it has come to you. Searching implies an intention in which you consciously look for what you think you need. But not always what you are looking for is what you need. On the other hand, if you find it, it is usually what you need, even if sometimes it takes you a while to realize it.
On the other hand, not everything is simple. I, for example, found him and we both felt the same, the problem was that we did not accept sexuality, fear and the situation never went along with it.
Life is very complicated and that's why you need another person to fight, but as long as you don't love yourself first. It doesn't work because how can you love someone when I don't even love myself. I hope I'm wrong but well for me it's too late.
Now the probability of finding a new love is zero. That's life, I guess I came to this world to experience hopelessness and loneliness.
 
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kat6

kat6

a cloud of smoke trying to occupy space
Sep 25, 2024
87
Omg! TIL profile pics can move!

How did I learn? Well, there I was, laying in bed in the dark with my phone scrolling through the forums. Half asleep. All I saw was the movement lower in the screen (op's profile pic), my idiot ass automatically assumed it was a bug crossing my screen and I yeeted my phone (it fell on a chair with pillows thank fuck). I'm wide awake now and laughing my ass off.

Sorry to derail the thread. Please carry on. 😂💀
 
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ijustwishtodie

ijustwishtodie

I have finally found my ultimate bliss
Oct 29, 2023
5,796
I think true love is helping somebody peacefully kill themselves despite the legal and emotional impact it'd cause to them. No other types of love can get close to this, not even romantic love
 
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cicatrezESP

cicatrezESP

in the time of the sixth sun
Oct 6, 2024
66
it's definitely real, it's just rare and not easy to come by. i think a lot of people believe that it is the solution or a fix for bad feelings. i don't think this is the case, however... to find someone to share your soul with i think is truly beautiful. i just think both people have to be very open to it. it's also a lot of hard work. it's also probably very different per person. i think some people are not capable of love. some people aren't built for that.
i think some people find their love early in life and stay together forever while some people find their true love much later. i think some people just don't, though. it's not a guarantee. there are married couples for 20+ years where it isn't true love, but they've been through hardships together so there is a deep bond. but there is couples out there where it was true love from the start.
i also think people who are constantly searching for their "true love" will always have trouble finding that person because i don't believe it works like that.
 
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Darkover

Darkover

Archangel
Jul 29, 2021
5,653
No unconditional love doesn't exist, Unfortunately, people are like animals because they get together and they're attracted to each other because of hormones and they start having babies without even thinking about it and then a year or two they don't even know each other and then they get a divorce and then the poor kids are from a broken home.
 
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amerie

amerie

goofball
Oct 6, 2024
226
No, love is always conditional and has the potential to fade. You wouldn't love someone if they raped or murdered someone (and rightfully so).
 
EvisceratedJester

EvisceratedJester

|| What Else Could I Be But a Jester ||
Oct 21, 2023
4,930
No, love is always conditional and has the potential to fade. You wouldn't love someone if they raped or murdered someone (and rightfully so).
I mean, haven't there been plenty of cases of people defending their loved ones and taking their side despite them having committed murder or rape?
 
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-nobodyknows-

-nobodyknows-

I will face my fate.
Jun 16, 2024
727
Yeah, though I think it's a complicated thing. Personally I haven't had much luck with it
 
amerie

amerie

goofball
Oct 6, 2024
226
I mean, haven't there been plenty of cases of people defending their loved ones and taking their side despite them having committed murder or rape?
Dang, you have a point there, but most people wouldn't stick by that. That's a very small delusional part of the human population. We all have our limits, once people stop stimulating us emotionally we won't love them anymore. Unconditional true love doesn't really exist.
 
derpyderpins

derpyderpins

A new mentality, closer to the heart
Sep 19, 2023
2,105
True love, yes.

Soulmates, no.

True love is far more beautiful than something as cheap as destiny.
 
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furribcage

furribcage

Member
Oct 21, 2024
19
Yes but true love wont fix everything sadly,,, it just makes things less lonely and more bearable but there are definitely ppl made for each other and who would be together forever if they could be
 
painfullypointless

painfullypointless

Wanderer
Sep 23, 2024
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SweetItalianS

SweetItalianS

Member
Aug 11, 2024
41
What's true love, how do you define that in the first place? Is loving somebody enough to be able to let them go because it would be better for them true love?

EDIT: Maybe true love is putting the loved one over selfishness? Maybe it's just love, how about putting the other person over you in every way, but when the other person does the same - that might be true love.

here is the person who came close enough to call it that - https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/eulogy-to-my-wife-soulmate-best-friend-and-my-future.140438/
 
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SnowLeopard21

SnowLeopard21

Terminal Sadcat
Oct 30, 2024
46
At one point I did. I thought that if I loved her more and refused to give up she'd get better and stop abusing me. I'm sure it's possible that healthy long-term relationships exist out there but soulmates? Don't delude yourself.
 
ZeroM24

ZeroM24

Student
Oct 31, 2024
105
I dont think so. And honestly I dont want "true love" and dont deserve it. I am not capable of giving it, so I shouldnt receive it.
 
Sutter

Sutter

Experienced
Oct 21, 2024
242
Depends on the definition. What is love to you? What is true love?

Life has ups and downs, always did always will. There is no utopia waiting around the corner. Love is caring for someone else, thinking of them, valuing their opinion, sharing the ups and downs of life. There is no cheating because there is no desire to cheat. There is no subtle manipulation because you enjoy the person as they are. Their life enriches yours. It makes your life more than it was. The rollercoaster is still there but you do it with a partner, so you dont care what the challenge is because its enough to know they are with you. You love who they are and who they will be as you walk life together, entwined like two old trees holding each other up.

When you lose a love like that, a great love, you know you are lost when its gone.

I believe in Great Love, it is there, it is something that can be found. Its not overly elusive but it is not a rock, it requires giving a shit, self reflection, and buckets of kindness and patience. I believe in love that is Great.
 
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Elenysium

Elenysium

Member
Oct 17, 2024
13
Yes! Although I have not experienced it first hand.
 
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biasedregret

Member
Feb 23, 2024
50
nope, it's just a fancy word for a certain style of chemical soup, just like every other experience
 
soledad.virgen

soledad.virgen

call me sol
Dec 1, 2020
161
just sometimes, when i feel like they do care about me, when i realize they're still there

but sometimes I don't when i feel like they've lied and when they abandon me
 
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SA1994EC

Member
Jan 28, 2021
257
Sure, in fictions and other people's lives. Never in my damn life.
 
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tirednwired

in the end everybody loses
Oct 28, 2024
41
For other people, yes. For me, no lol.
 

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