Discussion Do you believe in true love

[bl00deater]

I've been honestly been thinking really hard if theres a such thing as true love or soulmates, I don't think either are completely impossible but I also believe at the same time loving someone is a choice you have to make.

Like, I date whoever, just for fun, or the fact they have offered me stability and I like that.

I wake up everyday and choose to love everyone in my life in the romantic and platonic aspects. I really think it'd be endearing if there was truly one soulmate you have in your entire life, and you have to go through everyone to find them, that'd be the sweetest thing ever, I wanna know everyones opinions n thoughts on it cause it differs so much

 

[N7_Alliance_Marine]

If it was real I wouldn't be on this fucking website.

 

[pyx]

i'm not sure, honestly. on the one hand, i think that there are people more compatible with eachother, and their pairing will require contributions which amount to a net good, both for short-term gains and long-term stability. on the other, i wonder if the idea of soulmates is equally applicable to all. in the end, there are common expectations that need to be fulfilled with shared compatibility: there are those that may not be able to pool their resources toward a common goal. buying into true love probably eliminates a lot of people from qualifying for this sort of ordeal. just my two cents

 

[Privateer2368]

Yes, absolutely.

I don't believe that it's limited to one person, though

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I think it's something that definitely exists but it will never be attainable by me. To deny the existence of true love would be like saying billionaires don't exist. Just because I will never be able to get to experience this doesn't mean nobody can. I definitely don't deserve it either.

 

[Innereye]

Each and every dynamic has qualities and differences and depending on where we're at in life which is ever-changing we slot into them differently.

 

[star.trip]

Love always comes when you least expect it. If you start looking for it, it's worse. If you find it, it has come to you. Searching implies an intention in which you consciously look for what you think you need. But not always what you are looking for is what you need. On the other hand, if you find it, it is usually what you need, even if sometimes it takes you a while to realize it.
On the other hand, not everything is simple. I, for example, found him and we both felt the same, the problem was that we did not accept sexuality, fear and the situation never went along with it.
Life is very complicated and that's why you need another person to fight, but as long as you don't love yourself first. It doesn't work because how can you love someone when I don't even love myself. I hope I'm wrong but well for me it's too late.
Now the probability of finding a new love is zero. That's life, I guess I came to this world to experience hopelessness and loneliness.

 

[kat6]

Omg! TIL profile pics can move!

How did I learn? Well, there I was, laying in bed in the dark with my phone scrolling through the forums. Half asleep. All I saw was the movement lower in the screen (op's profile pic), my idiot ass automatically assumed it was a bug crossing my screen and I yeeted my phone (it fell on a chair with pillows thank fuck). I'm wide awake now and laughing my ass off.

Sorry to derail the thread. Please carry on.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I think true love is helping somebody peacefully kill themselves despite the legal and emotional impact it'd cause to them. No other types of love can get close to this, not even romantic love

 

[cicatrezESP]

it's definitely real, it's just rare and not easy to come by. i think a lot of people believe that it is the solution or a fix for bad feelings. i don't think this is the case, however... to find someone to share your soul with i think is truly beautiful. i just think both people have to be very open to it. it's also a lot of hard work. it's also probably very different per person. i think some people are not capable of love. some people aren't built for that.
i think some people find their love early in life and stay together forever while some people find their true love much later. i think some people just don't, though. it's not a guarantee. there are married couples for 20+ years where it isn't true love, but they've been through hardships together so there is a deep bond. but there is couples out there where it was true love from the start.
i also think people who are constantly searching for their "true love" will always have trouble finding that person because i don't believe it works like that.

 

[Darkover]

No unconditional love doesn't exist, Unfortunately, people are like animals because they get together and they're attracted to each other because of hormones and they start having babies without even thinking about it and then a year or two they don't even know each other and then they get a divorce and then the poor kids are from a broken home.

 

[amerie]

No, love is always conditional and has the potential to fade. You wouldn't love someone if they raped or murdered someone (and rightfully so).

 

[EvisceratedJester]

No, love is always conditional and has the potential to fade. You wouldn't love someone if they raped or murdered someone (and rightfully so).

I mean, haven't there been plenty of cases of people defending their loved ones and taking their side despite them having committed murder or rape?

 

[-nobodyknows-]

Yeah, though I think it's a complicated thing. Personally I haven't had much luck with it

 

[amerie]

I mean, haven't there been plenty of cases of people defending their loved ones and taking their side despite them having committed murder or rape?

Dang, you have a point there, but most people wouldn't stick by that. That's a very small delusional part of the human population. We all have our limits, once people stop stimulating us emotionally we won't love them anymore. Unconditional true love doesn't really exist.

 

[derpyderpins]

True love, yes.

Soulmates, no.

True love is far more beautiful than something as cheap as destiny.

 

[furribcage]

Yes but true love wont fix everything sadly,,, it just makes things less lonely and more bearable but there are definitely ppl made for each other and who would be together forever if they could be

 

[painfullypointless]

 

[SweetItalianS]

What's true love, how do you define that in the first place? Is loving somebody enough to be able to let them go because it would be better for them true love?

EDIT: Maybe true love is putting the loved one over selfishness? Maybe it's just love, how about putting the other person over you in every way, but when the other person does the same - that might be true love.

here is the person who came close enough to call it that - https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/eulogy-to-my-wife-soulmate-best-friend-and-my-future.140438/

 

[SnowLeopard21]

At one point I did. I thought that if I loved her more and refused to give up she'd get better and stop abusing me. I'm sure it's possible that healthy long-term relationships exist out there but soulmates? Don't delude yourself.

 

[ZeroM24]

I dont think so. And honestly I dont want "true love" and dont deserve it. I am not capable of giving it, so I shouldnt receive it.

 

[Sutter]

Depends on the definition. What is love to you? What is true love?

Life has ups and downs, always did always will. There is no utopia waiting around the corner. Love is caring for someone else, thinking of them, valuing their opinion, sharing the ups and downs of life. There is no cheating because there is no desire to cheat. There is no subtle manipulation because you enjoy the person as they are. Their life enriches yours. It makes your life more than it was. The rollercoaster is still there but you do it with a partner, so you dont care what the challenge is because its enough to know they are with you. You love who they are and who they will be as you walk life together, entwined like two old trees holding each other up.

When you lose a love like that, a great love, you know you are lost when its gone.

I believe in Great Love, it is there, it is something that can be found. Its not overly elusive but it is not a rock, it requires giving a shit, self reflection, and buckets of kindness and patience. I believe in love that is Great.

 

[Elenysium]

Yes! Although I have not experienced it first hand.

 

[biasedregret]

nope, it's just a fancy word for a certain style of chemical soup, just like every other experience

 

[Pluto]

 

[soledad.virgen]

just sometimes, when i feel like they do care about me, when i realize they're still there

but sometimes I don't when i feel like they've lied and when they abandon me

 

[SA1994EC]

Sure, in fictions and other people's lives. Never in my damn life.

 

[tirednwired]

For other people, yes. For me, no lol.