Venting Anyone else afraid of the chat?

[patheticparasite]

Social anxiety is a bitch.

 

[Nothing Left]

No. I just assume that if I attempted to engage in the chat at all, I'd be ignored, like in every other aspect of my life.

 

[darkmango]

Where is the chat?

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

I tried chat but I just use it if i have to vent something quickly and get out cause it's too fast for me.

 

[psp3000]

I feel like it's not worth joining in on because what if there's an established group or clique or something so then if you join in you're ignored or you feel like you're interrupting something

 

[patheticparasite]

Where is the chat?

I think it appeared once I had 30 or 40 posts.

Rules and FAQ:

The permissions to create a thread, send and receive PMs, and use the chatroom will be granted automatically after you post a certain secret number of times and are active for at least 24 hours. This is to avoid spam and abuse of accounts.

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

As someone said, I feel like the chat is quite odd to talk into? I don't really like non structured discussions , there is a lot of context missing and I feel like I'm being nosey if I were to start talking and then what if I don't have anything important to say? and just appear there ....waiting and watching... am I stalker at that point? at least that's how it feels to me. So I never use it.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I tried to avoid opening up the chat for a long time since the idea of interacting with others on it scared me. Now I just don't use it because it just doesn't intrigue me that much.

 

[bleeding_heart_show]

Real time messaging is beyond my abilities.

 

[Dejected 55]

I don't really like being in crowds, and a chat room with a lot of people is almost the same as being in a crowd. Too many people talking, too many people in general, and the feeling of not belonging is always there for me. I have been in the chat some as a lurker, but only spoke recently. I feel like I kind of derailed and depressed the room, which is an accomplishment in a room of depressed people. They seem to have more fun when I wasn't talking.

 

[wham311]

I don't really like being in crowds, and a chat room with a lot of people is almost the same as being in a crowd. Too many people talking, too many people in general, and the feeling of not belonging is always there for me. I have been in the chat some as a lurker, but only spoke recently. I feel like I kind of derailed and depressed the room, which is an accomplishment in a room of depressed people. They seem to have more fun when I wasn't talking.

I feel like a lot of people here aren't depressed. Don't know how people can have fun while being actively depressed

 

[Dejected 55]

I feel like a lot of people here aren't depressed. Don't know how people can have fun while being actively depressed

I'm not miserable 100% of the time... but I get what you are saying. Everyone reacts differently to their own depression though. Sometimes I will find something funny and laugh despite my misery, then I realize I was laughing and get more depressed later.

 

[wham311]

I'm not miserable 100% of the time... but I get what you are saying. Everyone reacts differently to their own depression though. Sometimes I will find something funny and laugh despite my misery, then I realize I was laughing and get more depressed later.

I know exactly what you mean. You get distracted from the depression and then are reminded of your situation

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

I feel like a lot of people here aren't depressed. Don't know how people can have fun while being actively depressed

Depression is not a yes/no thing. It may have a medical threshold for what is clinical depression, but otherwise, I think it's a range that goes roughly from "sometimes I feel bad about everything" to "I cannot feel anything but dread"

I mean, the brain is organic, it's always going to work with approximations rather than certainties.

 

[wham311]

Depression is not a yes/no thing. It may have a medical threshold for what is clinical depression, but otherwise, I think it's a range that goes roughly from "sometimes I feel bad about everything" to "I cannot feel anything but dread"

I mean, the brain is organic, it's always going to work with approximations rather than certainties.

I guess it's different for everybody.

 

[EternalShore]

No. I just assume that if I attempted to engage in the chat at all, I'd be ignored, like in every other aspect of my life.

I'm sorry you feel that way about your life~ :( I and many others here feel lonely quite often too~ >_<
Unfortunately, it actually feels a lot like that when I've tried myself~ >_< I can't keep up quickly enough unless I just stare at it constantly, which gets kind-of boring unless I'm a passenger on a road trip~ therefore, unless it's literally dead, my experience with it tends to be a lot of saying one thing, forgetting about it for 10 minutes, then saying another thing~ >_< plus, when there's a lot of people there, it feels a lot like its own clique~ 'tis why I stick to the forum generally where it's slower-paced generally or dm's where it's the same place~ :)

 

[Pluto]

 

[badkarma4618]

oh! nothing to be afraid of! the chat gremlins are usually super chill and weirdly wholesome. dont be scared, young padawan… come to the dark side!! we have memes and emotionally unhinged trauma dumping ! >:)

 

[enduringwinter]

I'm ngl everytime I open it the convos are dumb and deeply uninteresting. Average groupchat experience

 

[FoxSauce]

Y
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S

 

[hikaru13]

where's the chat?

 

[amerie]

I rarely have convos with strangers in chatrooms anymore, mainly because it was easier during 2018-2020 but I feel like people are kind of touching grass now and have no energy to maintain a relationship with someone states (or even countries away.)

I find a lot of people in chatrooms to be edgy and angry at the world in a gooner discord mod way that becomes more disgusting the older I get (not everyone ofc, and perhaps you could say everyone on this site is like that) , and I also hate how sometimes chatrooms or servers form cliques and get pissed at you for speaking or ignore you when it's a literal public chatroom lmao.

 

[FoxSauce]

where's the chat?

in the right corner theres a lighting and a speech bubble and a search thing.

Basically the speech bubble

 

[derpyderpins]

Chat is like real world group conversations where I always feel behind. "I saw a message I want to respond to I'll just type up my response ... And they've changed subjects." I feel like you have to be ready to be there very often to make connections that way but on threads sometimes it only takes one heartfelt exchange

 

[encore]

it's pretty fun if you always expect to be ignored lol

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

it's pretty fun if you always expect to be ignored lol

Well in that case life should be exhilarating.

 

[wham311]

Well in that case life should be exhilarating.

You funny Mr Bear

 

[iamanavalanche]

i love chat. dont know what id do without it ^^

 

[25dRvS9Ka]

I think ideas and tips are more likely to be dismissed and disregarded. When it comes to depression and suicide issues, communication needs to be elaborate, legible and laconic at the same time.

There is no way to do that in a chat.

 

[hikaru13]

im probably just infected with stupidity syndrome bcs i honestly couldnt see it

in the right corner theres a lighting and a speech bubble and a search thing.

Basically the speech bubble

Is it that one?