Venting Coincide

[CandyK__]

Some time ago my ex broke up with me, I was sad for a while, but got over her and went back to dating. The girl I had a crush on for a longer time started talking more to me, and we found out we were both single, but she broke up 3 days before we started talking more. We started hooking up and got closer, because she was not ready for anything serious. We both decided to form a friends with benefits but poly with another guy she knew. For 3 weeks we've been in this dynamic and meanwhile I met a girl on tinder, and everything was going smooth.

The tinder girl said she does not see any future for us, so I just said that's a shame and wished her well. 1 HOUR later the girl I was hooking up with said she's thinking of going back to her ex, and asked for my opinion and few minutes later the guy who was in the poly thingy said he's not ready for this and want to just be friends.

I have some feelings for her, she still want to get back to her ex, I want her to get back with her ex because then we can be friends and I can find someone who is easy to love. Every relationship was hard because of partners trauma, because of partners parents, because of illness etc.

I know what to do, I've done it a lot, but it's so repetitive. I feel tired every time I see that long message ending with "I wish you well" or other variant of this. I know I want love and this closeness, everything else is in order, pharmacotherapy helped with MDD and therapy helped with understanding myself, I study and get good scores. But love I one thing I struggle with. It's emotionally tiresome to attain.

 

[DirtCommie]

Some time ago my ex broke up with me, I was sad for a while, but got over her and went back to dating. The girl I had a crush on for a longer time started talking more to me, and we found out we were both single, but she broke up 3 days before we started talking more. We started hooking up and got closer, because she was not ready for anything serious. We both decided to form a friends with benefits but poly with another guy she knew. For 3 weeks we've been in this dynamic and meanwhile I met a girl on tinder, and everything was going smooth.

The tinder girl said she does not see any future for us, so I just said that's a shame and wished her well. 1 HOUR later the girl I was hooking up with said she's thinking of going back to her ex, and asked for my opinion and few minutes later the guy who was in the poly thingy said he's not ready for this and want to just be friends.

I have some feelings for her, she still want to get back to her ex, I want her to get back with her ex because then we can be friends and I can find someone who is easy to love. Every relationship was hard because of partners trauma, because of partners parents, because of illness etc.

I know what to do, I've done it a lot, but it's so repetitive. I feel tired every time I see that long message ending with "I wish you well" or other variant of this. I know I want love and this closeness, everything else is in order, pharmacotherapy helped with MDD and therapy helped with understanding myself, I study and get good scores. But love I one thing I struggle with. It's emotionally tiresome to attain.

Sorry for any pain youre going through.

If I were you Id just recommend completely ending your dating life UNLESS the partner that you meet promises to marry you ASAP. Obviously you dont have to give them this ultimatum the very second you meet them . But you should let them know, once you have a very good readimg of what type of person they are deep down inside , that you plan on being monogamous with them.

YOure tired of always being left right? RIght. So make your future partners ' make the penultimate promise to you OR theyll never see you again'. Give them the ultimatum. Either they stay with you forever or you leave.

It weeds out so many people who just see you as an FWB or one night stand . And ya youll probably end up alone for most of your life until you meet that person who promises to never leave you . But AYE at least you met the person that will never leave you (...well if they dont cheat)

Bes t of wishes on this journey of life.