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Are you leaving any suicide notes/letters?

  • Yes

    Votes: 37 51.4%
  • No

    Votes: 15 20.8%
  • Haven't decided yet

    Votes: 20 27.8%

  • Total voters
    72
suyasuya

suyasuya

New Member
Jul 27, 2025
2
I'm curious about what notes people are leaving. I'm working on two right now: one that's about logistics and another for my ex (I dumped her because I thought the relationship was abusive and,,, I don't know anymore. I want to provide her some closure and tell her that I love her)

For the logistics I included
  • a brief explanation about why
  • bank accounts
  • burial wishes
  • who gets my belongings
  • wishes re: privacy and communications about my death (I really don't want an obituary to be published)
What about you? Are you leaving any notes/letter behind?
 
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naookoo128

naookoo128

Schmerz den Masochisten
Jul 13, 2025
93
I think I could not go without leaving notes/letters. At least I have to try to explain myself, I hope it will resonate somehow, not only in a bad/disappointed way.
I will try to tell people it´s not their fault (I have the feeling that especially the people who tried to reach out to me the most may say to themselves that its their fault, they should have tried harder and so on) and they have every right to be angry at me for ending myself. Somehow I hope it will make it easier for them.

For the logistic stuff I only add something like in case I will end up in a coma, saying I wish to be not kept alive on machines.
I´m not sure but I think all that stuff will not be legally binding, just so you know! I´m probably very priviliged cause I know my family will make sure everything will be like I want it to be. (I dont have many wishes for a ceremony and so, I dont feel good about that, the only thing that comes to my mind is specific music and that I want to be cremated.)
 
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darksouls

darksouls

Paragon
May 10, 2025
999
no
people treated me like trash
why should I bother to write farewell letters for that scum?
 
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Lyn

Lyn

Momentary
Mar 1, 2025
207
I'm feeling too empty. I just have nothing new to say
 
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xiaoxiongmao

Member
Jun 29, 2025
49
im leaving 2 notes:

(1) to my ex and his friends: "it is absolutely at least partially your fault"
(2) to my friends: "it is absolutely not your fault and I love you"
 
alwayssearching202

alwayssearching202

Member
Dec 6, 2023
79
For those that say yes, how are you dealing with 2FA? I can put my password on a document but no one can access any of my accounts (banking, investments, etc.) without access to additional security measures.
im leaving 2 notes:

(1) to my ex and his friends: "it is absolutely at least partially your fault"
(2) to my friends: "it is absolutely not your fault and I love you"
What did your ex or his friends do that caused you to want to end your life? And was it so horrid you really want to scar them for life? You're probably young in age.

If we're talking even extreme SA, this just seems like an extraordinary amount of power to hand over to some ex. If we're not, and even then, I believe in karma and a you're ending your life at least "partially" based on an ex and his friends? Tell me you aren't under the age of 20 without telling me you're under the age of 20.

For the record I'm obviously extremely pro choose your path. But I would absolutely never do so based on any romantic relationship. If nothing else while I believe we should be able to choose I also belief our choices have lasting impact for many lifetimes to come. If your reason is revenge, I feel very sorry for your next lifetimes.
 
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annxietty

annxietty

“Is there no way out of the mind?”
Mar 27, 2023
165
Ive written SO MANY notes, in notebooks, on my phone, even on my pc... i will hurt some people I would rather not hurt but sadly there is no other way... I also thought about the money (i have little to nothing but is some money) I want it all to my mother, my belongings I dont really care, I dont want to be buried... I guess if i had to choose a place to put my ashes it would be either the town I grew up in and had the closest thing to normalcy and happiness Ive ever had, or where both of my dogs are buried in the country I was born... I dont believe in nothing after death so really they should do whatever they want... they will know why I do what I do, still they never truly knew and will never know just how horrible all this is... Im prepared to leave as a monster.
 
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Polyxo

Polyxo

Ring Ding Dong!
Mar 1, 2025
140
Yeah, Ive made efforts to hide my suffering from my loving family. They deserve to know why.

But the "why" will basically be explained as "I don't want you to understand what it's like to want to die. What I've felt was the presence of a mental illness or an enemy, and it's finally convinced me to go thru with it. The reasons will not make sense to you because they contradict everything that you've lovingly taught me. It's an infection that's injected my brain with delusions for years and now I can't fight it anymore. I'm convinced and I believe."
 
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xiaoxiongmao

Member
Jun 29, 2025
49
For those that say yes, how are you dealing with 2FA? I can put my password on a document but no one can access any of my accounts (banking, investments, etc.) without access to additional security measures.

What did your ex or his friends do that caused you to want to end your life? And was it so horrid you really want to scar them for life? You're probably young in age.

If we're talking even extreme SA, this just seems like an extraordinary amount of power to hand over to some ex. If we're not, and even then, I believe in karma and a you're ending your life at least "partially" based on an ex and his friends? Tell me you aren't under the age of 20 without telling me you're under the age of 20.

For the record I'm obviously extremely pro choose your path. But I would absolutely never do so based on any romantic relationship. If nothing else while I believe we should be able to choose I also belief our choices have lasting impact for many lifetimes to come. If your reason is revenge, I feel very sorry for your next lifetimes.
oh wow, I don't own you an explanation.

But "And was it so horrid you really want to scar them for life?", my goodness, at least they still have a life to be scared. But the truth is: people like them will never feel responsible or guilty, nothing is ever their fault. so you don't need to worry about them.
 
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Dejected 55

Dejected 55

Wizard
May 7, 2025
662
I go back and forth on this. There isn't anyone that i haven't already said all I wanted to say, whether I heard anything back from them or not. So, there's no last words I need to say.

I considered sending a letter so that people will know when I'm gone to come and collect the body, otherwise it could be months before anyone finds me.

I don't know.
 
Nobodi

Nobodi

Student
Sep 24, 2024
111
If I do leave something it'll just be here on sasu. only place I feel comfortable leave it
 
nowherelilies

nowherelilies

i miss you.
Jun 30, 2025
30
For those that say yes, how are you dealing with 2FA? I can put my password on a document but no one can access any of my accounts (banking, investments, etc.) without access to additional security measures.

What did your ex or his friends do that caused you to want to end your life? And was it so horrid you really want to scar them for life? You're probably young in age.

If we're talking even extreme SA, this just seems like an extraordinary amount of power to hand over to some ex. If we're not, and even then, I believe in karma and a you're ending your life at least "partially" based on an ex and his friends? Tell me you aren't under the age of 20 without telling me you're under the age of 20.

For the record I'm obviously extremely pro choose your path. But I would absolutely never do so based on any romantic relationship. If nothing else while I believe we should be able to choose I also belief our choices have lasting impact for many lifetimes to come. If your reason is revenge, I feel very sorry for your next lifetimes.
literally, why are you instilling your beliefs (karma, etc) onto them and why are you even assuming their age just to shit on them?

just because you won't end your life based on any romantic relationship doesn't mean other people have the same mental strength or capacity as you do.

you also said it yourself, you believe our choices have lasting impacts for many lifetimes. then maybe what their ex/friends did also had that same lasting impact on their mental wellbeing that made them decide to commit just to be free from it.
 
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alwayssearching202

alwayssearching202

Member
Dec 6, 2023
79
Ive written SO MANY notes, in notebooks, on my phone, even on my pc... i will hurt some people I would rather not hurt but sadly there is no other way... I also thought about the money (i have little to nothing but is some money) I want it all to my mother, my belongings I dont really care, I dont want to be buried... I guess if i had to choose a place to put my ashes it would be either the town I grew up in and had the closest thing to normalcy and happiness Ive ever had, or where both of my dogs are buried in the country I was born... I dont believe in nothing after death so really they should do whatever they want... they will know why I do what I do, still they never truly knew and will never know just how horrible all this is... Im prepared to leave as a monster.

literally, why are you instilling your beliefs (karma, etc) onto them and why are you even assuming their age just to shit on them?

just because you won't end your life based on any romantic relationship doesn't mean other people have the same mental strength or capacity as you do.

you also said it yourself, you believe our choices have lasting impacts for many lifetimes. then maybe what their ex/friends did also had that same lasting impact on their mental wellbeing that made them decide to commit just to be free from it.
My original post didn't shame anyone for feeling pain. It questioned the reasoning behind making an irreversible decision based on temporary external factors, which is a valid concern—especially in a space like this. Suicide isn't just about pain; it's about context, clarity, and whether the trigger is something that might pass or evolve.

Calling out karma or youth wasn't about superiority—it was about challenging impulsive thinking in a place where life and death are being discussed. If someone is under 20 and planning to die over a breakup, asking them to pause and reconsider isn't "imposing beliefs." It's an attempt to interrupt a fatal moment with perspective, however imperfectly worded.

Yes, we all have different capacities. But if you believe that what someone else did justifies ending one's own life, you're reinforcing the idea that abusers, cheaters, and exes get to decide who lives and dies. That's not strength or empathy—that's surrendering your power.

Pain is real. So is survival. No one said it's easy—but dismissing hard questions as judgment is a disservice to the people here who are on the fence and still searching for a reason to stay.
Ive written SO MANY notes, in notebooks, on my phone, even on my pc... i will hurt some people I would rather not hurt but sadly there is no other way... I also thought about the money (i have little to nothing but is some money) I want it all to my mother, my belongings I dont really care, I dont want to be buried... I guess if i had to choose a place to put my ashes it would be either the town I grew up in and had the closest thing to normalcy and happiness Ive ever had, or where both of my dogs are buried in the country I was born... I dont believe in nothing after death so really they should do whatever they want... they will know why I do what I do, still they never truly knew and will never know just how horrible all this is... Im prepared to leave as a monster.

literally, why are you instilling your beliefs (karma, etc) onto them and why are you even assuming their age just to shit on them?

just because you won't end your life based on any romantic relationship doesn't mean other people have the same mental strength or capacity as you do.

you also said it yourself, you believe our choices have lasting impacts for many lifetimes. then maybe what their ex/friends did also had that same lasting impact on their mental wellbeing that made them decide to commit just to be free from it.
My original post didn't shame anyone for feeling pain. It questioned the reasoning behind making an irreversible decision based on temporary external factors, which is a valid concern—especially in a space like this. Suicide isn't just about pain; it's about context, clarity, and whether the trigger is something that might pass or evolve.

Calling out karma or youth wasn't about superiority—it was about challenging impulsive thinking in a place where life and death are being discussed. If someone is under 20 and planning to die over a breakup, asking them to pause and reconsider isn't "imposing beliefs." It's an attempt to interrupt a fatal moment with perspective, however imperfectly worded.

Yes, we all have different capacities. But if you believe that what someone else did justifies ending one's own life, you're reinforcing the idea that abusers, cheaters, and exes get to decide who lives and dies. That's not strength or empathy—that's surrendering your power.

Pain is real. So is survival. No one said it's easy—but dismissing hard questions as judgment is a disservice to the people here who are on the fence and still searching for a reason to stay.
oh wow, I don't own you an explanation.

But "And was it so horrid you really want to scar them for life?", my goodness, at least they still have a life to be scared. But the truth is: people like them will never feel responsible or guilty, nothing is ever their fault. so you don't need to worry about them.
So, in other words you avoided every question I asked. I wish you the best.
 
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Foxcompany2nd3rd

Member
Jul 24, 2025
43
Im autistic and that comes with being extremely impulsive, so I tend to do things on a whim. But in an ideal situation I do plan on leaving a note. My handwriting has not improved since childhood because of my autism; my writing still looks like it was written by a 1st grader. I plan on writing my last notes on my computer then transferring them onto two usb thumb drives in case one is faulty, then putting them in a zip lock bag and stuffing it in my pocket. I will also leave a short video note on the thumb drives to authenticate and verify my will. I will likely do a full suspension outside somewhere sometime in the winter, so my body does not rot and cause troubles for anyone.

I think I owe it to some poor soul that finds my body to know why I ended up like this. I will write the reason I ended up like this and I will leave a will for my property to someone I love.
 
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contentedlyplanning

Member
Jul 26, 2025
10
Recently as part of group therapy (ironically), I wrote a general letter to the people in my life thanking them for everything they've given me, all their love, support, kindness, generosity. I plan to leave that note as my "goodbye." I also plan to compile a list of bank information, online logins, etc to ease the process of sorting all that out. I thought about individual letters but I don't even know what to say to feel like it's meaningful enough, and I'm worried I'll forget someone important.
 
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Sergeant45

Sergeant45

Student
Jun 11, 2025
150
Only a few short ones. Two digital ones and one physical.

The two digital ones will go out to two people I know so they don't wonder where I went (after I am dead, they'll be scheduled), the physical one I'll leave in my bag or pocket next to my id, to let whoever finds me know what I did, who I am, and making returning my corpse to the right place easier and faster.

There were signs for everything, no need to write a lengthy letter of my experience for me personally. I have no one that I love to comfort with a lengthy note.
 
-nobodyknows-

-nobodyknows-

I will face my fate.
Jun 16, 2024
753
Probably not.

I used to, when I attempted in the past. Only caused problems when I survived.
 
usernamesarehard

usernamesarehard

Life sucks and then you die
Dec 22, 2021
236
Yeah, I found a thread here about what to write to make the lives of the people who have to deal with your death easier and I'm following that.
 
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Aloneandinpain

Specialist
Dec 25, 2023
321
No, I'm too tired. In fact I wouldn't even leave one if I did have the energy, so that's no twice over.
 
usernamesarehard

usernamesarehard

Life sucks and then you die
Dec 22, 2021
236
Well, feel free to share that 😄
Your wish is my command!

 
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heliophobic

heliophobic

Memento Mori
Jan 29, 2024
115
For those that say yes, how are you dealing with 2FA? I can put my password on a document but no one can access any of my accounts (banking, investments, etc.) without access to additional security measures.

What did your ex or his friends do that caused you to want to end your life? And was it so horrid you really want to scar them for life? You're probably young in age.

If we're talking even extreme SA, this just seems like an extraordinary amount of power to hand over to some ex. If we're not, and even then, I believe in karma and a you're ending your life at least "partially" based on an ex and his friends? Tell me you aren't under the age of 20 without telling me you're under the age of 20.

For the record I'm obviously extremely pro choose your path. But I would absolutely never do so based on any romantic relationship. If nothing else while I believe we should be able to choose I also belief our choices have lasting impact for many lifetimes to come. If your reason is revenge, I feel very sorry for your next lifetimes.
I actually agree with you. I'm in my 40s and have had horrible breakups, been the victim of DA, SA, enough things that I stopped dating 10 and a half years ago but there was never a point, even in my gloomier, s.h.-ing teen years where I could have written a note and placed blame on a person. But I'm also someone that has always been way too sensitive and I've also beaten myself up for my best friend's suicide 25 years ago. Convinced I missed some sign or something in a conversation we had... because he didn't leave a note. I can only guess. Suicide isn't a game. I'm not saying that in a way where I'm pro-life and trying to talk anyone out of anything. I say it in a way where if anyone thinks that ctb grants them the opportunity to make people regret ever hurting you, dumping you, giving birth to you, insert whatever stupid thing here, I feel terrible for everyone left behind in that situation. I usually take the stance that suicide isn't selfish, but THAT? That's selfish. I'd rather leave no note than to leave a note that could lead to more suicides in its wake. I'm reminded of a scene in the movie "Wristcutters: A Love Story": Some of the characters are playing a game of sorts where they're guessing how each other ctb. It goes to a flashback of how one of the girls died and it shows her note, just a sheet of paper on a countertop that says "Are you sorry now?"
 
Hellis

Hellis

Scared into Recovery
Jul 25, 2025
30
Every attempt I had did not include a letter. I'm usually tunnel visioning on the whole death thing and it doesn't come to mind before or during.
 
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amerie

amerie

style="color: rgb(255, 0, 208);" dirty water in my cup ⋆˚꩜。.° ༘🎧⋆🖇₊˚ෆ
Oct 6, 2024
366
im an expressive and dramatic person (heh, wonder where that came from🇵🇭) so im not going to just drop a suicide note, but probably a cinematic film about my life and my reasons why as well. Hannah Baker style I guess.

I plan on dying in a place in my life where I feel successful enough and am finally at peace, I don't want to do it impulsively but I also know that deep down I will never find fulfillment in this world that wasn't made for me.
 
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33K1LLM3

33K1LLM3

Pretty Girl, Sick Mind
Jun 28, 2025
117
I never got the chance for my voice to be heard, so my suicide note will be that. There's the other things like my will, a few wishes, a few emails, a scrapbook, and just a few other things. Trying to make sure that my death cannot be exploited by the wrong people, cause I know what they'll do.
 
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bonnieps>

bonnieps>

Member
Apr 6, 2025
16
Yes I will write 5 letters. Mom,dad,sister,brother, and my one and only friend. My parents will be forced to feel the blame.
 
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monetpompo

monetpompo

૮ • ﻌ - ა
Apr 21, 2025
312
it's been very very difficult for me to write suicide notes i'm happy with. i also think that sending/scheduling them puts a ticking clock in my head that stresses me out because if i send them then i need to commit suicide quick quick quick instead of procrastinating and doing whatever. i have a few posts about how much i hate rewriting my notes because i get so anxious that it'll be taken the wrong way. i'm still debating writing a note to my family because i don't know if they'll even care what i have to say. i want to kill myself because of the way my mom treats me and how she's totally ruined my life by making me dependent on her, but i'm worried that even my suicide won't get through to her. she just fills me with so much spite. i just want to put "MY MOTHER TOLD ME TO KILL MYSELF" in big block letters on a sheet of paper. my family doesn't need a real note because they're just going to hold it against me.

it's so silly, but i just hate her so much that it makes me not want to write any note because she makes me feel so unimportant. my insides feel all twisted when i think about what to write in a note that'll make people care about what i have to say. i feel so annoyed by how it's so hard for me to feel like i matter to anyone that i think receiving a suicide note from me will just bother them. i'll think that they just wanted to never hear from me again instead. i'll most likely die on a random day just because i can never stick to my planned dates. it only disappoints me when i stay alive past them.
 
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WhatCouldHaveBeen32

(O__O)==>(X__X)
Oct 12, 2024
347
You have 3 days to burn my body before the curse spreads to you; the timer started when I died, good luck. (obviously I can't curse people, the joke is , it would take much more than 3 days for my family to find my body; so in theory they'd instantly be cursed if such things existed, alas we don't have curses:( )





i want to kill myself because of the way my mom treats me and how she's totally ruined my life by making me dependent on her, but i'm worried that even my suicide won't get through to her. she just fills me with so much spite. i just want to put "MY MOTHER TOLD ME TO KILL MYSELF" in big block letters on a sheet of paper. my family doesn't need a real note because they're just going to hold it against me.
I understand your pain. 🫂
 
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cciro

cciro

girl (in development)
May 16, 2025
19
One for my friends, set as an auto-reply type thing so I don't bother anyone who doesn't care enough to message me.
 
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Preh1storic_Rib

Preh1storic_Rib

How do I return this joy?
Aug 22, 2024
54
I have a few never used ones from when I was younger, but I'd say my style for them now is pretty different.

My current one is a short thing mostly saying this was a while coming and a handful of logistics documents as follows:

- instructions for if my method fails but I haven't helped myself by the time I'm found (both in the physically can't sense and me just being in emotional shock)
- list of actions to take based on various mental states (my sister will likely be the one to find me and shuts down without instruction during stressful situations)
- work, rent, insurance, therapy, credit, etc. information
- where to take any extra food in my fridge
- my reccomendations for rehoming my cats + extra notes to help them settle in
- small list of things some people might want in particular
- my preferred cremation method + a note confirming no hard feelings if not followed

At this point, I hope the effort I put into it all conveys more than I could ever hope to in words. There's never enough to explain an entire existance, or the whys, so I've stopped trying mostly.
My old notes were mostly me lashing out in a way, I was angry because I knew my mom would internalize my words and actions in a way I wouldn't like. I wanted to be understood, but didn't know how to convey myself in a way that would be heard. It came across pretty clearly in the tone I think
This way is less raw maybe, but it's for me now instead of justifying my actions to someone else. And I'm much more satisfied because of it.
 
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