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joyfulegirl999

joyfulegirl999

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Oct 11, 2024
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For some reason I still decide to take care of my very not sober ex boyfriend. I don't know why but I always seem to be there when he isn't sober I know he doesn't love me anymore and doing this won't make him love me again but I just can't see someone being so trapped. He never helped me but I always help him what is wrong with me.
 
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quietpill

quietpill

I get so jealous of euthanized dogs.
Nov 27, 2024
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it's sort of like nature vs nuture? you seem like a caring person and its very selfless to want to be there for someone who isnt there for you, ive been in a similar situation with my ex. just know that even if you care, it shouldnt be at the expense of youre own wellbeing especially if he cant recoprocate and never properly has. if he burned you, you genuinely owe him nothing and he should have to prove himself to you too, even platonically. dont be afraid to prioritize your own mental and physical health even if it feels cruel to shut out his lain, the context is extremely relevant
 
yowai

yowai

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Aug 28, 2024
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Maybe it's a codependent relationship, it's when one person is an addict and the other feels the need to save them but because people in active addiction are selfish their own needs get neglected
 
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Forever Sleep

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I imagine because of the title- you still care about him. You'd probably worry what he'd get up to if you didn't stay to look after him and maybe you'd worry how you'd live with it if you left him in that state and, something bad did happen. It's sad that it doesn't seem like he appreciates it enough.
 

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