at least I know the person closest to me won't miss me

[kunikuzushi]

I wonder if there's anything worse than being told you've never been missed by the person you love the most. i told him "i missed you" once about 8 months ago and he said "thank you." after that i never said it again. well today i was crying about how he doesn't want to be with me as much as i want to be with him. and i brought up that time. and he said "i guess something's wrong with me because I've never missed anyone." kind of worse than being told he doesn't love me. i don't know.

at least i know he won't miss me when i ctb soon. i can't believe i worried about how he would feel. bro don't even miss me

 

[catsalvation]

I'm sorry. My ex BF dumped and ghosted me last year abruptly, and since then he genuinely doesn't care about what happens to me anymore. And I won't be missed by anyone else either. Which I'm sad about, but in the other hand at least I don't have to worry. I mean I couldn't CTB if someone was dependent on me, e.g. elderly relatives, or children. I'm free to leave.

 

[blckfurmutt]

I wonder if there's anything worse than being told you've never been missed by the person you love the most. i told him "i missed you" once about 8 months ago and he said "thank you." after that i never said it again. well today i was crying about how he doesn't want to be with me as much as i want to be with him. and i brought up that time. and he said "i guess something's wrong with me because I've never missed anyone." kind of worse than being told he doesn't love me. i don't know.

at least i know he won't miss me when i ctb soon. i can't believe i worried about how he would feel. bro don't even miss me

he doesn't sound nice at all. i'm sorry, love. could he struggle with empathy? or have a disorder like that. if you both are in a relationship this sounds very uncommon, even with a bad partner. i'm not trying to make excuses for him, but maybe he genuinely cannot feel those types of emotions for people. nonetheless you deserve love for the type of shit you are feeling. nobody deserves to feel alone and unloved like that. sending hugs.

 

[violetforever]

it sounds like he's indirectly telling you to distance yourself from him and that he's not a great person. have you ever heard the saying "when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time"?…

 

[kunikuzushi]

he doesn't sound nice at all. i'm sorry, love. could he struggle with empathy? or have a disorder like that. if you both are in a relationship this sounds very uncommon, even with a bad partner. i'm not trying to make excuses for him, but maybe he genuinely cannot feel those types of emotions for people. nonetheless you deserve love for the type of shit you are feeling. nobody deserves to feel alone and unloved like that. sending hugs.

he's pretty nice and understanding considering i'm an emotional mess and he puts up with all of it. he does struggle with missing people in general, not just me. and he told me he just needs time alone so that he can give me his best when he's with me. i was just having a strong reaction to feeling disappointed that he doesn't want to be with me every second of every day. thank you for your kind words.

it sounds like he's indirectly telling you to distance yourself from him and that he's not a great person. have you ever heard the saying "when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time"?…

i'm not one to judge whether or not someone is a good or bad person. he's not really telling me to distance myself from him because he does enjoy the time we spend together and just wants alone time sometimes because i'm difficult to be around. i am trying to see him for who he really is. and i'm accepting it.

 

[violetforever]

i'm not one to judge whether or not someone is a good or bad person.

you should be for your own well being

 

[kunikuzushi]

you should be for your own well being

huh? you don't even know him, and you're already saying he's not a great person. I've known him for years, and he's treated me with kindness and respect. I was sad because he doesn't feel things as intensely as me, but I'm diagnosed with bpd so I feel things more strongly. it's my fault I presented the relationship and the person in a black and white way. but i don't really think you should tell me that I should judge the person i'm in a relationship with.

 

[violetforever]

I was sad because he doesn't feel things as intensely as me, but I'm diagnosed with bpd so I feel things more strongly. it's my fault I presented the relationship and the person in a black and white way.

that makes sense.

 

[kunikuzushi]

that makes sense.

thank you for understanding. I'm sorry for getting defensive.