Discussion are you content being / feeling alone? (poll)

[cogmachine]

why / why not? whenever i get a fleeting wish to communicate with new people i get a painful reminder of why i gave up in the first place, as well as getting attached is painful because of suicidal ideation.

 

[assisted]

NO
I FEEL TERRIBLE
I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT HELP FROM OTHERS
I CAN'T DIE WITHOUT HELP FROM OTHERS
OTHERS HATE ME BECAUSE I'M DIFFERENT
I CAN'T STAND IT ANYMORE

 

[HopelessAngel]

No. I'm fairly introverted, socially awkward, and have trouble fitting in with people, but I really don't like being completely alone. It just leaves this empty, gnawing feeling in my soul.

 

[absolomonisgone]

I honestly hate people. All people. Taken me many years to accept this about me. So happy staying alone. Nothing bad about being like that. Tried to be like people so that I be "normal" good person work hard with people I hate to be a winner with nice job many babies show off etc. No it refused me so happy hate people and is ok that way

 

[OutOfTheVoid]

no, feeling alone hurts. im content being alone irl and i like to have space to myself, but i feel a need for some form of connection (main reason im on this site really). i relate though, getting attached is painful too. i get very attached to people very easily but then i get anxious because i have a fear of abandonment and often end up feeling even more lonely and depressed. im just willing to take that risk because feeling completely alone hurts more than anything else. and feeling close to someone is one of the only real joys i get.

 

[Sulyya]

Hell yes I'm content being alone, I crave it more than any other thing. No one in my life is (very) toxic yet people are one of the sources of my misery because I'm exhausted being around them all the time and participating in everything. My friend circle is three close people, one or two friend/acquaintances and then family. That is enough to drain me almost every day. I really gotta learn to say no to people and hermit down more.

 

[mondo9k]

I have Borderline Personality Disorder. The first book written about that was "I hate you, don't leave me". We have a fear of abandonment and being alone, yet we self-sabotage by pushing literally everyone away. And we can't understand why we want togetherness with someone but at the same time destroy any chance of anyone wanting to be with us. It's rooted in childhood experience such as we were abandoned by a parent (which I was, left by my father) so we're terrified that any new relationship will result in us being abandoned again.

 

[WaitingToGo]

No, I absolutely hate being alone. I was with my partner for over 30 years and we did absolutely everything together. We had the same interests, we were both Scorpios, we were like siamese twins and loved each other dearly. The grief of her passing and the loneliness are why I'm in this mess and here on SaSu.

 

[Notforlong]

I've isolated myself big time over the last 5 years. I decline all offers from friends to do things and completely stopped dating after my last relationship. It does get lonely sometimes but I've got used to it and it doesn't bug me anymore.

 

[downndone2]

I've isolated myself but time over the last 5 years. I decline all offers from friends to do things and completely stopped dating after my last relationship. It does get lonely sometimes but I've got used to it and it doesn't bug me anymore.

I do nothing but isolate, I'm like a damn hermit. Never go anywhere or do anything. I hate it though

I

 

[Octavia]

I do feel lonely most of the time, but due to the uncertainty of my lifespan I believe that it is best to avoid getting attached with other people.

 

[TempLoveSlvt]

For me, I constantly yearn to build connections, establish friendships and create long-lasting relationships. But I live in constant fear of rejection or social awkwardness. I pray that one day I will meet someone I'll be content on spending the rest of my long or short life with, but the likelihood of that happening is close to impossible. My ideal lifestyle would be to surround myself with people I trust enough that I'm always with them so that I would never have to be alone.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes- I'm actually far more comfortable being alone than being aound other people. It's not to say I never struggle but I'm used to it- I've lived alone for over 20 years.

I have had close friends in the past but they all have their own lives now and I barely even talk to them. I don't really trust relationships/friendships anymore. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have more connections but then, I remember the pain of loosing them. Plus, I have social anxiety, so- that meeting people to begin with is so scary.

 

[EternalOblivion]

It's complicated I guess. I'm OK with being by myself for extended periods of time. The only time I feel discomfort is when I'm surrounded by others. It's in those moments that I perceive myself as defective because everyone seems to thrive socially in a way that I never could. I do love being alone—but I can't stand feeling lonely while surrounded by people.

 

[Sparr0w]

yes and no at the same time?
i really want a partner (QPR/sexual, not romantic), a best friend, someone who i can tell anything and everything and value above everyone else.
...that being said, i have friends, and yet i often prefer just to be by myself. people are tiring. hanging out with people is tiring. i don't like feeling like i'm talking too much or too little or not Being A Normal Human Being enough.
so... i dont like feeling alone but i like being alone, i guess?

 

[LocalAngel]

No, i'm not. But i know that logically it's for the best. I feel a deep, empty void without someone to hold in my life- yet that isn't living for me. That's just sustaining. Living, for me, would be being able to love myself for me, and that just isn't going to fucking happen in at least a decade.

 

[outrider567]

No

 

[imcadt99]

I like to pretend that I'm content without human interaction, but it is undoubtedly gnawing away at me. People like to mock and berate those whom lack human interaction so perhaps it is just a subconscious coping mechanism. Regardless I will continue to keep up this facade, even in my final message to loved ones. I will not encourage others to look down upon me.

 

[Georg]

Being alone is terrible,
Being around normal people is terrible too.

 

[hopelessdreams]

at first i was content being alone. but now that i've had a peek at how it can feel to be truly appreciated by people and being included im
not content with being alone anymore. however,
i have to get back to the being alone mindset, since i can't afford to be close to someone while having suicidal ideation; i don't want to hurt anyone anymore.

 

[Fwompje]

I'm content with feeling alone because I know nobody would ever care enough about me. They will never know and understand how I feel so any type of deep relationship is useless. I have one friend and talk to people on here and that's enough for me. I would've loved to have a large friend group and a loving family but it would all be a lie of performative caring anyways.

 

[puppet_nihilist]

If I take my emotions into account then no. It makes me suffer immensely and it fills me with dread and feelings of rejection.

But if I think about it rationally, being alone is better for me because I'm practically a social failure. I don't understand people and they don't understand me as well and I don't understand why I act the way I do when I'm around people. Being alone has its advantages when you're always the person suffering the most during any social gathering. I just wish I could get used to the pain of being alone. Damned if I am around people, damned if I'm alone.

 

[FuneralCry]

I could never feel content as long as I exist in this cruel world, but I would certainly rather be alone than be around other people. Being around others can be tiring, you cannot trust and rely on them, and other people can potentially be very cruel and just create more suffering.

 

[LunaXCBN]

I'm fine with being alone, but having friends would be a nice change of pace.

 

[BBBB]

NO!

 

[wrenwolfe]

i actually really love being alone. i love having my own time to myself to relax and enjoy myself, away from the responsibilities of others. of course, i like being with people, but sometimes i'd rather be alone, and sometimes being around people makes me extremely irritated and drained. i like being alone, its peaceful

 

[AnnonyBox]

I typically don't mind it, but I do occasionally get lonely. When I do get lonely I remind myself that it's a lesser pain that being abandoned or stabbed in the back yet again by someone. Human beings are selfish by nature. I can't blame people for their behavior anymore, but I can avoid them.

 

[alonely]

for a long time, i thought that all i wanted wad to be completely alone. now thar i have achieved it, loneliness is absolute hell. what i really wanted was to be away from the countless people who were abusive, uncaring, narcisitic, etc. but i want love and caring and friendship. so, no.

 

[deomlez]

I honestly hate people. All people. Taken me many years to accept this about me. So happy staying alone. Nothing bad about being like that. Tried to be like people so that I be "normal" good person work hard with people I hate to be a winner with nice job many babies show off etc. No it refused me so happy hate people and is ok that way

Same for me. I have lost myself to be like others, for what ?
Be lonely is the best time i can have.
Even if i am.my own ennemy too.

 

[FormerlyFe(IV)]

I have gone through periods of isolation. First a whole year during COVID in 2021, then some months at the beginning of this year.

Am I content? No, not really. But I usually either feel depressed or more often just numb. If money was no problem, I could probably live aimlessly in front of a computer, alone, wasting my existence with YouTube, porn, and a cycling of a few live service video games, of which I play until exhaustion and then move onto the next ad nauseum.

It's not a fulfilling or happy life. I know because I have been happy before. But it's a simple life that avoids stress to a maximum. No need to go out of the comfort zone if I play the same few games, watch the same content on YouTube, eat the same food every day.

It works, kinda. I don't want to fall in that same hole again. And I feel like I'm going to. And in that hole, there is no motivation, or perceived need, to claw right out.

Help.