Venting Do any of you feel shallow ?

[continuing]

Is something that bugs me from time to time, specially when i see other people around me who can have those deep, intelectual conversations, about life, philosophy etc...

I do feel shallow, maybe dumb is the better word but is as simple as feeling like youre just like a npc, with nothing to contribute to other people talks and stuff, like...

People talk about life and, they phylosophy, and i don't feel i have one, i feel like, im just there, living, i would say that one of the things i might consider is just, the idea of testing, like just testing and seeing stuff thought just too see the results you know, but i dont consider this a philosophy or a higher thought of life.

I really belive life is random, and that we might encrise our chances of succes by effort, doesnt mean we will succeed, just the we might get better.

Well i guess this is only a way of me trying to prove that im not shallow myself but to be honest, i dont think i have stuff on me.

 

[LostZombie]

I really belive life is random, and that we might encrise our chances of succes by effort, doesnt mean we will succeed, just the we might get better.

Well i guess this is only a way of me trying to prove that im not shallow myself but to be honest, i dont think i have stuff on me.

You have a very Laissez-faire temperament, which means you just let the world around you go, and you just chill for the ride. It doesn't show a lack of intelligence, it's just a different way seeing life. Your thoughts are not shallow if you choose a way of living that other who talk about such things could understand.

 

[an_alias]

Yes! I'm basically a side character in my own life. I can't go to functions or meaningfully socialise because of my disability and it's left me with no one but internet ghosts to keep me company. And even on the fucking internet I can't make friends because I don't watch the latest shonen anime or play Genshin Impact or listen to Radiohead and instead listen to post-rock music from the '90s and Captain Beefheart and read nasty litbro bullshit like DFW the audience of which I hate and do nothing with other people because of the former reason

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm definitely not as knowledgable as others. Certain subjects like politics, I am too clueless over to have a strong opinion.

But, you do seem to have philosophies about life- you think life is largely random but certain efforts increase our chances. I agres with that. Just because it isn't written down in some heavy book, doesn't mean it's not a philosophy. Doesn't mean you don't think about life either.

Plus, it's kind of fine to go with the flow- if you can. It likely causes less stress in life- if we are able to accept things as they are. Even if it's through lethargy or anhedonia, it's still an approach to living. A sort of philosophy in a way. It's one that some religions even aim for- to try and accept things as they are.

Do you have niche interests in things? Maybe it's simply that you haven't found people with similar interests to talk to.

I'm sure I come across as kind of weird to a lot of people. I tend to relate best to creative people because- we recognise in one another that core obsession. Sometimes, I think it's about finding your own 'tribe'.

 

[CaptainSunshine!]

I do. I observe and analyze everything, but it's not deep. I just think of things in terms of benefit vs cost.
I've watched Monster and read Berserk, and I didn't feel anything. People rate these highly and deeply think about the subjects, while I just focus on the details and would probably look dumb if I tried to talk about them. I feel like I'm a pretender when trying to talk about complex subjects. I'm pretty much a parrot too.

 

[continuing]

You have a very Laissez-faire temperament, which means you just let the world around you go, and you just chill for the ride. It doesn't show a lack of intelligence, it's just a different way seeing life. Your thoughts are not shallow if you choose a way of living that other who talk about such things could understand.

yeah, the thing is, i dont choose, is just more, who i am

I do. I observe and analyze everything, but it's not deep. I just think of things in terms of benefit vs cost.
I've watched Monster and read Berserk, and I didn't feel anything. People rate these highly and deeply think about the subjects, while I just focus on the details and would probably look dumb if I tried to talk about them. I feel like I'm a pretender when trying to talk about complex subjects. I'm pretty much a parrot too.

i guess if youre ok with that, my problem is that i feel im lacking something

Yes! I'm basically a side character in my own life. I can't go to functions or meaningfully socialise because of my disability and it's left me with no one but internet ghosts to keep me company. And even on the fucking internet I can't make friends because I don't watch the latest shonen anime or play Genshin Impact or listen to Radiohead and instead listen to post-rock music from the '90s and Captain Beefheart and read nasty litbro bullshit like DFW the audience of which I hate and do nothing with other people because of the former reason

damn im sorry for that, i guess you need new folks to talk with

I'm definitely not as knowledgable as others. Certain subjects like politics, I am too clueless over to have a strong opinion.

But, you do seem to have philosophies about life- you think life is largely random but certain efforts increase our chances. I agres with that. Just because it isn't written down in some heavy book, doesn't mean it's not a philosophy. Doesn't mean you don't think about life either.

Plus, it's kind of fine to go with the flow- if you can. It likely causes less stress in life- if we are able to accept things as they are. Even if it's through lethargy or anhedonia, it's still an approach to living. A sort of philosophy in a way. It's one that some religions even aim for- to try and accept things as they are.

Do you have niche interests in things? Maybe it's simply that you haven't found people with similar interests to talk to.

I'm sure I come across as kind of weird to a lot of people. I tend to relate best to creative people because- we recognise in one another that core obsession. Sometimes, I think it's about finding your own 'tribe'.

maybe, maybe i havent found my own tribe, i do have stuff i like to talk about, my nishes, is just feels shallow comparing to ways of living or meaning of life and all.

you said you do like creative people, i like those folks too, even with it looks weird, if you wanna talk, i feel i need some people to talk with,.just about anything

 

[SaintJosifStalin]

I don't think that makes you shallow because philosophy is an interest that one practices and a skill that one cultivates like any other hobby. Anybody who is able to discuss philosophy has taken the time to learn about it. If you haven't done so that doesn't say anything about your character, just how you prefer to use your time.

 

[calebzz1]

Is something that bugs me from time to time, specially when i see other people around me who can have those deep, intelectual conversations, about life, philosophy etc...

I do feel shallow, maybe dumb is the better word but is as simple as feeling like youre just like a npc, with nothing to contribute to other people talks and stuff, like...

People talk about life and, they phylosophy, and i don't feel i have one, i feel like, im just there, living, i would say that one of the things i might consider is just, the idea of testing, like just testing and seeing stuff thought just too see the results you know, but i dont consider this a philosophy or a higher thought of life.

I really belive life is random, and that we might encrise our chances of succes by effort, doesnt mean we will succeed, just the we might get better.

Well i guess this is only a way of me trying to prove that im not shallow myself but to be honest, i dont think i have stuff on me.

Great post!

Yes, I feel the same daily.

Due to my vision being so bad and feeling barely functional I'm very pragmatic in addition to being goal-oriented which is why I can't really relate to my mom as much.

I tell people that life's funny with visual impairment because you want to engage in so many activities and hobbies but quickly realize how limiting it can be which inherently decrease your relatibility with people straight up.

It's unfortunate looking back how goofy and extra I used to be, willing to talk for hours.

Now, I'm very serious and cold a lot of the time but it makes sense if I analyze my situation heavily.

I'm a pretty simple man, at the end of the day all I want is to see single and clearly in both eyes with no struggle.

This will open a lot of doors instead of being forced to be on disability, even temporarily at a young age.

There's nothing wrong with being "shallow" though.

My mom is very nonchalant after she takes her medication which is pretty annoying but the reason why I have a short fuse is because I'm so limited in terms of what I can actually do and it's super boring walking around with low vision constantly with it doubling at random times.

I can only enjoy listening to music and dancing, the rest is impossible due to my symptoms.

 

[vittra213]

Is something that bugs me from time to time, specially when i see other people around me who can have those deep, intelectual conversations, about life, philosophy etc...

I do feel shallow, maybe dumb is the better word but is as simple as feeling like youre just like a npc, with nothing to contribute to other people talks and stuff, like...

People talk about life and, they phylosophy, and i don't feel i have one, i feel like, im just there, living, i would say that one of the things i might consider is just, the idea of testing, like just testing and seeing stuff thought just too see the results you know, but i dont consider this a philosophy or a higher thought of life.

I really belive life is random, and that we might encrise our chances of succes by effort, doesnt mean we will succeed, just the we might get better.

Well i guess this is only a way of me trying to prove that im not shallow myself but to be honest, i dont think i have stuff on me.

i feel very shallow and dumb. my best friend is the most emotionally intellectual person i know and having a conversation with her makes me feel so stupid because everything i say is of no meaning to the conversation. i feel disabled. i'm just dumb and ive accepted now rhat i can't do anything about it. but you writing this shows you aren't shallow. i found this post very intellectual and i hope you'll realise that soon. take care

 

[stillmirenai]

Is something that bugs me from time to time, specially when i see other people around me who can have those deep, intelectual conversations, about life, philosophy etc...

I do feel shallow, maybe dumb is the better word but is as simple as feeling like youre just like a npc, with nothing to contribute to other people talks and stuff, like...

People talk about life and, they phylosophy, and i don't feel i have one, i feel like, im just there, living, i would say that one of the things i might consider is just, the idea of testing, like just testing and seeing stuff thought just too see the results you know, but i dont consider this a philosophy or a higher thought of life.

I really belive life is random, and that we might encrise our chances of succes by effort, doesnt mean we will succeed, just the we might get better.

Well i guess this is only a way of me trying to prove that im not shallow myself but to be honest, i dont think i have stuff on me.

Yes.

Often, I feel like I passively observe too much, yet never have anything to contribute, so I end up wondering what it's all really for in the end. Like others have said, I think you just process information a bit different, but it's nothing to worry about. I believe we have two ears and only a singular mouth for a reason. My first outlet for sharing those observations was this site, oddly enough, and it's comforting to see others arriving to a lot of the same conclusions as me.

A few years ago, I feel like I was a lot more active, intellectually or in general, but I was also in an extreme depression... now, I'm at peace with myself, but sometimes I struggle to have meaningful conversations with myself about life.

It's as you say, I would have never guessed I'd be alive at the age I'm typing this message. Keep experimenting and you might surprise yourself once in a while. But trust me, if you think too much and for too long, you'll end up depressed, so exercise moderation, as with everything.

I think so too. Life to me feels like a cycle of opportunities, whether good or bad, that present themselves under the influence of time and your individual circumstances. Just like you said, there is a possibility for better circumstances with a little effort, but ultimately, many things are out of our control.
Maybe you'll come up with something new, who knows. Curiosity is also a quirk of your personality.

I think it's very hard to truly be "shallow", as you describe it. I would say, don't be too hard on yourself and don't let yourself be guided too much by what other people say or do. Yes, second opinions are important, but they can't be your only opinion.

 

[Black_Knight]

Yeah. I don't care about anything or do anything. People ask what my interests and hobbies are, and I have literally no answer.

 

[continuing]

I don't think that makes you shallow because philosophy is an interest that one practices and a skill that one cultivates like any other hobby. Anybody who is able to discuss philosophy has taken the time to learn about it. If you haven't done so that doesn't say anything about your character, just how you prefer to use your time.

maybe but some folks have done this so easily that feels like nature

Great post!

Yes, I feel the same daily.

Due to my vision being so bad and feeling barely functional I'm very pragmatic in addition to being goal-oriented which is why I can't really relate to my mom as much.

I tell people that life's funny with visual impairment because you want to engage in so many activities and hobbies but quickly realize how limiting it can be which inherently decrease your relatibility with people straight up.

It's unfortunate looking back how goofy and extra I used to be, willing to talk for hours.

Now, I'm very serious and cold a lot of the time but it makes sense if I analyze my situation heavily.

I'm a pretty simple man, at the end of the day all I want is to see single and clearly in both eyes with no struggle.

This will open a lot of doors instead of being forced to be on disability, even temporarily at a young age.

There's nothing wrong with being "shallow" though.

My mom is very nonchalant after she takes her medication which is pretty annoying but the reason why I have a short fuse is because I'm so limited in terms of what I can actually do and it's super boring walking around with low vision constantly with it doubling at random times.

I can only enjoy listening to music and dancing, the rest is impossible due to my symptoms.

Thanks for the reply. To be honest, because of your situation, I can't blame you — it's something that limits your life, and I'm sorry you have to go through this. I really hope you can get your vision back.
I also tend to be a very practical rather than emotional person, and I feel that this has limited my ability to connect with other people in my life.

i feel very shallow and dumb. my best friend is the most emotionally intellectual person i know and having a conversation with her makes me feel so stupid because everything i say is of no meaning to the conversation. i feel disabled. i'm just dumb and ive accepted now rhat i can't do anything about it. but you writing this shows you aren't shallow. i found this post very intellectual and i hope you'll realise that soon. take care

Thanks for that. I don't know — it was more about me venting how I feel, because I think that being shallow makes me have less connection with people, or at least makes it harder to connect. I'm glad you're able to accept your reality; I still struggle with that. And I bet you're probably not dumb.

Yes.

Often, I feel like I passively observe too much, yet never have anything to contribute, so I end up wondering what it's all really for in the end. Like others have said, I think you just process information a bit different, but it's nothing to worry about. I believe we have two ears and only a singular mouth for a reason. My first outlet for sharing those observations was this site, oddly enough, and it's comforting to see others arriving to a lot of the same conclusions as me.

A few years ago, I feel like I was a lot more active, intellectually or in general, but I was also in an extreme depression... now, I'm at peace with myself, but sometimes I struggle to have meaningful conversations with myself about life.

It's as you say, I would have never guessed I'd be alive at the age I'm typing this message. Keep experimenting and you might surprise yourself once in a while. But trust me, if you think too much and for too long, you'll end up depressed, so exercise moderation, as with everything.

I think so too. Life to me feels like a cycle of opportunities, whether good or bad, that present themselves under the influence of time and your individual circumstances. Just like you said, there is a possibility for better circumstances with a little effort, but ultimately, many things are out of our control.
Maybe you'll come up with something new, who knows. Curiosity is also a quirk of your personality.

I think it's very hard to truly be "shallow", as you describe it. I would say, don't be too hard on yourself and don't let yourself be guided too much by what other people say or do. Yes, second opinions are important, but they can't be your only opinion.

thanks for that, for real this actually helps a lot