Advice needed

[Parnate]

Well as I told few months ago my sister is pregnant with twins. She will deliver most likely at the end of this month. I got better somewhat in between but lately have been suicidal again. I was thinking ctbing in early September once she has delivered the kids. This is going to affect her a lot but will it affect a newborn in some manner, indirectly ? I don't want to cause them any discomfort or issues in any way. i have no idea about all this.
Also my sister is very strong person so that is there as well.

 

[boingo]

Honestly it will likely affect her ability to look after them because of grief, and with twins it's even harder than just one baby.

 

[CatLvr]

The closer your death is to the birth of her children the harder it will be for her to separate any thoughts of her children with her thoughts of you and your passing. IMHO, of course.

I am someone who had been trained from a VERY early age to always put others before myself so I might not be the most objective person to advise you here.

Finally, I hope you find a solution you can be happy with and does not add to your pain.

 

[Voyage]

Almost definitely.

Can't think of anything specific to this off the top of my head, but newborns are extremely fickle beings.

If the mother is griefing, the twins may get inadequate emotional care (might affect the development pf empathy, not sure).

Or, if she relies on them for emtional support, boundaries may not be properly established when they're school age, meaning the children are enmeshed with the parent and cannot individuate, leading to cluster A or psychosis possibly.

Or, they may feel obligated to take care of the parent emotionally, in a process called "parentification", which is essentially losing childhood and the kid would have issues with bonding with peers of the same age, and when they become adults, they tend to take care of partners but also have a deep desire to be taken care of that they're not consciously aware of (complicates romantic relationshis), and feel the need to sacrifice oneself to help others (actually not healthy and exploitable).

Tldr a number of things can go wrong.