being ugly is very unfair

[UglyCat]

it definitely doesn't make sense, the person is looked down upon, lonely and treated differently from others just because of their appearance. i don't understand how God, knowing all this, can give life to someone who will be born very ugly. please don't use generic words about appearance at me, i've been through

 

[LastNite]

I dont know if Im ugly or not but I definitely understand your pain. People treat attractive people way better than those who aren't even though both are normal human beings it's sick and just weird in general.

 

[endlessmelancholy]

Because there's no God only genetics

 

[korin]

Are you a religious person? If you don't mind me asking. The thing is, in Christianity, every life has a purpose and separate challenge, even looks. I don't know anything about you so I won't say anything further if you don't want to

 

[bankai]

God is all knowing. But he still chooses to, doesn't he? He still chooses to do this. Think about that.

The truth is the DNA of the male and female, I mean the parents combine in such a way and you don't know what you're going to get in the fetus. The fetus might end up as a person looking really good or being really smart, and the opposite might also happen. I have seen siblings who are the complete opposite in every way, in looks, in intelligence and in athletic ability. Life is very cruel. Oh, and by the way. There is no God. In my opinion, of course.


Just bad luck and genetics.

 

[endlessmelancholy]

Don't worry you are in good company. I'm ugly and most of us are ugly

 

[finalgoodbye:(]

Don't worry you are in good company. I'm ugly and most of us are ugly

But mom said I'm cute

 

[bankai]

But mom said I'm cute

Grandmoms are even better. Mine could barely see past 2 feet, but I was the most handsomest pup.

 

[finalgoodbye:(]

Grandmoms are even better. Mine could barely see past 2 feet, but I was the most handsomest pup.

Was? You still are

 

[bankai]

Was? You still are

 

[Alexandra0]

You're right. It's unfair that some people win the genetic lottery and some don't. I hate my vessel too

The person with the most wonderful sense of humor on this site is definitely you

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

I'm ugly. Started paying the price when I was small with my parents, and every other situation since then. There's no way out.

 

[TheVanishingPoint]

You're right to feel this way.
People say appearance shouldn't matter, but then they treat you like you're less than human when it does.
I won't offer empty hope or lies — just this: your pain is not invisible.
If there's a God, maybe silence is the only answer they know.

 

[bankai]

hate my vessel too

Fine,hate your vessel all you want,it's understandable.

But what you are underneath that is still beautiful.

 

[Box]

yes, it's very cruel. i'm extremely ugly myself. but even i sometimes catch myself finding it easier to talk to other ugly people, it's harder for me to talk to good looking, successful people. i guess it's just nature, but it still sucks

 

[thereisnoneed]

it definitely doesn't make sense, the person is looked down upon, lonely and treated differently from others just because of their appearance. i don't understand how God, knowing all this, can give life to someone who will be born very ugly. please don't use generic words about appearance at me, i've been through

lookism matters even in employment, people are just gonna give the good looking guy/girl the opportunity because he's/she's pleasant to look at

 

[moya117]

lookism matters even in employment, people are just gonna give the good looking guy/girl the opportunity because he's/she's pleasant to look at

very true, even here in my region, there is a requirements to look attractive to even be a cashier, sounds ridiculous but its true . indonesia is trash

 

[thereisnoneed]

very true, even here in my region, there is a requirements to look attractive to even be a cashier, sounds ridiculous but its true . indonesia is trash

lookism used to be mostly a thing for first world nations, but it's getting big even in third world shitholes like mine these days, especially if you live in the more urbanized areas.

 

[bhaloo]

I'm very ugly too. just have to learn to live with it.

 

[NonEssential]

Even worse when one has a bland personality.

 

[misanthropemurder]

Being ugly can ruin everything; every opportunity tarnished by your outward appearance. I understand it more than I wish I could.

I was the "fat girl" my entire life, even when I lost weight, for the very short period I was underweight, I still felt fat. I hate being ugly so much. You're right, it is unfair.

 

[wham311]

I went from a 9 dating an of girl to a 0 in the course of 7 months. It is living life on impossible mode.

I literally can barely do my easy as fuck job because I'm so hideous, I used to be treated really well

 

[theboy]

Beauty standards

 

[Roseate]

it definitely doesn't make sense, the person is looked down upon, lonely and treated differently from others just because of their appearance. i don't understand how God, knowing all this, can give life to someone who will be born very ugly. please don't use generic words about appearance at me, i've been through

If you believe in god, then why don't you pray for him to make you see yourself in a better light? And also what about you is ugly? Like be specific if you don't mind

I went from a 9 dating an of girl to a 0 in the course of 7 months. It is living life on impossible mode.

I literally can barely do my easy as fuck job because I'm so hideous, I used to be treated really well

A 9 to a 0… how?

 

[wham311]

If you believe in god, then why don't you pray for him to make you see yourself in a better light? And also what about you is ugly? Like be specific if you don't mind

A 9 to a 0… how?

I stopped taking trt and I was on for so long my body stopped synthesizing naturally. I lost 40 lbs of muscle in 2 months. So bony I can barely sit. Can't walk long. Collagen dropped out of my face and skin looks terrible and wrinkly around the eyes. I lost all my stuff moving back home so the straight razor and some clippers are gone. I got sick of my hair so I buZed it, and it's often not lined up bc I'm so self conscious I don't want to get my hair fut anymore

I am extremely stressed and depressed so cortisol and adrenaline are pumping enormously and constantly, I sleep 30 seconds a night without trazadone. I have slept 3 nights in the last 7 minths. My career is over and I'm 38 and live with my mom now. I am running out of money. In my major depressive state I stopped taking care of myself and developed some dental issues, uvula feels swollen and potential blockage of Wharton's duct so not producing saliva like I used to. The only thing I have to do, and to stop from stressing is to eat. I also used to make good money and eatung out was my primary spend so Im eating a bunch of food im not used to and cimpletely lost my way of diet. So it's fucking hot dogs and sloppy joes and chips and stuff. I have gained maybe 40 lbs fat in 7 months and am so self conscious I won't go to the gym. My presence and demeanor is unsettling. The adrenaline constantly sets off my anxiety tick. My clothes don't fit anymore and I have very few left. When I twitch I gather my shirt to the right side of my body so the shirt is always off center.

When I wake up at 1am I lie in bed tossing and turning about all my fuck ups and my body feels like it could break. My story is as fucked up as it gets and when friends catch up it is a turn off and they don't want to hear it and stop texting so I am socially isolated. Ex slandered me on social media, mostly deserved but some made up, and I deleted my accounts. People look away from me when talking to me and conversations are out of pity. Very weak physically now.

I lost everything. Used to live at the beach, now I'm in one of the worst cities in America for westher. And my family is being dragged down with me because they're hellbent on trying to help but they cannot. I am a 38 year old neet. It is now difficult to get through conversations because I have become so unsocialized. I have no hobbies anymore because I was an athlete and gym rat who didnt watch TV and had a gf that I fucked uo the relationship with. Brain fog is nuts. My own sister doesn't make eye contact. I have had maybe 4 conversations with strangers in 8 months.

Started reflecting on my past and realized just how stupid I've been at every point of my life and went over old messages and see a lot of causing pain and ruining of all my relationships and jobs and bad decisions. My self esteem is less than zero and my health wealth and relationships are beyond unimaginably bad. My student loans if 63k become due in a year and I have 25 left. Other health issues that should happen until late in life are absolutely fucked due to pelvic floor issues from high estrogen due to low testosterone and other internal muscles failing have caused other complications.

None of this is fixable.

My dad told me I'm not his namesake anymore because I am not finding work. I have given up and it is not possible even if I hadn't, no one is hiring my fucking ass in this condition, I couldn't do it when I was healthy.

 

[Roseate]

I stopped taking trt and I was on for so long my body stopped synthesizing naturally. I lost 40 lbs of muscle in 2 months. So bony I can barely sit. Can't walk long. Collagen dropped out of my face and skin looks terrible and wrinkly around the eyes. I lost all my stuff moving back home so the straight razor and some clippers are gone. I got sick of my hair so I buZed it, and it's often not lined up bc I'm so self conscious I don't want to get my hair fut anymore

I am extremely stressed and depressed so cortisol and adrenaline are pumping enormously and constantly, I sleep 30 seconds a night without trazadone. I have slept 3 nights in the last 7 minths. My career is over and I'm 38 and live with my mom now. I am running out of money. In my major depressive state I stopped taking care of myself and developed some dental issues, uvula feels swollen and potential blockage of Wharton's duct so not producing saliva like I used to. The only thing I have to do, and to stop from stressing is to eat. I also used to make good money and eatung out was my primary spend so Im eating a bunch of food im not used to and cimpletely lost my way of diet. So it's fucking hot dogs and sloppy joes and chips and stuff. I have gained maybe 40 lbs fat in 7 months and am so self conscious I won't go to the gym. My presence and demeanor is unsettling. The adrenaline constantly sets off my anxiety tick. My clothes don't fit anymore and I have very few left. When I twitch I gather my shirt to the right side of my body so the shirt is always off center.

When I wake up at 1am I lie in bed tossing and turning about all my fuck ups and my body feels like it could break. My story is as fucked up as it gets and when friends catch up it is a turn off and they don't want to hear it and stop texting so I am socially isolated. Ex slandered me on social media, mostly deserved but some made up, and I deleted my accounts. People look away from me when talking to me and conversations are out of pity. Very weak physically now.

I lost everything. And my family is being dragged down with me because they're hellbent on trying to help but they cannot. I am a 38 year old neet. It is now difficult to get through conversations because I have become so unsocialized. I have no hobbies anymore because I was an athlete and gym rat who didnt watch TV and had a gf that I fucked uo the relationship with. Brain fog is nuts. My own sister doesn't make eye contact. I have had maybe 4 conversations with strangers in 8 months.

Started reflecting on my past and realized just how stupid I've been at every point of my life and went over old messages and see a lot of causing pain and ruining of all my relationships and jobs and bad decisions. My self esteem is less than zero and my health wealth and relationships are beyond unimaginably bad. My student loans if 63k become due in a year and I have 25 left. Other health issues that should happen until late in life are absolutely fucked due to pelvic floor issues from high estrogen due to low testosterone and other internal muscles failing have caused other complications.

None of this is fixable.

My dad told me I'm not his namesake anymore because I am not finding work. I have given up and it is not possible even if I hadn't, no one is hiring my fucking ass in this condition, I couldn't do it when I was healthy.

Damn that sounds very tough I was struggling the same too, but I know this is going to sound weird and I'm not one of those people who try to decide peoples life path but it does get better and I've been depressed a good portion of my childhood to the point where I can't remember majority of it, and I'm now finally able to kinda see the light. Plenty of bad days but I'm able to cope better and in a healthy way so I would just work on my self esteem if I were you. Working on that will help with the weight loss or whatever you decide you want cuz low self esteem kinda makes it hard to lose weight if losing weight is the goal.

 

[maniac116]

I honestly believe a persons beauty comes from the inside. Ive gone out with people who were models, but the ugliness from the inside was stronger than their physical beauty.
I have gone out with less physically attractive people who were beautiful people inside & had meaningful longterm relationships.
Just let your inner beauty out! If someone judges you by your looks is that someone you really want a relationship with them anyway?
Give yourself a break

 

[Apathy79]

I stopped taking trt and I was on for so long my body stopped synthesizing naturally. I lost 40 lbs of muscle in 2 months. So bony I can barely sit. Can't walk long. Collagen dropped out of my face and skin looks terrible and wrinkly around the eyes. I lost all my stuff moving back home so the straight razor and some clippers are gone. I got sick of my hair so I buZed it, and it's often not lined up bc I'm so self conscious I don't want to get my hair fut anymore

I am extremely stressed and depressed so cortisol and adrenaline are pumping enormously and constantly, I sleep 30 seconds a night without trazadone. I have slept 3 nights in the last 7 minths. My career is over and I'm 38 and live with my mom now. I am running out of money. In my major depressive state I stopped taking care of myself and developed some dental issues, uvula feels swollen and potential blockage of Wharton's duct so not producing saliva like I used to. The only thing I have to do, and to stop from stressing is to eat. I also used to make good money and eatung out was my primary spend so Im eating a bunch of food im not used to and cimpletely lost my way of diet. So it's fucking hot dogs and sloppy joes and chips and stuff. I have gained maybe 40 lbs fat in 7 months and am so self conscious I won't go to the gym. My presence and demeanor is unsettling. The adrenaline constantly sets off my anxiety tick. My clothes don't fit anymore and I have very few left. When I twitch I gather my shirt to the right side of my body so the shirt is always off center.

When I wake up at 1am I lie in bed tossing and turning about all my fuck ups and my body feels like it could break. My story is as fucked up as it gets and when friends catch up it is a turn off and they don't want to hear it and stop texting so I am socially isolated. Ex slandered me on social media, mostly deserved but some made up, and I deleted my accounts. People look away from me when talking to me and conversations are out of pity. Very weak physically now.

I lost everything. Used to live at the beach, now I'm in one of the worst cities in America for westher. And my family is being dragged down with me because they're hellbent on trying to help but they cannot. I am a 38 year old neet. It is now difficult to get through conversations because I have become so unsocialized. I have no hobbies anymore because I was an athlete and gym rat who didnt watch TV and had a gf that I fucked uo the relationship with. Brain fog is nuts. My own sister doesn't make eye contact. I have had maybe 4 conversations with strangers in 8 months.

Started reflecting on my past and realized just how stupid I've been at every point of my life and went over old messages and see a lot of causing pain and ruining of all my relationships and jobs and bad decisions. My self esteem is less than zero and my health wealth and relationships are beyond unimaginably bad. My student loans if 63k become due in a year and I have 25 left. Other health issues that should happen until late in life are absolutely fucked due to pelvic floor issues from high estrogen due to low testosterone and other internal muscles failing have caused other complications.

None of this is fixable.

My dad told me I'm not his namesake anymore because I am not finding work. I have given up and it is not possible even if I hadn't, no one is hiring my fucking ass in this condition, I couldn't do it when I was healthy.

All this because you stopped taking trt? I'd take it again!

 

[whywere]

We are ALL beautiful, that is what makes the universe so wonderous.

Walter

 

[amaterasu :-)]

I honestly don't understand why beauty was created in reality in the first place. It should only be for those who have earned it. there is nothing that justify its existence.